This show is designed to support, educate and inspire women who are committed to consciously creating their life!
I am a Self-Love advocate so every show will hook into what it means to love yourself. Sometimes I will lead a live group meditation to support your Spiritual practice. Sometimes I will interview another Self-Love Ambassador on their topic of expertise - from men to money to meditation! Sometimes I will speak on a subject that will enhance your personal and spiritual growth.
This is a chance to truly set yourself up for success by joining the high vibration of a community of truth seekers on the path to living their most audaciously Daring & Mighty life!
7 STEPS TO CALLING IN YOUR DESIRES
Today I want to help you to get what you want for the year ahead. An entire month has already passed us by....so let's make the next eleven really count!
Self-Love invites you to be honest about what you desire and to allow yourself to receive it. If you do not love yourself enough to go for your heart’s highest hopes, then life feels soul destroying because you are ignoring the whispers of your Sprit.
You must learn how to go after what you want, and that is a huge part of the transformational coaching work I am doing with women. You must love yourself enough to overcome all fear, self doubt and self criticism so that you may enjoy living a life that you are crazy proud of.
I recorded a 30 minute training on this topic today and thought you might like to check it out.
In the training I share a 7-step process to calling in your desires and share specific, tangible ways I have used this process with huge success.
A 7 STEP PROCESS TO CALLING IN YOUR DESIRES
This is what was covered on the free training (plus lots more!) ....
1. Declare your desire - write it in your journal and consider sharing it with people that support you
2. Tune in to how you will feel when you have received that desire - that’s the feeling you must create for yourself every day
3. With that feeling in mind answer these questions :
1. How would you behave?
2. What would you spend time on?
3. Who would you spend time with?
4. How would you spend your money?
5. What decisions would you make?
4. Make a note of what resistance or negative beliefs or uncomfortable feelings that come up for you when you answer the questions above - that’s the work, that is what needs to be healed and transformed
5. Commit to transformational living - do the daily work of moving from fear to love, healing the self sabotaging beliefs and behaviours you identified above (I can help with that!)
6. Surrender - release attachment to getting the desire. Your desire is looking for you too so you can relax and allow it to come
7. Keep the faith - trust that life is designed to support you
All sorts of juicy nuggets of wisdom were shared in yesterday’s Live Teaching around the above so please do check it out. It’s only 30 minutes and it will set you up for real, tangible success in calling in your 2019 desires.
Founder of The School of Self Love
How to use Self-Love for a successful year!
Please join me for a gentle conversation on what self-love is and how you can get more out of your year by applying it.
How To Trust Yourself
A live teaching from the Founder of 'The School of Self Love' and author of 'The Self Love Affair' on why we don't trust ourselves and how to start trusting yourself.
> WHY WE DON’T TRUST
From a young age we give meaning to our experiences and largely we make a decision whether something or someone makes us feel safe because our primal instinct is to survive. That decision then guides our life as we navigate people and opportunities that come our way. That one decision made at a tender young age can have us miss out on incredible life experiences and relationships because we made a decision years ago that it would be unsafe or risky to go there.
For example, if we say what we really think and someone criticises us or shames us or laughs at us, that doesn’t feel good. So, it would be easy to make that mean that it’s not safe to speak our truth. And so we don’t trust ourselves to say what we really think because that feels dangerous and unsafe in some way. Over time we forget how to speak up. We are not allowing ourselves to build evidence to the contrary – that actually it is safe to speak your truth. That often when you do you can positively affect someone else’s life or inspire them or help them. Your voice can create a ripple effect or even a tidal wave of positive change. But you decided it’s not safe all those years ago and so you have not trusted your voice and missed out on so much. So has the world because your voice really does matter. That said, in some parts of the world and in some environments it is almost fact that it’s not safe to speak your truth – I get it. And yet, throughout history there are examples of people speaking up even when their life was in actual danger and they did it because despite the external danger, they trusted their message was true and important enough to risk everything for the sake of a bigger cause. The Suffragettes and Nelson Mandela immediately spring to my mind.
I remember when I was about 8 I wasn’t doing well at maths. I had a mean teacher who would single me out and make me stand up in front of the class and say my times table out loud and I couldn’t. I felt terrible shame and humiliation. I made it mean that it was painful and scary to stand up and speak in front of a group. It took me years and years to come out of my shell and be able to speak in front of an audience with confidence.
