Waves Of Clarity Podcast

Tracy Kimberg
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Hello, I'm Tracy Kimberg - a hypnotherapist and resilient mind coach with many years of experience in therapeutic counselling, teenage mental health, relationship coaching and anxiety management. Every Tuesday, I bring you a new episode with tips and tools to help you stay healthy and happy - and most importantly, to just be yourself - overcoming the storms and tides of day-to-day life, mindfully and with resilience. Many episodes will include a free hypnosis session, to download and keep. Find out more at tracykimberg.com

  1. 27/04/2021

    How to stop nagging your teenager.

    This week, Tracy talks about how you can learn to not be be a nag bag. She shares 5 helpful tips that you can use to get your teen to do things just because they want to. This is followed by another of Tracy's helpful and relaxing Hypnotherapy Meditations, specifically designed to help you with your relationship with your teenager. You can also download these and listen to them again. Tracy can be contacted as follows: Website: www.tracykimberg.com Phone: 07928 154054 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tracy.kimberg.therapy  Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-kimberg-teenage-transformation-therapist-9564a3193/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tracy_kimberg_teentherapist/   hello. My name is Tracy. Kimberg welcome to the waves of clarity. I am a teenage therapist and a relationship specialist. My passion, of course, is teenagers helping them find their super power so that they can use throughout their life as they grow into adulthood and become more aware of how they behavior influences they world.   I believe that relationships are built. From knowing exactly what your superpower is to that you can use that to help you overcome difficult situations and build better relationships. We all have a super power that we can tune into. And when we do this, we can do extraordinary things. We can help ourselves overcome, um, storms and tides of life.   We can help other people, we can improve relationships and we can reach goals and dreams that we have for ourselves. We can even change our own behavior when we tune into our own superpowers. Today, I'd like to talk to you about nagging as a parent. I'm sure. You've heard yourself say these phrases, clean your room, do your homework.   Have you done your chores? You can't go out until you've done this. Why haven't you done that? If you have a team you will know full and well, that this is a very, very tricky part of parenting journey. I speak from experience. As I currently have three daughters still living at home, the one is 16. The one is 21 and the one is 25.   And sometimes it feels like I am such an ag bag. Most parents of teens. No, they sound like a broken record and it's painful. So painful, not just for us to hear. But also for our teens, but no one appreciates nagging, believe it or not, there's a far better way. And I promise you, it works.   Okay. When we were growing up, our parents probably nagged us as well. And you might've even promised yourself when you were young, that you would never, ever sound anything. Like your parents and none of that nagging would ever come out of your mouth. But the reality is if you're a parent of a teenager, you've probably already used a variation of these words that I mentioned earlier.   And in despite of the very best intentions, you can't help yourself. But why is this? It's likely because at some point you were just too tired or too stressed. To figure it out and think about the alternatives that you could possibly use. It just seems more natural to tell your team to do things rather than giving them a gentle push.   They might need that you would have made them choose that action just because they wanted to. So the secret is to get your teenage motivated, motivated to do what you're asking to do. And I'm going to share you a few tips on how you can do this. So let's start with tip number one, start by being the voice of reason in the middle of the storm.   As you know, our teens get so stressed and easily overwhelmed. And when this happens, they just want to shut down and be left alone at worst. They likely to make serious, um, decisions leading to usually a bigger, a bit of a disaster.   Today. I'd like to share my five magic tips with you on how you can help yourself to stop nagging number one, and to help your teenager be motivated to do the things that you ask them without having to repeat yourself numerous times. So the first tip is start by being the voice of reason in the middle of the store.   When your teenager is stressed and overwhelmed at best they'll shut down, which is normal at worst, they're likely to make a series of decisions leading to a complete and utter disaster, but when they hit this panic, it all falls to you as the parents to calm the chaos. As you know, it always is our job to try and sort out their moods and calm them down.   But yes, it sometimes feels like that you all stuck in the middle of all this chaos. So we need to accept that parenting teens can be tough and even having this awareness, instead of fighting the reality of it can help us. Build our strength and resilience because it prevents us from jumping to the conclusion that maybe we are bad at parenting.   And then we have all these thoughts going through our heads, telling us I'm a terrible parent. Why can't I do it? Right? The truth is that raising teenagers can be really, really tough. So let your team know in a calm way, what your expectations are of them and how you can help them rather than jumping into a rapid fire set of instructions.   Once they are calm. In a response, obviously to your calmness, they will better able to make their own decisions and probably wiser decisions. My second tip is to give your team clarity so they can see themselves for who they truly are. Oh,   It's no secret that teams typically have a pretty skewed vision of themselves. And, and they don't often see the things that their parents do. They're also inclined to think that they're always right and you wrong. They also think that they can do whatever they like. They sometimes think they deserve things and privileges that they haven't really earned yet.   But the bottom line is that they are still learning and growing in life, they are still trying to figure out their own values. So learn to ask the right questions that guide your team and helps your team to start seeing their strengths and their talents. And the only way they can do that is if you point them out.   So prod these good qualities into the spotlight and then show them how they can use these skills to solve the problem at hand. If you remind your teenager how much you see their good qualities and strengths and how they li you believe, sorry that they can actually overcome whatever it is they're going through and whatever task is they have at hand that you believe that they can do it and do it well, they will start believing it too.   The third step is become the researcher and the guidance counselor. All rolled up into one, rather than giving your team a dozen options, show them where to find them. That is part of how they learn to become more independent in life by learning to do things themselves, make their own choices, instead of depending on others to save them or others, to help them choose.   Talk to them about their goals and then discuss ways to find that information, encourage them, encourage them to, um, face the reality of the pros and the cons. And in coach him to talk to mentors and counselors at school, or even family members that they look up to and guide them to the pathway of discovery.   So the fourth magic tip I have to share with you today is become your child's brainstorming, buddy. I love doing this with my children, where we set and we share ideas and options. And a lot of the time I'll be honest with you. Their ideas and options are a lot more creative than mine. So when your tin gets stuck, Which of course we all do.   And of course they will do at some point feel stuck instead of jumping into tell them what to do, just be quiet and ask them, take the time to have a proper talk and ask them what they think the alternative choice would be or what would happen if they did an opposite thing. They may not initially see the value of this conversation and might feel a bit frustrated because you're not giving them the answer.   But knowing that. You are willing to talk and guide them. And then you have someone to talk to, um, as a teenager that you can really go to your parents and talk and figure it out together is so important. They need to know. They can throw out ideas without being worried that they're going to be told that it's stupid idea or no, that will never work.   Just talk about the idea, play with the different options with them and don't um, um, because if we don't do this, they will feel that they have to censor themselves until they can find the right onset in inverted commerce. There is no right onset. We are all just figuring it out together.   And this brings us to the last tip number five, which is become a cheerleader. I love being my children's cheerleader. It's such a fun job. You know what it feels like when someone tells you that you've done something well, that you're really good at something. How does it make you feel? It makes you feel pretty good, right?   It only makes sense that we as parents need to praise the efforts of our teams and celebrate their successes. It feels so much better then hassling your team for the slightest thing they've left undone or for the failures that they've met along the way. Ask yourself now, really ask yourself. Think about this question.   Do I shine a spotlight on my team's successes or only on their shortcomings? And think about the answer and I'll share a big secret with you today. The magic key to stop or minimize nagging is for us as parents to make a conscious decision to do so. You get to decide you as the parent, you are the parent and you get to choose which approach you take with your teenager.   If something isn't working, you can change it. Look for the alternative way that works. Look. For what works with your child?   I hope you enjoyed this episode. And please, of course, if you did enjoy it, I encourage you to share it, share it with someone, you know, a parent that's maybe having a frustrated time with their children and feels like they are turning into a real old nag bag, shar

