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The podcast for GPs, hospital doctors and other professionals in high-stakes, high-stress jobs who want to thrive rather than just survive.

You studied for years, you're really good at what you do but you've noticed that you're starting to feel overwhelmed, overworked and under-resourced. You may be comparing yourself to a frog in boiling water - the heat has built up so slowly that you haven’t noticed the extra-long days becoming the norm. You may feel on the edge and trapped in the very job that you've spent years working towards.

Here's the problem, frogs only have two choices; stay and be boiled alive, or jump out of the pan. The good news is that you are not a frog. You have many more choices than you think you do. You don't have to quit, and nor should stress and burnout be inevitable.

It is possible to be master of your own destiny, to craft your work life and career so that you can thrive even in the most difficult of situations. There are simple changes you can make which will make a huge difference to your stress levels and help you enjoy life again.

Your host is Dr Rachel Morris, GP turned Executive Coach and Specialist in Resilience at Work who knows what it's like to feel like an exhausted frog. In the podcast, she'll be talking to friends, colleagues and experts all who have an interesting take on resilience for clever people in high-stakes, high-stress jobs so that together you can take back control to beat stress and burnout, survive and thrive.

You Are Not A Frog Dr Rachel Morris

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The podcast for GPs, hospital doctors and other professionals in high-stakes, high-stress jobs who want to thrive rather than just survive.

You studied for years, you're really good at what you do but you've noticed that you're starting to feel overwhelmed, overworked and under-resourced. You may be comparing yourself to a frog in boiling water - the heat has built up so slowly that you haven’t noticed the extra-long days becoming the norm. You may feel on the edge and trapped in the very job that you've spent years working towards.

Here's the problem, frogs only have two choices; stay and be boiled alive, or jump out of the pan. The good news is that you are not a frog. You have many more choices than you think you do. You don't have to quit, and nor should stress and burnout be inevitable.

It is possible to be master of your own destiny, to craft your work life and career so that you can thrive even in the most difficult of situations. There are simple changes you can make which will make a huge difference to your stress levels and help you enjoy life again.

Your host is Dr Rachel Morris, GP turned Executive Coach and Specialist in Resilience at Work who knows what it's like to feel like an exhausted frog. In the podcast, she'll be talking to friends, colleagues and experts all who have an interesting take on resilience for clever people in high-stakes, high-stress jobs so that together you can take back control to beat stress and burnout, survive and thrive.

    Episode 77 - Denial, Displacement and Other Ways We Neglect Ourselves with Dr Andrew Tresidder

    Episode 77 - Denial, Displacement and Other Ways We Neglect Ourselves with Dr Andrew Tresidder

    Dr Andrew Tresidder joins us to talk about denial, displacement and other ways medical practitioners and other professionals in high stress jobs neglect themselves.
    Episode Highlights
    [04:46] Burnout Among Health Practitioners
    Medical and health professionals don't understand health as a holistic concept.The health industry workload gets heavier every year.[07:23] Neglect Syndrome
    'Fine' means being fearful, insecure, neurotic, and emotionally imbalanced.Most people's first response to psychological needs is denial.All effects are avoidable.[10:05] The Pillars of Well-Being
    Well-being has five pillars: a social connection, taking notice, being active, learning, and giving.Andrew shares a sixth pillar: receiving.A relationship is about being energised or calmed by others.[13:03] What Stress Can Lead To
    Stress can lead to exhaustion and increased adrenaline.Practitioners need to know this isn't mental illness but exhaustion.Neglect makes people work harder to compensate.[15:39] Factors of Neglect
    It's easy to say that we need to manage our well-being.If we overwork ourselves, our performance gets worse.Improving well-being requires changing the workplace environment.[20:11] Why Resistance Exists
    Doctors and health practitioners often sacrifice themselves to help others.Health professionals are still human.[22:58] Insight Deficit
    Insight deficit occurs when you think you're invincible.Exhaustion is normalised.[26:17] How to Gain Better Health
    Medical education should include health and burnout avoidance.The sympathetic state activates our fight or flight response.The parasympathetic state is rest.[33:50] Rest Is Imperative
    Decompression from the alarm phase is difficult.Create a habit of rest and permit yourself to relax.Before helping others, help yourself first.[40:50] Andrew's Tips for Health and Well-Being
    Value quiet time, reflect on your values and take care of yourself.Preempt neglect to avoid burnout.Learn to ask for help and do it early.Enjoyed This Podcast?
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    Podcast Links
    Health and Self Care: Inner Balance for an Effective Life by Dr Andrew TresidderThe Somerset Emotional Wellbeing PodcastDare to Lead by Brene BrownYou Are Not A Frog Episode 56You Are Not A Frog Episode 64You Are Not A Frog Episode 68Connect with Andrew: Health and Self Care | Email