I remember I was in a dance group at school when I was about 11. A few of us gathered together to practice in the dance studio at lunch time. At one point I was in there alone and I started to freestyle dance and I felt amazing. Totally free, uninhibited and alive. I just went for it. And then I heard giggling. Some girls were spying on me from a window and I had no idea. I felt deep shame and embarrassment From that moment onwards I made the decision that it wasn’t safe to express myself physically. For years and years I was self conscious in my body. As I grew into my teen years, I was nervous on a dance floor – uptight and rigid. It was horrible. In the last 10 years I have started to loosen up. I am far more free and I love to express my body and feel safe in it.
I spent most of my life not trusting men. When I was about 7 my Dad left us for about 6 months. He went to live with another woman. Witnessing my Mum’s devastation and feeling responsible for her and my little sister had me make it mean that men cannot be trusted to stick around – that they will let you down and hurt you. That belief affected all of my relationships with men going forward. It even affected my relationships with women because I had experienced what I perceived to be another woman taking my Dad away from our family. I made that mean that women hurt other women because that woman hurt my Mum so deeply. Building trust with men was a long piece of work for me. I healed in stages and layers and then I met my man and married him last year. I have never trusted a man so deeply
A Tool For Ever Expanding Success
If you have been following the ‘Self Love Affair’ teachings for the past 19 weeks….I just want to say, I am SO proud of you!
We have journeyed deep to discover the Truth of who you are. This isn’t a journey for the faint of heart. It takes a brave warrior determined to say,“NO MORE!”to anything that no longer serves her.
As a woman who has chosen to be masterful in all areas of her life, to love all parts of herself and honour her deepest desires, you are now a shining light that will inspire others to follow your lead.
Your personal transformation will have a far reaching impact on the rest of the world. THANK-YOU for doing that. The world needs it!
This new way of doing life will take commitment, practice and persistence before it becomes second nature, and I encourage you be kind to yourself as you learn to walk again – this time in your truth, your power and with love.
So, as the final note in this series, here are some tips to support you going forward:
1. STAY SUPPORTED
As a warrior of self-love, I urge you to keep exploring. I’m not a one-stop-shop – there are others out there with different perspectives, ideas and experiences. Indulge in your transformation and enjoy proving the truth that you are loving, loved and loveable!
I’d encourage you to join groups of people who are passionate about being the best they can be. If you haven’t done so already, you may like to join my private Facebook Group – The Self-Love Hub– to experience the power of masterminding.
And, don’t forget that The School of Self Love has a variety of courses to support you – from home-study, to group coaching to private coaching support. CLICK HERE to see what’s on offer.
2. WRITE IT OUT!
Your journal is your new best friend. It’s important to talk to friends, but no one wants to be your journal! That’s exhausting.
I have three journals: a daily Gratitude journal, a Success and Miracles journal to witness and celebrate my growth, and an Expression, Clarity and Connection journal to dump my thoughts and express my feelings so I can hear the voice of my Spirit more clearly.
3. CULTIVATE A SPIRITUAL PRACTICE
A spiritual practice means simply spending time with you.
Like any relationship, your relationship with yourself requires time, attention and energy. If you value it, create time for it!
When you wake up each morning, ask yourself, “How can I love myself today?” Then listen for the answer. You might like to journal, meditate, take a walk, enjoy a candle-lit bath, paint… the possibilities are endless!
The last thing I want to leave you with, is this:
Self-love is self-responsibility.
It’s up to you to maintain and deepen your transformation. You know who you are, and it’s your time to shine.
The recording of my final Facebook Live training from this series is here for you to enjoy in your own time.
Trust yourself now and go and BE that woman you were put on this stunning planet to be.
Founder of The School of Self Love
P.S.I am speaking with women who are serious about creating deep transformation in their lives. You may apply for a call with me to explore if Private Coaching is the right next move for you by clicking HERE.
How To Get What You Want
Manifesting is in your nature – in fact, you’ve been doing it your whole life. All that’s needed now is to consciously choose what you’re manifesting.
We humans are energetic beings, vibrating at various frequencies. (If that sounds weird, I’d encourage you to read it from a place of Truth, instead of figuring it out with your mind).