    27 min

  2. 20/04/2021

    Frank Soonius On Never Giving Up On Your Dreams

    Frank Soonius is described as 'The Dream Driver'. You will hear his dramatic life story along with inspiration and advice to never give up on your dreams. Frank's book on the importance of living your gift is 'Trapped In A Dream' and can be found here: https://www.trappedinadreambook.com   Some of the content of the conversation covers some difficult subjects and experiences. Tracy can be contacted as follows: Website: www.tracykimberg.com Phone: 07928 154054 Facebook: www.facebook.com/Tracy.Kimberg.Counselling.Therapy.Coaching/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-kimberg-9564a3193/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/tracy_kimberg_hypnotherapist/ welcome to another episode of the waves of clarity. My name is Tracy Kimberg. I am a teenage therapist and a relationship expert. What'd you don't know about me is that I used to be a nurse as well. And being a nurse taught me that. Even when someone is incredibly ill and going through a very difficult time, physically their mental strength can pick them up and carry them through difficult times. And this is exactly why I decided to have a podcast where I can help you find that within you. If you listening. And you are in a difficult time in your life or going through some struggles. Then I want you to be able to listen to my podcast and find something within what I'm sharing that is going to help you realize that you have grit. You have resilience, you have incredible inner strength to overcome whatever it is you're facing. I'd like you to play a game with me quickly. Have you ever try to. Associate an, a word with someone maybe, um, imagine your partner or one of your children, or maybe your best friend, and to think what one word would describe them. Isn't it incredible how, even just by thinking of someone, you can actually put a word. That exactly frames their personality. And this is what I'm going to do today with Frank Soonius who's my guest. He me symbolizes courage and not just courage written in normal font, courage in capital letters. And I can't wait for you to listen to Frank story, Frank. Is the pivotal example of overcoming hardship and never, ever giving up on his dreams. I am so honored to have you here and I'd like you to please introduce yourself, um, tell people who you are and what brought you to this space where you are today. Well, I'm a Frank Sudanese. I live close by them and, uh, I was born a long time ago, more than 60 years. And that's always what I say. People start, stop asking when I was born in incident and, um, I was born high sensitive and, uh, yeah, brought me. I know now that that being, I, since it's a, it's a superpower, but that's only after 50 years, I discovered that it's your superpower. And I had to go, uh, A long way to find out that being sensitive is, is good enough. And you can go on with it and you have a superpower, but I didn't know that when I was born, I don't want to interrupt you too much, but some people might not know what high sensitive means. Can you explain that? Of course I can do it. If you feel too much, you hear too much. It gets too much. And in my case, I gave it all away. Okay. So tell me about this story that I heard. Um, we, you chose the title for today's podcast, which is put your heart in your dream. Um, which is a very beautiful title. I pick up that book by as if it was a book. Maybe this is the title for your next book. It's probably a lovely title. Tell your story. Yeah. Yeah. I can do it now a really, really short and really to the point. And I was, I was born. I sense that and how it did. I noticed it. When I was in school, uh, I always helped the children or who was bullied and how did I help them to put them in my team when we play soccer and then beat the bullies. And they helped me too, because I became really good in my sports because I had to do more than. I'd never had the good players around, but I had always the people who were picked on, but I love to help them and let them grow. And then we, we beat the bullies and I had a lot of friends and even the bullies. Started to think I can bid in the booty anymore because uh, Frank is going to be Darius. So that's why I noticed, and I'm going to also notice that when there was a, a little bit, like somewhere in the pounds, complete the loan, I'll always pick them and brought them home and nourish it to the, was it big, big duck? The duck story is also in my book and the rabbits and everything who was in need. I picked it up because I always thinking, I have to say that to make the long story short, I was trying to save myself. By doing this now I felt that I was different. I really felt that why is the world so hard? You know, can we do a little bit more laughing to the world? And so I thought I'm different, but that didn't know how different that was. And I went. It's all in my book. It's, it's, it's really funny. It's with the girls and the, and the, and