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Powerful conversations and interviews about real life psychology, philosophy, psychedelics, spirituality, social dynamics and much more.

Our mission is to entertain, provoke, inform, and make you question everything you think you know.

Have you ever been on the wrong end of “office politics”?

Or lost out to less talented people who are better at “playing the game”?

Join us as we our explore Robert Greene’s provocative and compelling study of the 48 Laws of Power, in which he lays bare the psychological principles that ultimately shape all human relations.

Often seen as a handbook for the ‘modern Machiavelli’, we take a closer look at how understanding and implementing these Laws can actually enrich your life personally, professionally and spiritually.

Voices in the Dark Jon & Dre

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Powerful conversations and interviews about real life psychology, philosophy, psychedelics, spirituality, social dynamics and much more.

Our mission is to entertain, provoke, inform, and make you question everything you think you know.

Have you ever been on the wrong end of “office politics”?

Or lost out to less talented people who are better at “playing the game”?

Join us as we our explore Robert Greene’s provocative and compelling study of the 48 Laws of Power, in which he lays bare the psychological principles that ultimately shape all human relations.

Often seen as a handbook for the ‘modern Machiavelli’, we take a closer look at how understanding and implementing these Laws can actually enrich your life personally, professionally and spiritually.

    The Laws of Human Nature 6: Why Are You Always Dissatisfied?

    The Laws of Human Nature 6: Why Are You Always Dissatisfied?

    In this episode, Robert Greene forces us to confront our inherently covetousness nature: we always want what we don't have. And yet, if we do get those things, we rapidly fall out of love with them. Why does possessing something make our enjoyment of it fade? Why is the grass always greener on the other side, no matter how often we jump back and forth over the fence?
    Jon has experienced a lot of this recently. Nomadically wandering the globe was often stressful and demanding, and he found himself longing for stability and being closer to his friends. But, just a few months after settling back into the UK, he finds himself looking back at rose-tinted memories of life on the road. Context changes everything: the parts of us which are undernourished in any setting start to shout the loudest for attention. Is there a way to balance these competing desires?
    But this is about more than wanting physical things. We also do this with people! It's easy to become taken for granted if you make yourself too available to others; if you lay all your cards on the table; or if you act 100% predictably all the time. It's time to change things up and become more mysterious and elusive.
    This Law of Human Nature is closely connected to several of the 48 Laws of Power: Law 4: Always Say Less Than Necessary, Law 8: Make Other People Come to You – Use Bait if Necessary, and Law #16: Use Absence to Increase Respect & Honour. We humans just can't seem to help ourselves – when something seems scarce or just out of sight, we clamour to possess it, to unlock its mysteries.
    But what if being mysterious and playing games just isn't your nature? What if we're so bombarded these days by people being either ultra mysterious or ultra vulnerable that we're forgetting something crucial. We need to be more sensitive to context: tricks and tips about being mysterious and distant might work if you're playing networking or seduction games, but they are far less effective if you're trying to build deep interpersonal bonds. Doing a vanishing act and refusing to open up can be toxic for friendships, and, in truth, not even that good for business relationships (especially when dealing face-to-face).
    Ultimately, our innate covetousness – our desire for change and for more – can be harnessed for good. It can drive us to grow, to learn, to have new experiences and use our imaginations as a springboard into the future. The danger is that we just keeping looking for change and never enjoy what we have when we receive it
    People often say that, after climbing some kind of mountain in your life you realise it's lonely at the top. But wait a minute – what actually happens when you climb a mountain is an incredible, exhilarating sense of achievement and peace as you stop to take in the view. The trick is not to think about the next mountain, but to take the time to appreciate where you are, here and now.
     
    Also Including: Why Coco Chanel was the master of this Law Struggling to Say Less Than Necessary when asked direct questions Are crowds reassuring or terrifying? How money and the internet ruin everything Mysterious sex Get In Touch! Discuss the episode over on our Facebook Discussion Group And you can find us on Instagram and Twitter Or email us: hello@voicesinthedark.world Be Silly. Be Kind. Be Weird.

    • 1 hr 26 min
    What Happened To Culture?

    What Happened To Culture?

    This episode we get together to discuss a variety of topics, ultimately centring around the seeming decline of popular culture into endless sequels and entertainment-by-algorithm. Where did it all go wrong, and why are so many of us still comfort-eating the shit out of it?
    In the wake of the Golden Globes and the release of Once Upon a Time in Hollywood we pause to reflect on why so many contemporary films and TV shows are so unconvincing. In a world saturated by 'cultural content', are we (and the actors themselves) becoming trapped in a hall of mirrors, constantly trying to be self-referential rather than capturing the moment as it unfolds? Culture by algorithm is a shitty way to live, and we reflect instead on the joys of the artistic creations that we've loved and lost ourselves in.
     