When we feel sad or flat, our frequency is low. Fear and shame are the lowest vibrations. Our frequency is high when we are bright and bubbly. Love is the highest vibration. And, as I’m sure you know, like attracts like.
So the secret is to align yourself with the frequency of your desires.
Here we go!
STEP 1: RAISE YOUR VIBRATION
Do what makes you feel GOOD. Have fun! Play! Laugh! Let your inner child free! I recommend scheduling in time to have fun, and even committing to it for 30 days! Make a commitment to being grateful. Write at least 5 things you are grateful for every day. It will help you switch from feeling like a victim to feeling abundant! Use affirmations – a tool to master your mind and your mouth! When you notice beliefs that aren’t serving you, write them down. Then create an affirmation as a new belief to replace each one.
STEP 2: MANIFEST
Take responsibility for your thoughts – regularly check in and choose thoughts that serve your vision. Get crystal clear on your vision – create and rehearse your vision in a way that lights you up. Write it as a story or make a vision board of images! Take action as if your vision is already becoming a reality. BE the woman who is living it now. Surrender. Allow the Universe to do her thing, knowing you have done your best and that’s enough. Trust the creation process.
STEP 3: DAYDREAM
Spend some time daydreaming about one thing you deeply desire. What does it feel like to already have it? For example, if you desire a new relationship, see yourself with the man and imagine what you would be doing and saying and feeling.
Go deeper into it. See it more clearly. And then go even DEEPER. (I love getting lost in daydreams when I’m in the steam room and it’s crazy how they start to become my reality!)
STEP 4: VISUALISE
This is similar to daydreaming. However, I encourage you to commit to a daily ritual of consciously intending your desires.
Write a snapshot of your vision first, so you have a clear image in your mind. Then really FEEL yourself there. Use your imagination to engage all your senses. By the end, you should be bouncing off the walls with excitement for what’s already yours!
STEP 5: MEDITATE
Meditation helps you connect with your source and experience the bliss of nothing. That stillness is a glimpse of the truth that you and the Universe are one. From this truth, you’ll be empowered to naturally manifest your desires. You know you are a creator.
I encourage you to choose a meditation style and technique that feels good for you, and do it as often as possible!
Darling, miracles are coming your way. All you need do is be available to receive your birthright!
I am SO excited for you!
Founder of The School of Self Love
P.S. I am speaking with women who are serious about creating deep transformation in their lives. To discover which of our coaching programmes would best suit you, CLICK HERE.
Everything you are meant for in this lifetime is guided by your desires.
Isn’t that wonderful?
Your desires are your Spirit telling you how to express yourself and enjoy this lifetime.
When you desire something from a place of truth, you can trust that you are MEANT to have or feel that thing.
As you set the intention to receive your desires (now you know you’re worthy of them!), source energy hears your calling and lines up all that’s required to bring it to you.
Sure, some effort and action is required, and we’ll look at that later, but for now, I encourage you to open your heart to the truth that your desires are the seeds of your purpose.
Do you feel worry or guilt around the concept of desiring something?
Us women are SO programmed to living in survival mode. Giving ourselves permission to have what we desire often feels indulgent, vain and ‘wrong’.
The truth is, denying yourself goes against your nature, which means the Universe is unable to support you. When you choose to thrive in all that you are and trust in the abundance of the Universe, you will be provided for.
So, what do you desire?
Remember a few weeks back, when you created your life vision? I want you to deepen that vision now, bringing in the values you defined last week. Be your MOST authentic Self and design a life that totally lights you up!
Look at all your life areas and journal around each one.
What do you desire? What have you been put on this planet to learn, be, do and have?
physical health / fitness
money / finance
relationships with family / friends / colleagues
relationship with partner
career / work
spirituality / religion
feelings / emotions
Really dream BIG here!
Really hook into the feeling of having everything you could ever dream of. The energy of emotion is a powerful key to manifestation. Feel your dreams on every level – physically, emotionally, intellectually and spiritually.
When you KNOW your desires as if they have already happened, they are yours. You can’t help but attract them in!
Go for it!
In this week’s Facebook Live, I talk about how to differentiate between the desires of your True Self and the desires of your ego.
Founder of The School of Self Love
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