the growing up stories. It's all different and different. This is good. I think different issue, you know, and it was still, I became a really good sportsman, um, because I thought if I am really good at something, people will. Not be so hard on me, you know, you know, you like me more. And I was always thinking, why is not everybody liking me? And, you know, I did my best. I tried harder and harder. Still it was, um, I think I was 35, 36. I was in the end of my basketball. Uh, I played in the first division and I was coaching to the, the national junior girls in Holland and a lot of teams and we always had success because I've got ramen rule make, make it a better chart. And they become a better basketball player. So that's easily now. And if they have the talent, it will come out because they feel, they feel good because they are better as a child. And everybody needs that, you know, to be good in something. And then you grow, everything is growing with you. You need to stay to stay up top. You know, if you have nothing. You think you are nothing, you know, but you have one thing or two things, and then it grows and it grows and grows. And I love it. All the disappointments I took with me in my room, I call it the ethic, my shuttles, I made a shutout and then I shared a world. I played everything. What went wrong? I played it in my room again. And then I succeeded. So I had two worlds, one shadow world. I'm on rebuilt. That's in, when I was 35, those worlds grow apart. I felt she wilt. I want it to go to my fence. You will. But the real world was now really ending on me, really hitting on me, really art and it all started. I was a research marketer. I was really good. And I was asked to do in a survey. Under, um, drug users who were using methadone as substitution of heroin. It's, it's called methadone. They gave me 80 persons to fines. And it was really hard to fight because they are living all over the place, homeless houses. So it was a really hard job. And I loved it. I love coming to the people, listen to the stories and write it down. But I made a big mistake. It was a really big mistake because when you're high sensitive, all the pain that came to me and I was thinking. After hearing a story of one hour, I'm going to save this girl. That's difficult. I'm going to save this girl. No worries. All those stories. Starting hitting on me. And I couldn't relax because even when I came home, I thought this girl, why is she using drugs? She's so beautiful. I have to do something. So it was interview number 28. When I heard a man saying that he was high up in the national bank of Holland, his name is Bob. I call him Bob, his name is different, but. Am I in that story is a common Bob and Bob told me in 10 minutes time, this story, and that, that hit me so hard. He was sitting in front of the tent, in the campaign in Spain when he sees his wife and four little children walk away anyways. It's always hard to tell this story, but you know, it says all the sweet things in ice creams and they're making jokes and are Honda, Tom, 50 meters away to the camp drink a short story, I guess Lincoln car comes around the corner and there was one big explosion. And 270 people in one minute died that day. And when he opened his eyes, there was nothing anymore. His wife was gone. Four children were gone, everything was gone. And he told me that in 10 minutes, even shivering now 25 years ago, because I always thought when you started using drugs, you're a little bit weak. And you know why you started using drugs? I had a, not a good few at that moment. And I started to cry. I said, that's why. Why Bob, why could not save somebody as beautiful as you are? Because I saw that it was a beautiful person. And I remember that he said his friend, he said, everybody tried. Everybody tried to comfort me and be there. But Frank, there were too many hours in the day, sort of hours, hour. She was alone. Any different. Give me the joints from the joint. He gave him something else. Then the heroin comes, he lost his house. He lost his job. And he lost everything. And now we're sleeping on the bridge in Amsterdam is 7,007,000 people are doing it. Why didn't you come to me? Just like the Dudley. I bring them to my bedroom bathroom and take care of him. He was gone. And then I started to notice that I was starting to get strange things happen to me. I think sometimes I couldn't even find my house because I was thinking too much of solving problems and they call it this association, they call it, you start to come in dissociation. I went to a psych. And the SAC said, stop. This is not work for you, Frank. You have to stop, but I want to finish it because now it's Frank. You know, I want to, I want to do it my own way, but to make the long story short, that's the part you probably hear. I ended up in a suicide, so. Sydney Australia. And someday you will see how it came up, come there, but that's it really, really straight story. But I ended up in an mental hospital in the city. I

