The Secret Psychology of Successful Negotiators, with Matt Schultz

#562: More than 90 percent of people who ask to get their credit card annual fee reduced are successful. Yet most people never ask. 

Why? They assume the answer will be no.

Matt Schultz, the author of “Ask Questions, Save Money, Make More,” joins us to explain the psychology and tactics behind successful negotiation. 

The key insight: companies want to keep your business. Banks, employers, and service providers invest in long-term relationships because it's more profitable than constantly finding new customers. 

This gives you more leverage than you might think.

For credit cards, Schultz points out that calling the retention department directly (rather than general customer service) often leads to better results. He shares his own experience of getting his $600 annual fee cut in half just by making a yearly call.

With mortgage negotiations, Schultz suggests getting quotes from 3-5 lenders on the same day, since rates change frequently. A quarter-point rate reduction on a $360,000 mortgage saves $20,000 over the life of the loan. The fees themselves can differ by $5,000 between lenders.

When it comes to workplace negotiations, Schultz recommends keeping a weekly log of your accomplishments. Note both your regular duties and times you went above and beyond. This creates a strong foundation for salary discussions.

The most effective negotiations frame requests as win-win scenarios. Instead of just asking for tuition reimbursement, explain how additional education will help you contribute more to the company. Rather than demanding a lower rent, offer to sign a longer lease that reduces the landlord's vacancy risk.

Schultz emphasizes building relationships during negotiations. The person at the call center has likely dealt with angry customers all day. Being pleasant and making a human connection can lead to better outcomes.

The interview also covers negotiating with family members about money, choosing when to negotiate versus pay full price (like at charity shops or with small businesses), and how to time requests effectively. 

The common thread: success comes from understanding the other party's interests and finding ways to align them with your own.

This episode will show you how to save hundreds — or thousands — in your regular spending, simply by asking. 

Timestamps:

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(0:00 Intro: Most people fear asking for discounts/negotiations

(1:37) Keep weekly notes of work accomplishments for better negotiations

(3:38) Companies want long-term customers - use this as negotiating leverage

(6:04) Credit card fee negotiations - 90% success rate when asking

(8:36) How to negotiate mortgage rates and compare lender quotes

(13:15) Open-ended questions get better results than yes/no questions

(19:41) How to handle pushy mortgage reps who bash competitors

(26:41) Tips for millennials who hate phone calls but need to negotiate

(31:17) Framing tuition reimbursement as benefit to company

(39:19) Building rapport during negotiations vs being aggressive

(44:42) When to walk away from difficult negotiations

(49:20) Negotiating with small businesses vs large corporations

(54:53) Red flags in workplace negotiations

(58:38) How companies signal if they value employee growth

(1:06:38) Final thoughts on customer lifetime value and negotiating power

For more information, visit the show notes at https://affordanything.com/episode562

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