    Also Including: The disturbing story of Britain's most prolific rapist What are 'Type A' and 'Type B' personalities – and do they matter? Why Jon is considering doing a nude photoshoot Andrea's distaste for The Rock Realising you're not everyone's cup of tea Get In Touch! Discuss the episode over on our Facebook Discussion Group And you can find us on Instagram and Twitter Or email us: hello@voicesinthedark.world Be Silly. Be Kind. Be Weird.

    • 1 hr 11 min
    That Time of Year...

    That Time of Year...

    After an unintentional hiatus, Jon and Andrea return for their seasonal year in review, where they reflect on what they've learnt, how their goals and values have changed, and what the goddamn hell might be next...
    This time we didn't quite manage to record in the bar of a 5-star hotel as we have in the past, but it was great to get behind the mics again and share what's been keeping us busy over the past few months.
    Jon has now finally moved to London (again), so more frequent episodes should be coming your way. So long as Andrea doesn't flee the country in the wake of Brexit, that is.
    Get In Touch! Discuss the episode over on our Facebook Discussion Group And you can find us on Instagram and Twitter Or email us: hello@voicesinthedark.world Be Silly. Be Kind. Be Weird.

    • 1 hr 15 min
    The Laws of Human Nature 5: Uncovering People's True Character

    The Laws of Human Nature 5: Uncovering People's True Character

    In this episode, we explore what 'true character' means and how to identify, deal with and master the major personality types we encounter in the world.
    Apologies for the short notes – big changes are afoot at Voices in the Dark, which we'll be sharing with you soon!
     
    Be Silly. Be Kind. Be Weird.

    • 1 hr 36 min
    What Makes A 'Perfect Gentleman'? – Zach Falconer-Barfield Interview

    What Makes A 'Perfect Gentleman'? – Zach Falconer-Barfield Interview

    The idea of the 'gentleman' increasingly seems a thing of the past – a costume drama caricature, or an old fashioned toff whose connection to the present day is, at best, a pending #MeToo revelation.
    Jon certainly held those prejudices until he was introduced to the work of Zach Falconer-Barfield, the man behind 'The Perfect Gentleman', who's made it his mission to bring the best qualities of the well-rounded, Renaissance gentleman into our modern world.
    We quiz Zach on what being a gentleman really means, from manners and style, to etiquette and honour. As he sums up, the key is 'to make others feel at ease, even at expense to yourself' – something which goes far beyond simple ideas of 'masculinity' and into being a socially-conscious person who lives and acts deliberately, according to a strong internal code.
    But this is 2019. What about the crisis of masculinity? What about toxic masculinity? Isn't a gentleman a dangerous thing to be in today's world? Zach has a different take: we're experiencing a crisis of gender. As thousand-year-old stereotypes and norms have increasingly unravelled in just a few decades, we're only beginning to find our feet. And when we find our feet, we can also find balance: the balance of the 'masculine' and 'feminine' in each of us.
    This is a far-reaching and far-ranging conversation about the human condition and our modern lives. Fundamentally, it is a conversation about respect: respect for oneself and respect for the people around us. 
    Including: Manners vs. etiquette Which James Bond was the most gentlemanly? Reforming the education system How the Victorians stifled our emotions Practising deliberate style Developing your personal honour Find Out More: The Perfect Gentleman website, Facebook, and Instagram Becoming the Perfect Gentleman book Follow Zach & Andrea's cooking show: The Suited Chef Zach's personal Instagram Be Silly. Be Kind. Be Weird.

    • 1 hr 47 min
    The Laws of Human Nature 4: Mastering Non-Verbal Communication

    The Laws of Human Nature 4: Mastering Non-Verbal Communication

    In a vast modern world, where we're constantly encountering strangers and trying to work out where they're coming from and how we can operate and cooperate together, we're living quintessentially unnatural lives compared to the tight-knit communities in which we evolved. It's as though we're living behind enemy lines: everyone's playing some kind of game we don't quite understand, saying one thing, but doing another; smiling while they hold a knife behind their backs...
    Help is at hand! This episode provides us with the vital tools we need to understand what people really think, really feel, and the motivations they're often trying frantically to hide. From unconscious body-language to the micro-expressions which betray their true feelings, Robert Greene dissects the role playing and hierarchy games that surround us daily.
    People are essentially emotional sieves: the emotions will leak out, whether they like it or not. And it's vitally important that we focus on that emotional leakage rather than believing the words alone.
    As ever, The Laws of Human Nature also turns the spotlight back on you. This episode drills down into what you'recommunicating without realising it. Robert forces us to recognise that we are all consummate actors, but we've forgotten that we're acting. We know certain tones and expressions that get results; we know how to present our 'best side' in a given situation. We play so many different roles all the time... But too often this means we become trapped in them, forgetting that they're all just a game based on the culture in which we're swimming. 
    Also Including: Life lessons from drag queens Where accents come from The 'authenticity' trap Othello's Error and how to avoid it The dangers of 'Dude-Man-Bro Mode' Get In Touch! Discuss the episode over on our Facebook Discussion Group And you can find us on Instagram and Twitter Or email us: hello@voicesinthedark.world Be Silly. Be Kind. Be Weird.

    • 1 hr 50 min

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