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    • 45 min
    Episode 76 - Tech Tips for Happy Hybrid Working with Dr Hussain Gandhi

    Episode 76 - Tech Tips for Happy Hybrid Working with Dr Hussain Gandhi

    Dr. Hussain Gandhi, or Dr. Gandalf of eGPlearning, joins us in this episode. He is a GP, PCN director, and host of the eGP Learning Podblast that shares deep dives into health tech for primary care. He shares his tech and time hacks for hybrid working to survive and thrive in the new virtual environment.
    If you want to find out how to improve your hybrid working experience, then tune in to this episode!

    [07:40] Dr. Gandalf’s Top Three Hacks for Hybrid Working
    Use a password locker to safe-keep all your different combinations Booking online meetings save time and effort. Be sure to move around when you have loads of meetings. Don’t sit all day long. [24:11] The Key to Good Lighting and Audio During Meetings
    Good lighting makes you look engaged and keeps you awake. It’s best to use natural lighting. Use a headset or good audio so noises like high pitches or whines will not interrupt others. Use a post-it with a note ‘look here’ for your cameras.[29:30] How to Use Keyboard Shortcuts for Meetings
    Learn how to mute, unmute, raise your hand, on/off your camera during meetings.If you’re the host, learn the keyboard shortcuts such as ‘mute all’. [31:45] What Are Hybrid Meetings?
    Hybrid meetings combine online meetings and face-to-face meetings at the same time.[42:25] The Ideal Number of People in Chat Rooms
    The best number is six people, whether face-to-face or online. [46:11] On Breakout Rooms and Things He Would Change 
    Establish ground rules from the start.Breakout rooms are challenging for hybrid meetings.[48:56] Last Bits of Advice on Hybrid Working
    Have some time for yourself to refresh and rest Establish boundariesHave space between your virtual self, work-self and home-self.Resources
    Find out more about the Resilient Team Academy for Busy Leaders.You Are Not A Frog Episode 16 - Productivity Hacks for a Calm and Effective Life with Dr GandalfConnect with Dr Hussain Ghandi: Twitter | LinkedIneGPlearning: Website | YouTube | Podcast | TwitterThree simple steps to not take a bad day home (The Third Space), a TEDx talk by Dr Adam FraserFree to Focus: A Total Productivity System to Achieve More by Doing Less by Michael HyattEnjoy This Podcast?
    For more updates and episodes, visit the You Are not A Frog website. You can also tune in on Google Podcasts, Apple Podcasts or Spotify.
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    • 53 min
    Episode 75 - How to Escape the Drama Triangle and Stop Rescuing People

    Episode 75 - How to Escape the Drama Triangle and Stop Rescuing People

    In this episode, Annie Hanekom chats with Rachel about how we need to step out of the drama triangle to have a better and healthier relationship with our colleagues.


    Episode Highlights


    [04:28] Enneagram Type 2 or The Rescuer


    In its simplest form, an Enneagram is a profiling tool.[06:09] The Rescuer in Its Truest Form


    Type 2s or The Rescuers are motivated by the need to feel accepted, loved and included.[08:24] What Becomes Problematic in Being a Type 2


    Helping for too long might form resentment and impatience.Inherent in the term ‘The Rescuer’ is a sense of superiority for those who do the rescuing and inferiority to those who are being rescued.[12:00] Understanding the Drama Triangle


    The whole drama triangle and sliding between the roles of rescuer, victim, and persecutor is a confusing slippery slope.Our behaviour is a reaction to the kind of role we assume or assigned to us.[18:39] How to Recognise the Role You’re Taking


    Create pauses in your day-to-day schedule to give yourself some ‘me time’.You’re giving yourself a new sense of clarity.[24:04] Pausing and Taking Control


    When we’re busy, we fall into the default of assuming these roles.When we find peace in our minds, we can take control of what’s taking place.[27:36] Stepping Out of the Drama Triangle 


