Behind the scenes of an actual relationship--the raw, real, and vulnerable--with occasional relationship advice. All in service of helping us and you continue to build the muscle that is our hearts.
Stagnation in relationships: The other silent killer
Okay so you know how at the beginning of a relationship there is this huge expansiveness and growth and the feeling like you're starting a new chapter with your life...and then after a while things get comfy and you both get into a routine and because both of you are so comfy in said routine it is hard to continue your growth both individually and as a couple?
Josef and I found ourselves there recently and here's our vulnerable conversation about what we're doing about it.
Codependency Part 2
Jordin is always uncovering more and more layers of her codependency. In this episode, her and Josef talk about the more subtle manifestations of codependency in their relationship, including:
>> Using each other to cover up our loneliness
>> How codependency impacts body image (and vice versa)
>> Should we be striving for a codependency-free relationship?
Follow us on social media: @justjordinjames and let us know how this lands with you!
Resentment is the ultimate relationship killer.
We believe it is each partner's responsibility to take ownership over their own resentment. This is because resentment is a key indicator that there is a need that isn't being met in your relationship.
Advocating for your needs is taking responsibility for your resentment so it doesn't stay under the surface and fester.
However, for those of us with, um, *complicated* relationships with our own needs, it gets hard to advocate for them and resentment builds. all this and more on this week's episode!
We get why you think it is b******t, but gratitude really helps.
This is because you experience what you look for. if you look for the good in your partner and in your relationship, that's what you will experience.
"But if I'm always looking only for the good then how will I catch those red flags? Isn't that me duping myself only to get hurt later?"
Great question - we cover all that and more in this episode on gratitude :)
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Road Trip: The Inside Scoop
We just took a road trip from Portland to Yellowstone! So fucking fun. traveling with your partner has its challenges, though.
In this episode, we give you the inside scoop about how we make our trips together super fun, connecting, and chill.
But we also get into the blow up we had (we usually have one on every trip) and some other aspects of traveling that can be challenging with your partner.
Can't wait to share all of this with you! It's like you were with us the whole time :)
Love Will Never Abandon You
This episode was a spontaneous recording as we were talking about how hard it is for Jordin to write her book which is all about how Love will never abandon you.
We go behind the scenes of what it actually means for Love to never abandon you, getting into how that idea manifests in relationships.
We'd love to hear how all of this landed with you! Shoot Jordin an email: firstname.lastname@example.org
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(Josef doesn't have social media, but he sends you his love :) )