TIRED OF THE LIES AND THE SPIN perpetuated in the culture about men, women, sex and love? Had it up to here with the anti-male, anti-marriage, anti-motherhood world in which we live? If so, get ready to hear hard-hitting truths about women and men that will make you cry out “Yes! Finally someone tells it like it is!”
The Suzanne Venker Show brings a wealth of wisdom from authors, educators, psychologists and others who aren’t afraid to admit what the culture won’t.
126. Q&A Hour: Suzanne Answers Reader/Listener Emails
2:00 My boyfriend won’t say “I love you” and is not expressive or open to talk about next steps for the future
5:00 My son is asking me to open a bank account in my own name to save money because he is dating a girl who inherited money and lives at home. This girl wants to live with my son, in a house she owns, and have him pay half the bills. He wants to save because he is afraid that “when she kicks him out” he’ll be able to afford to set himself up, etc. WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON?
10:00 I’m newly married to a great guy, but I'm struggling with where we live. We want to start having children but there is no community where we live. What should I do?
15:35 Help! I feel guilty for wanting to step out of the workforce to raise children.
20:15 What is your take on Victoria’s Secret shifting their marketing approach to showcasing overweight women?
22:45 How do I go into a marriage-minded relationship when the woman will be making more money than me?
28:15 My wife and I are going on 16 years of marriage and having trouble, my wife won’t go to counseling. Is there any hope?
125. 5 Reasons Women Don't Get What They Need From Men
Suzanne discusses fives reasons women don't get what they need from their man.
IN THIS EPISODE:
6:00 Reason #1: They have their guard up
9:55 Reason #2: They micromanage.
11:10 Reason #3: They can't “let go” and learn to receive.
14:00 Reason #4: They complain and/or nag.
15:15 Reason #5: They assume the worst.
124. The Staggering Costs of Our 21st Century Sexual Free-For-All
Suzanne reads evolutionary biologists Bret Weinstein's and Heather Heying's article, "An Evolutionary Biologist's Guide to Finding Love in the 21st Century" and provides the roadmap needed to get men and women back on track.
IN THIS EPISODE:
3:00 Suzanne reads an article from Daily Wire
4:50 The entire issue (especially regarding sex) is largely due to birth control
8:48 Birth control rewrote the rules of human mature and wrecked the sexual logic that governed the system
10:10 Babies are best raised by a team (mother and father) and extended family
11:00 Men and women have different reasons and requirements for choosing a spouse
13:00 Sex used to be thrilling because it was scarce, and the stakes were high
14:00 Women go along with the cultural narrative of casual sex even though it goes against their natural tendencies to be selective and want commitment
15:50 A woman who demands commitment competes for male attention alongside every woman who does not
16:30 For men, casual sex is the “sweetest deal in the universe”
20:29 The dating landscape is a minefield with no guardrails
22:15 Suzanne reads comments from men
123. Work-Life Balance Begins Long Before You Have a Baby
Once upon a time, women were groomed to be wives and mothers, and they gave little to no thought to having a career.
Today, women are groomed to become career women and to give little to no thought to marriage and children.
The former option is long gone, never to return. And the second option is just as bad. Fortunately, there’s an Option 3.
Here are 4 things young women need to consider when mapping out their lives if they want to achieve genuine work-life balance:
IN THIS EPISODE:
3:25 In previous generations, raising a family was a taxing, all-consuming endeavor
5:40 “Work/Life” balance does not meaning doing everything you want simultaneously
6:30 There is no highly successful person (a lot of money or a lot of clout) whose life is NOT out of balance
7:10 Big careers are all consuming
7:50 If you want a balanced life, the only alternative is to accept the trade-offs and not compare your life to anyone else’s
10:45 Where do you want to be geographically? Lifestyle?
13:40 Doing something later doesn’t translate to doing something better
15:00 Know who to listen to and who NOT to listen to when it comes to the issue of work/family balance
19:00 The idea that kids are resilient and that mothers should not feel guilt are pervasive and massive lies
20:28 Guilt is a signal feeling which women should pay attention to
22:45 Understand what children need and what is needed of you as a mother
27:10 After Covid, many mothers are choosing NOT to go back to work
122. The Mental Load of Motherhood
Referring to an article in the Wall Street Journal entitled "Women Still Do More of the Housework. Here's How to Share the Load," Suzanne discusses why the mental load of motherhood is not a social construct but a matter of sheer biology.
IN THIS EPISODE:
3:50 The “50/50” marriage does not take into account the biological leanings of men and women
4:55 Playing tit for tat in a marriage will KILL a marriage
5:00 There's a completely different way to manage childcare and housework
5:20 If there’s respect in a marriage, it shouldn't matter who does what
5:35 Whomever is home more does more at home
6:10 If both husband and wife are pursuing demanding careers and taking care of a family, the opportunity for conflict escalates
6:35 It is women who take on the mental load of motherhood
8:15 It is a biological fact that women are more invested in the details of running a home
10:00 You want your husband to do things the way you want them done, but men don't think like women!
10:44 Couples who divvy up the breadwinning/household tasks do not tend to keep score and thus have fewer conflicts
11:40 No matter how you plan your time, life will rarely run smoothly. The real enemy is time.
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121. Money & Marriage Series: How Student Loans Sabotage Love & Marriage
A new documentary about the student loan crisis, entitled “Borrowed Future,” will stream on October 14th. Suzanne discusses how this crisis is undermining love and family formation—and why, with a shift of one's mindset, it doesn't have to.
IN THIS EPISODE:
4:00 Student loan debt is affecting a couple's availability to marry and have kids
4:50 Debt is undermining marriages and keeping couples from being successful
5:30 We've sold student debt without making young people aware of how it affects their future
6:00 Marriage is on the decline due to MONEY issues - “We can't afford to get married!”
7:40 Couples can't succeed in getting out of debt if they're not on the same page
10:25 When you do not combine finances and do not get on the same page financially, you are essentially saying you do not trust your spouse
13:55 Parents of should not encourage their kids to get into student loan debt
14:45 It does NOT matter where you get your degree
Learning for both sexes in the world.
I came across Suzanne via her recent interview with Stefan Molyneux and I have to say that her content is not just for women but their also there learning content for us men too and even if her podcasts are aimed at the USA market.
This can also apply to you where ever you are in the world.
I have just completed a 7 day course here in London to aid with my own issues of meeting and dating women so extra info never is never a bad thing in my opinion.
Great work Suzanne!.
Great advice for young women, but us men have checked out
I’m a guy in my 40s and came across Suzanne after she was interviewed by Bettina Arndt. I have a lot of respect for Bettina (been following her since around 2011), and so I thought I would listen to the interview with Suzanne. (Her interview with Stefan Molyneaux more recently is also very good).
The truths that Suzanne is trying to educate women about are nothing new to a lot of men like me who have disengaged from dating and hopes of ever getting married. However, Suzanne’s podcasts and books may help younger women from wasting their 20s in their cubicle jobs or “careers”.
But even with the great advice that Suzanne gives, the incentive for men to cohabitate or get married are zero. The corrupt family court system, and the child support and alimony hustle that many women have in their back pockets as soon as they say those 3 magic words “I’m not happy”, are what need to change before men ever consider marriage or long-term relationships ever again.
Good luck ladies, you’re going to need it in today’s climate of false allegations, entitled attitudes, and never-ending consumerism which drains men of all their resources.