    Acknowledge the role you’re assuming in the drama triangle.Look for other options and shift the roles.[27:36] Taking the Coaching Approach


    You’re helping the person sort out their problems and not taking their problems as your own.[33:27] Language and Shifting Roles


    We can change our roles for the better with the language that we use.Using power language can empower you and puts you in a position of choice.[41:29] Shifting the Mindset in Tricky Situations


    Taking a pause will be helpful in tricky situations.Refrain from assessing and doing a deep reflection when we are unhappy because it won’t do well.[45:19] Getting into That Coach Role


    They’ll form a habit of asking themselves about their options rather than taking the role of the victim.[50:40] Annie’s Tips to Get Out of the Drama Triangle 


    Acknowledge what you’re going through. Give yourself time to process things.Don’t beat yourself up.Watch your language.Before you give advice, ask the other person what they think.Enjoyed This Podcast?


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    Virtual Fatigue Buster ToolkitResilient Team Academy for Busy LeadersYou Are Not A Frog Episode 65 Support the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)

    • 54 min
    Episode 74 - Managing Your Time in a System Which Sucks with Dr Ed Pooley

    Episode 74 - Managing Your Time in a System Which Sucks with Dr Ed Pooley

    Dr Ed Pooley joins us to share his take on time management techniques for busy individuals.
    Episode Highlights
    [05:38] The Importance of Maturity and Exploration in Medicine
    Entering medicine later in life can give you more experience under your belt.Ed also thinks it’s important to explore different processes outside of medicine.He examines what processes work and applies these in his practice of medicine.[10:33] How to Manage Competing Demands
    Reflect on three types of demands: value demands, internal failure demands and external failure demands.[18:11] Time Management Techniques on a System Level
    Personal time management techniques are essential not enough. You also need to have a systems approach.Recognise the system you work in and make adjustments for better results.[21:46] Quick Ways to Address Internal Failure Demands
    GP setting: move from siloed working to outcome-based working.Meetings: do most of the work beforehand and use the meeting to discuss key points.Don’t use meetings as a proxy for team cohesion.[26:00] Time Management Techniques for the Workplace
    Allow yourself to rest from working during your free time.You can see what each person needs to make their day better in terms of time management. By doing so, you’re able to work in a happier environment.[30:43] On Affecting Change as a Doctor
    Being in medicine becomes your identity. And so, when we struggle with things like time management, it becomes an identity threat.Instead of complaining about someone’s work, approach them and discuss the problem.[35:05] Improving Workplace Communication
    Make SMART objectives SMARTER.The additional E stands for emotion. The R stands for rationale and review.[41:44] How to Voice Out Your Concerns
    Instead of criticising, ask exploratory questions.[46:29] Ed’s Top 3 Time Management Techniques
    Think of the time before thinking about the task.If you’re struggling with completing tasks, break them down into task management, attention management, knowledge management, and system management.You have four options: do it, delegate it, defer it or delete it.Enjoyed This Podcast?
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    Podcast Links
    Virtual Fatigue Buster ToolkitYANAF Episode 69YANAF Episode 70Getting to Yes by Roger Fisher, William Ury, and Bruce Patton Managing Time in Medicine by Dr Ed PooleyDifficult Conversations: Understanding Communication & Psychology in Health (Facebook group)Support the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)

    • 52 min
    EASTER REPLAY: What we're talking about when we talk about compassion fatigue

    EASTER REPLAY: What we're talking about when we talk about compassion fatigue

    We're having a short break over Easter but I wanted to share one of our earlier episodes with you again. This was recorded and released long before the COVID pandemic but I think it's never been more relevant than now. 
    In this episode (originally released on 12th November 2019), Rachel is joined by Agnes Otzelberger, a trainer, research and activist with a special interest in what happens when we tire of ‘doing good’.
    We chat about what can happen to carers, healthcare staff and humanitarian workers when they become overwhelmed and burnt out by the magnitude of the needs and the suffering of the people they are dealing with on a day to day basis. We discuss how the symptoms affect us and ultimately can make us disillusioned and can end up with us leaving our job or becoming ill.
    This has traditionally been known as ‘compassion fatigue’ but the surprising thing is that neuroscience has shown that compassion fatigue doesn’t actually exist – what we end up suffering from is ‘empathic burnout’ or ‘fatigue’. When we hear other people suffering, the empathy area of our brain is activated – the same bit of the brain that experiences physical pain.
    Fascinating research has shown that whether we suffer from empathic fatigue or not depends on which part of our brain we are using to process the things we see and hear. Buddhist monks who are able to access the ‘compassion’ area of the brain through the ‘empathy’ area in response to suffering seem to be immune from empathic fatigue.
    Agnes shares the research and reading she has been doing around this topic, discusses the treatments and strategies to prevent it, and shares some simple tips and methods for avoiding empathic fatigue and protecting us from its toxic effect.
    This podcast is a must for those who have ever felt that their compassion has just run out…