    49 min

  3. 13/04/2021

    Nina Aouilk on 'Being The Change'

    Nina Aouilk is an inspirational speaker and talks to Tracy about being resilient and the ability to overcome anything, whilst spreading kindness and making a difference. Nina's website is www.ninaaouilk.com Tracy can be contacted as follows: Website: www.tracykimberg.com Phone: 07928 154054 Facebook: www.facebook.com/Tracy.Kimberg.Counselling.Therapy.Coaching/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-kimberg-9564a3193/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/tracy_kimberg_hypnotherapist/ Hello. My name is Tracy Kimberg. I'm a teenage therapist and a relationship coach. My life has. Often had waves and tides and storms and difficult uphills and fast downhills. Like everybody else's life. No one's life is perfect, but we all have the ability to overcome these times. And some of us have the ability to turn it into something extraordinary. And this is exactly what my guest has done. Her name is Nina Aouilk . Nina is an author. About to release a book. She is a motivational speaker and she is a humanitarian. She is very, very inspiring. And I invite you to sit back and listen to what she has to say, listen to what she has to share and just take it in. And why you doing that? Understand that you have it in you as well to overcome anything life throws at you. If you find the support you need, if you find what you have inside you. Dig deep, get in there inside yourself, and you will find the strength to overcome anything. In this episode, we are going to touch on some sensitive subjects, sensitive subjects that might, you might find upsetting. If anything that we discussed in this episode resonates with you, or is your situation that I do invite you to get in touch, speak up, don't hide the truth from yourself and from other people it's always better to be open and honest and find the help that you need, because you can turn your life around. And if you're a parent and you have a situation where your child. Is perhaps being bullied or not doing too well mentally, then please get in touch. I would love to have a discussion with you and help you and your child find a solution and turn the situation around to something that is more positive and a happier solution. So let me introduce Nina elk. Nina. Thank you for being my guest. Oh my goodness. This is such. An exciting day for me to have you as a guest, I've heard your story before, and I think this is a story that needs to be repeated and change their lives. Just like it's changed mine. Thank you so much for agreeing to be my guest today on the waves of clarity. So, um, tell us a little bit about your story and what's brought you to be such, um, passionate advocate for this whole story. Yeah, I think the word passionate is an understatement is it's overwhelming. I can't describe it to anybody I've tried, but it's very, very difficult when you. Go through something you just want to help somebody else go through, um, what you want to stop them going through if you can. But if they are going through, you want to help them in any way that you possibly can. I can only imagine that as a parent, you want to help with the parents that might have felt the way you were feeling. Um, so I'm sure that you know where I'm coming from, which place I'm coming from. And it does, it overwhelms you to a point where it's almost like somebody saying, Hey, Hey. Come on Nina, do something you can't sit back and be part of the problem you need to be. Part of the solution for me, bullying starts the day I was born and it was agenda discrimination because of my culture. Girls, uh, killed it, but just because that born girls, and I've said a few times that there often now, because of the way the medical facilities are in comparison to when I was born, they're aborted. So once they find out it's a girl, they were bought at that birth. So these children don't even make it into the world. The ones that do make into the weld or either. Left in place as an India, they leave them under trucks and the hope that they get run over. And I'm talking about newborn babies straight from the room, or they're left to the devices on the sites as a way to whoever finds them and they end up in sex trafficking. Well, they just end up being sold for parts, body parts, and it's horrendous how, um, and that the past, and could do that to such a small bundle of joy and. For me, it was very difficult. Um, part of my life, I mean, my life's been pretty difficult throughout, but I wouldn't change these things because it's given me such valuable life experiences and emotional intelligence that now I can go out and help somebody else that needs me. And I'm not doing it for me. I'm not doing it from an egotistical point of view. I'm not doing it from trying to be on social media point of view. I'm doing it because I'm very much needed. My voice is the voice for those people. Who have the half that not only their voice broken, but their spirit broken. And I was once that child sitting, sharing death on an everyday basis. And that's the new way to live. Um, I think a lot of us that are in this type of business where we try and help other people, we try and be what we never had when we had went through things. Um, and that's one of the reasons why I do what I'm doing. You know, I'm wanting to help people, you know, just understand their kids better and obviously have better relationships. And you mentioned emotional intelligence, which. You know, I think a lot of parents don't have, they are very involved in their own issues that they haven't resolved. And this spills over in the way they parents that they've got the patterns that they have never actually realized they have. Yeah, it's programming. But the thing is you can go and study emotional intelligence. You can take a lot of time taking a course with. A mentor that's well known. You know, you can take a course on there's lot of people doing life coaching, but if you don't have the personality, if you don't have the life experience yourself, I'm really sorry I'm saying this, but I just don't think you're the right person for the job, because if you haven't lived through those experiences, you. I have no idea what somebody else feels. And I'm not saying I know how someone else feels, because that would be hypocritical because I don't know how you feel because we all have different perceptions. But I have a fair idea of how someone may feel, whereas a textbook or a course is never going to teach you that, that. That whole having walked in someone's shoes, as they, as they call it. You're unable to know that from reading a textbook or going on a course, it's just impossible. So for that reason, I think people that are doing these jobs that have lived through it, or have experienced something similar or the best kinds of people, because they know that pain that hurt that, that trauma that another person might be going through. That's so true. That's so true. Um, what do you think? Um, all some of the major, um, difficulties that the teenagers nowadays, um, I mean, it's not even going to COVID as one of them, but that is the reality that they facing. What do you think are some of the issues that teenagers are facing their parents? Don grainy realize, well, you see, I did this. Um, with mental health, my son was crying out to me and I wasn't listening. I was, I just got a place to live in because we were homeless this for a little while. And all I could think about is I need to buy a bed. He need to buy a suit. I need to buy what can, how can I earn the money to get this? These things that I need not looking at what he needed. He was constantly crying out for help. And the signs are all there, but I wasn't listening to listen. I wasn't hearing anything. I was busy trying to do what I felt I had to do for him. Whereas all he wanted was for me to say, I could see something's not right with you. Let's sit and talk about it and not for me to talk. It was a voice I needed to listen to the same voice. I'm saying that people are not hearing. I did the same thing in a different situation, and I can't go backwards, but maybe I can help somebody else recognize the signs that there's a lot of pressure that goes on. And if you, if you have gone through trauma, if you've been in a relationship with someone who's narcissistic or you've been through domestic violence, you think you're the only one affected, but you're completely wrong. The children have watched and they learn and you see I've written a book and in there I've also described the children and start when you've had an argument about, Hey John, why didn't you empty the dishwasher? I'm really annoyed with it. All they see is hand movements and raised voices. They never see. How you make up afterwards. Now, if you know, if I was John and I say, well, come on or I'm sorry to all in, you know, makeup, I'll make sure I try and make a conscious effort. You hug, kiss, makeup, the children, see the making up as well. They don't see that. They just see the argument. And when you're a young child, you can't differentiate between a huge argument or a small argument. Young children say, or we diet is a typical statement because they have no concept of time. And with that, they'd have no concept of. Emotion to a point where they can understand that it's just a small disagreement. It's not a huge disagreement. They can't differentiate. And that creates panic in them, which then creates anxiety because they don't know what's happening. So I do, I would say to parents just on a different tangent, what you're talking about, but please be mindful how you say things to a child. The words you use is so important in my book again, I've mentioned that often parents will say to a child. You need to do your homework and the children will say why, and they're not asking from an argumentative. Sometimes they are, but not at the time. They're not, it's just a child's question. Especially under the age of seven. They're not payin

    37 min

  4. 09/04/2021

    How To Be Confidently You

    Gary Doherty is an expert in self image and self confidence and speaks about his personal journey and how you can confidently you. For more information on Gary and his courses, head to https://thinknetwork.co/ Tracy can be contacted as follows: Website: www.tracykimberg.com Phone: 07928 154054 Facebook: www.facebook.com/Tracy.Kimberg.Counselling.Therapy.Coaching/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-kimberg-9564a3193/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/tracy_kimberg_hypnotherapist/ welcome to the waves of clarity episode 21. My name is Tracy Kimberg. I'm a teenage transformation therapist and a relationship coach. My passion is to really help teenagers love themselves for who they are without having to try and be a part of a crowd or be like anybody else and be true to themselves and know their self-worth. I also love helping people within their relationships find out what makes each other tick, how we can better communicate and practice emotional intelligence within our own relationships. But this week, I invited Gary Doherty as a guest on my podcast. Gary is doing amazing things and he's spreading the word about being your true self and doing the best you can in your life, living your life to its fullest and making a difference in the world is so important to all of us. We can all start with tiny little things, tiny gestures of kindness, and just being positive and helpful to people that we notice ne our help and support can already make a difference in the world. So Gary, welcome to the waves of clarity and I am so excited to have you here today. You, um, have such amazing energy and I'm sure everybody, after listening to you is going to feel very uplifted and energized by your incredible. Attitude and energy welcome Gary. Well, firstly, thank you so much. Um, it's, it's a pleasure to be here and a pleasure to talk to yourself and to connect with your audience and your, your, your following and be as some old rest, all of them. Hi to everybody. Um, we met in club posts. If you're not on club posts, you must note if you don't have an iPhone. Yeah, well, no, if you don't have one and you have an Android, you will be able to in five weeks anyway, so relaxed. Okay. Either way you'll be on it. Um, I'm, I'm guarded already on the finder of think network, which is, uh, Europe's fastest growing independent empowerment platform bar numb anywhere. And the P as in Europe, I'm being humble saying that because I believe it's the word. Um, and I will check that all out sun and the bio will change, um, as my mission and vision to help make the world a better place. One event at a time, one podcast at a time, one club poster and that one webinar, one subscription, one grip, one conversation, one connection, one follow we'll make one chair will everything. That's my mission. That's my mantra. And, um, I don't want to do it. I am doing it. And, um, I'm also a TEDx creator license holder and speaker. Fantastic. Gary, it's quite a mouthful. Um, so in your life, when did you, um, start finding yourself interested in the concept of showing up as your true self. I have always my whole life wanted to show up as my true self. And have you ever listened to my Ted talk? Whatever you give up three feet from gold, check it out. The TEDx YouTube channel, um, shameless plug. I always felt that I was loving on a present of a mind. That I didn't have the courage to be my authentic self because I didn't have my cell phone, which was super, my confidence was so low and I felt like an impostor in life. I didn't have the courage to be my authentic self Tracy and I always wanted to be, and I always knew I wanted to be. So I went through life, not be in my authentic self for. My whole life. I'm going to say up until I started to be on the journey to be calming. I'm having the courage to be who I am now. I'm probably in my mid twenties. I'm going to say. Um, so when, when you were a teenager, how did you feel about yourself? I only, I would say I was popular. Um, I had boyfriends, I had girlfriends, I was popular at school. I was in the football teams. I was one of the X, Y and Zed awards. I was at a big social group. I, from a work in the middle-class family on the fear side of it, I would have had, you know, Yeah, a good life. And I, I suppose I did, but how I felt about myself was inside. I would have been very self-conscious. I would have been very unsecure. I would have been quite fragile on the inside, which Sean times would have manifested on the outside, but not, you know what I mean? I was quite good at hiding that, but that's quite exhausting. Hayden that have a not and word and security and lack of confidence and being nervous and, and overthinking and all those things that you would associate with that that's exhaust on level, not life, but awkward, play, being happy, you know, confidence or, or, uh, um, or perceived confidence. Um, And that was quite exhausting of