    Podcast links

    Download our free Virtual Fatigue Buster Toolkit 

    www.thegoodjungle.org Agnes’s website
    Blog on compassion fatigue https://www.thegoodjungle.org/blog/2019/4/9/burning-out-for-people-and-planet-4-dangerous-self-care-myths
    How Can I Help, Ram Dass and Paul Gorman
    Standing at the edge, Joan Halifax
    RAIN meditations at https://www.tarabrach.com/rain/
    Contact Agnes hello@thegoodjungle.org
    The Good Jungle Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/thegoodjungle/
    Sign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resources
    For more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website www.youarenotafrog.co.uk and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work.
    Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for other organisations at 
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    • 48 min
    Episode 73 - How to Find Your Tribe: The PMGUK story with Dr Nazia Haider and Dr Katherine Hickman

    Episode 73 - How to Find Your Tribe: The PMGUK story with Dr Nazia Haider and Dr Katherine Hickman

    Do you feel lonely and isolated at work? Do you feel as if you have no one with whom to share your issues? Are you looking for your tribe—your community of like-minded individuals?
    We sometimes separate our professional lives from our personal lives and are totally different people at home. It can be challenging to share your concerns with colleagues but there’s value in sharing vulnerability. Building friendships and having peer support at work is also beneficial to our performance and overall well-being. During this time of limited social interactions, having a strong and supportive work community may keep us from feeling alone. Beyond this, sharing your vulnerabilities creates a culture of acceptance and support. 
    Dr. Nazia Haider and Dr. Katherine Hickman join us on this episode to discuss the importance of a work community. We talk about the inspiring stories from the online community they created, the Physicians Mums Group UK (PMGUK). Nazia and Katherine also share their tips on how to increase connections and find your own tribe at work.
    If you want to know how to create a network of supportive colleagues and feel more connected, then tune into this episode.
    Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
    Hear the inspiring stories from the Physician Mums Group UK online community.Learn about how to get support and find your own community of peers online or offline.Find out Nazia and Katherine’s top tips on how to increase connection, kindness and support in your life.Resources
    Check out our Permission to Thrive membership so we can help you thrive at work and in life!You Are Not a Frog Episode 2 - Tiny habits, big changes, with Dr. Katherine Hickman To join PMGUK, check their admin page. Physician Mums Group UK WebsiteResilient GP Facebook groupFrontline Counselling - Trauma Informed CounsellingContact Naz or Katherine at pmguk.org@gmail.com Connect with Nazia: LinkedInConnect with Katherine: Twitter | LinkedInSupport the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)

    • 38 min

Customer Reviews

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57 Ratings

57 Ratings

GardenGP ,

You are not a frog

Have become a firm fan of this show and each week find something valuable and relevant to my job as a GP. This podcast has helped me learn lots about myself and changed the way I think about my interactions with patients and colleagues. Would highly recommend-Rachel is a great host and her guest speakers are brilliant and so inspiring. Thank you for sharing such good advice week after week!

Anaesthetist in Sheffield ,

You are not a frog

Rachel Morris and her guests podcasts have been such an important part of keeping me mentally well during the COVID-19 pandemic as a frontline worker in medicine.I have shared with many colleagues who have equally enjoyed them and found them helpful too. Easy to listen to ,informative with great podcast notes and links to referenced sources and TED talks . I would recommend to anyone who needs to redress the balance between work and home and to discover that we can still find joy in our work What we are feeling is shared by many but we need to recognise when we may have lost the balance in our lives.Rachel supports us through her podcasts to find a way to thrive again . I would highly recommend to all doctors and other healthcare professionals.

Bristol GP ,

I am not a frog

I am a GP. this podcast has really helped change the way I think about things when they get overwhelming so thank you and it is fun to listen to .

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