my almost. And I do, I did, I love my life like that. I have to be honest. So, um, tell me, Gary, um, Is this a Catholic, um, description of all happy on the outside, but not so happy on the inside. That's probably, that's probably a rough description of a day of happiness. I had happy times I had happy moments. I did happy. I did things that made me happy, but I think I always, I never liked my own company, Tracy. Which is a good indicator of not like in your own self, which is an indicator of per cell phone, but, you know, which is, uh, on the kid or that you've can hang ups or issues that you need to eat. You're, you're carrying a whip on your shoulders. Like, like you're kind of not, we had advanced early, it was the on life from you're only your clothes. It's like, so I never liked my own company. Never, ever. Um, I like it a lot more. I, but I, I didn't want to, at that age, And tell me, um, as a, as a, as a child, um, you know, how, how did your parents manage that? Did they, were they aware of it? Did they not know it. No idea. My parents, um, are good people, working, people work their whole life, um, brought me up the best they could. Um, what's the emotional intelligence that they had and they're, they're, they're, they're well-respected people. And I would never, you know, on Julie critique them. Um, what I would say, and just for the context of this talk, it's important to say it. Is that maybe, maybe that's say affection or emotional intelligence or Prius or all those, all those things that we, that are people like you and I are champion them today. Maybe that sort of thing. Wasn't plentiful. And that wouldn't really have helped my, um, my, my persona or how I was. So, um, no, they didn't know, but no, I couldn't have talked to him anyway, you know? Okay. So, um, then let's move on with your journey. Now, here you are sitting, talking to me and you are empowering other people to show up as their authentic self. And you've obviously made it your mission to make a difference in the world in that way. Um, what. Um, what made you make that switch? What was that? Was that all home moment? What was the thing that happened? Because there's always a thing that happens isn't there. Yeah. Johnny knows something to end my Ted talk. I talk about this. This is a, this is a very profound conversation, you know? Um, I, I have always had an inquisitive mindset, always even when I was so inside anxious and nervous. And self-conscious, I always knew that I always, actually always felt a wee bit different, even though nobody else would have looked at me and said I was any different. I always felt different than not. I knew I had so much together. And it wasn't governor. I knew that I used to look at things that people thought were satisfactory and thank God I could doing much better, but I don't have the courage to say it, then the courage to go into it. And that I didn't do it. You know, ultimately kept my hand in and understood the back of the grip. And when I knew that I knew the answer traditional, or I could do that better, or I could do an R I should be putting my hand up, I would have liked that. So I've always had that insight where I knew there was more there a lot more, and that's why I felt different. Um, and then. I got married in the millennium 2000, I'm married 21 years or 20, 21 years this year. Very proud of that, um, in today's world, that so much movement. And, um, I met my father-in-law, um, a man called Marshall McAllen and little did I know, but that was going to change my life forever. Okay. And, and I'm going to say Marshall and my wife and the family. Actually shoot me. And I don't mean this is a dramatic statement. I'm saying this because I mean it from my heart and I've said it publicly many times or upset at a few times publicly. Um, they showed me how to love, you know, how to show affection. I remember I'll tell you a quick, funny story about, and it'll tell you about the, the, that moment. I remember the first night that I left my wife back their house. She was living at home with her parents and I left my wife back to the house and she brought me on to meet her mom for the first time when I was leaving her mom. Hugged and kissed me at the door. That was like, what's happening here? What's she doing? This is weird. That had never happened before, like in my life, like ever. Wow. And I was 20, I was 21 or 22 and I was like, this is a bit freaky. And I even said to my wife, then my wife to be at the time said, go to your mom's very friendly user, very OTT. She said, that's normal. That's, that's why we love. That's what we do. And that, that, that was the start. The reason I'm sharing, not us because that's the start of the journey. Um, that ha moment let's say was. On my wedding day and my father-in-law was giving the speech. No, he's no longer with us. He died five years ago suddenly. And my mother died five years ago as well. Then she, my wife lost her parents was done in eight months. And, um, my father-in-

    34 min

  5. 30/03/2021

    Andrew Weingart on being a conscious parent

    Andrew Weingart speaks to Tracy about being a conscious parent with your children, helping them develop their true selves. Andrew can be found on Instagram at www.instagram.com/elevatewithandrew/  Details of his course are here: https://linktr.ee/elevatewithandrew For 80% off the course, message Andrew direct for a promo code (or drop Tracy a note and she will connect you). Tracy can be contacted as follows: Website: www.tracykimberg.com Phone: 07928 154054 Facebook: www.facebook.com/Tracy.Kimberg.Counselling.Therapy.Coaching/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-kimberg-9564a3193/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/tracy_kimberg_hypnotherapist/ Hello and welcome to the waves of clarity. This is the 20th episode. Oh my goodness. I can't hardly believe it. It's been five months of weekly podcasts. And I want to thank you for listening for your support. I hope that you have really managed to listen to most of the episodes and that in each episode you found something valuable that has made a difference in your life. Let's be honest with each other. This last year has been an absolute nightmare at times, but we've also had loads of really special times and memories that we're going to carry with us for a very, very long time. But a lot of us have lost our motivation, our mojo, so to speak. Have you lost your mojo. Then this episode is exactly what you need to listen to. I have a guest, his name is Andrew Weingart. Andrew is a motivational speaker and he specializes in teaching people about mindfulness and also helping teenagers be better motivated and more mindful in their lives. Being a therapist is extremely rewarding. It can also be quite difficult sometimes listening to people's hardships and the troubles that they have in their lives, but there is nothing more. Wonderful for me then getting an amazing review from a client that's completed their course in therapy, or has completed the first step and is willing to carry on in the process of improving themselves and building their resilience throughout their lives. So, today I want to share with you a very special, um, review, which is from one of my clients. It's a young lad that. Really what amazed me. He walked into my office feeling really shy. And, um, the transformation that I saw in him over the three months that he came to see me was absolutely magnificent and made me very proud in a way, not of myself, but of him because he is the one that did the hard work. So this is his review in his own words, which I really love. I was nervous in the beginning and didn't like talking, but felt comfortable after the first session. I have learned how to be confident now. And I'm so thankful that I came and definitely recommend this. So this type of review is really what makes my job worth doing. I love it when people really feel the benefit of coming for therapy. Very important to remember is if anything, in today's episode, when I talk to Andrew resonates with you. Then I welcome you and I invite you to contact me. I'd love to have a discussion with you and see if there's anything we can do to help you. And if I can't help you, I can definitely refer you to someone that can help you. I'd also like to invite you to next week's episode, which is going to be focused on the importance of proper communication in your relationship, healthy communication. Open communication, which is vital for your relationship to thrive and grow. Let's get on with this week's episode, excited to introduce him. He is really interesting and I'm sure you're going to enjoy listening to everything he has to say. Welcome Andrew, to the waves of clarity podcast. I'm so honored to have you here. So I'm going to introduce you. I'd like you to introduce yourself and tell people about who you are. What you do and what your passions are. Well, thanks for that, Tracy. I appreciate it. I appreciate you taking the time out of your day and what you're doing here as well. Like providing a platform for myself and other people who want to help inspire others and create ways of clarity. Um, a little bit about me. Well, I grew up. Normal kid, um, in New Jersey, uh, was always like the life of the party, like just vibrant, uh, always joking around like just, just being a goof and felt so free. And, um, it wasn't until really that I hit sixth grade. I was 12 years old that I actually came down with Lyme disease. And it took, uh, four different hospitals to figure out what it was. Cause I had a rare case of a it's called Lyme meningitis, or I got double vision and my headaches were so bad. It felt like I would literally cry. And um, so the point of me telling that story is that was actually when I first can remember experiencing feeling bullied. Um, I received a card, a big like huge card. From my classmates and they mailed it and somehow they got it to the hospital. And I was reading, there was so many lovely things on it, but right in the dead center of the card, it said gay. And I had made up in my head that I knew the kid who said it. And it was the first time I actually experienced being bullied and. Really from that moment on now, looking back gradually, my confidence just started to diminish my willingness to shine my light and just not have a worry about what other people would think about me slowly started to diminish. And then I started to continually attract that because, um, the mind, you know, the thoughts that we have is what we continue to attract. So I started to attract more bullies. My older brother started to bully me, which seems pretty natural for an older brother, but that also affected me. Right. Um, and then from there, um, I went to, I. Got a bunch of injuries from high school sports. And because my injuries were so bad from sports and my body was out of alignment, but not only my body, my energetic body inside of me, it was out of alignment. I actually found yoga when I was 25 and it was, it was strictly just to heal my physical body. And then as I started to heal my physical body, I ended up meeting my. My Ukrainian teacher, who is like, uh, a Buddhist monk. And it was the first time that I experienced whatever anybody calls it, universe source creator, God. Right. I experienced that through his words and I said, wow, this is what I've been. Like I've felt that there was something else there. And my soul always knew. I always felt that was connected, but I Oh. But I never knew how to like get there. I was like, you know, where's the key to open the door to have this information until unlock this. And so I met him and I became a yoga instructor through his course. And, you know, since then I've done personal development trainings, um, and the training similar to landmark forum, which is big on development. And from there, I really, I just started coaching people. It was my passion to help other people. And one day just hit me. I said, Whoa. I said, if I had all of these tools and techniques that I have now, when I was a teenager or when I was 12, when I first got bullied, I wouldn't have allowed myself to go down this spiral. And I just see it. I'm like if we can catch, if we can educate teens before they get into this. And, and anybody, the sooner we get this tools, these tools and information, the more easily we can hold that true pureness that we are as a human being, or I believe that we're pure whole and complete from birth. It's just through our patterns, our conditionings, our habits, what we're. What we learned from our parents, even though they do the best that they can with vape, what they know, and also society and media and et cetera, is what programs us into someone who we think that we are, but it's not who we are. You know, like I did this little mini Ted talk. It was like, you're not who you think you are. And to let people know, it's like, well, what does that mean? It's like, well, all this person that you think you are is not actually, you it's just. All of the things that in experiences that you've. Grabbed from your life from media and what they tell you you should do in this and what your parents think is best for you. Most of the times, we're just, we're just mimicking our parents, but is that truly what we believe in our heart and soul that is most important to us that resonates with us. And I think this is a great segue into the whole parenting. And I specifically work with teens, but th but parenting in general, it's like I noticed oftentimes that. The parent believes and in right. Do mind. I understand that my way is the best. But they're doing it out of love. Right? That's the first thing I want to mention is like, I know that it's coming from love, but the team doesn't see it in that way. And the teen is like, they're rebelling because that's their, that's their development, mental part of their life. When they're looking to create their own identity and to create their own independence. And that's where the clashing between the two common, I think that's where a lot of the parenting issues come from. And, um, Yeah. So that's me. That's me. And, um, I'll pass it back to you, cause I'm sure you have some questions for me. I can go on forever. So when, um, when, um, the say, when I started talking about my job and I love my job, um, you know, I have to really, um, say to myself, you need to shut up and it's. Um, but, um, I think, um, when you think about how there's a lot of talk. About, um, having an awakening when you met life. Um, in the olden days, they used to refer to it as a midlife crisis. Now they've they refer to it as an awakening. Um, and. My theory is that the wakening comes exactly because of what you have just described because of how we've been told, how we are, how we should be, what we should believe in, how we should act and all that. And eventually we have a delayed reaction to realizing who we are, and that's when we have this awakening. When we older. Um, I was wondering, what do you think, um

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  6. 23/03/2021

    Helping Your Teen & Build Your Beliefs As A Parent (Meditation from episode 19)

    It can seem incredibly difficult helping teens through low moods and depression. This guided meditation (part of episode 19) can be downloaded for free to use whenever you wish. Tracy can be contacted as follows: Website: www.tracykimberg.com Phone: 07928 154054 Facebook: www.facebook.com/Tracy.Kimberg.Counselling.Therapy.Coaching/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-kimberg-9564a3193/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/tracy_kimberg_hypnotherapist/

    15 min

  7. 23/03/2021

    Helping Teens Through Difficult Times

    It can seem incredibly difficult helping teens through low moods and depression. In this episode, Tracy Kimberg brings you ten tips you can use to guide you and your teenager through challenging times. This episode is also followed by a guided meditation, which you can download for free and use whenever you wish. Tracy refers to two books: Beyond The Blues - Lisa M Schab The Feeling Good Handbook - Dr. David Burns Tracy can be contacted as follows: Website: www.tracykimberg.com Phone: 07928 154054 Facebook: www.facebook.com/Tracy.Kimberg.Counselling.Therapy.Coaching/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-kimberg-9564a3193/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/tracy_kimberg_hypnotherapist/

    33 min
  8. Release Stress

    16/03/2021

    Release Stress

    A meditation to help let go of stress and worry. Website: www.tracykimberg.com Phone: 07928 154054 Facebook: www.facebook.com/Tracy.Kimberg.Counselling.Therapy.Coaching/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-kimberg-9564a3193/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/tracy_kimberg_hypnotherapist/

    12 min
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Hello, I'm Tracy Kimberg - a hypnotherapist and resilient mind coach with many years of experience in therapeutic counselling, teenage mental health, relationship coaching and anxiety management. Every Tuesday, I bring you a new episode with tips and tools to help you stay healthy and happy - and most importantly, to just be yourself - overcoming the storms and tides of day-to-day life, mindfully and with resilience. Many episodes will include a free hypnosis session, to download and keep. Find out more at tracykimberg.com

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