Heal Your Relationships Kavetha Sundaramoorthy

Securely attached people have 10 universal habits.
Once I figured this out, I wrote them down to carry with me at all times.
Because it helps me figure out exactly what to do when I feel hurt, annoyed, or at odds with someone I care about.

It took me 15 years of trial and error to compile this list. I hope to save you that time.

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P.S: If you are are struggling with repetitive arguments, disconnection and/or resentments in your relationships,

And all the information out there - the Gottman books, I-statements etc.- feel like band-aids at best until the next argument happens,

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See, when our core wounds get triggered by our loved ones, we react before we can think.

Hence why all the "communication tips" seldom work or produce lasting change.

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Do you have an anxious attachment style?
Here are 8 oddly specific traits that you might be struggling with, and what you can do right away to begin healing.
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For years, I would get hurt, triggered and worked up easily.
And I tried everything that my therapist suggested.
Counting to 10, using I-statements, deep breaths….nothing worked.
It took a couple years, but I finally figured out why.
It was because I was not engaging my frontal lobe. When my frontal lobe is not online, I can’t stop the triggering thoughts and feelings.
But how do you switch your frontal lobe on?
That’s what I will share with you in this episode.
This can change your life if you use it.
Need more hands-on help? Join our free FB group for monthly live Q&A’s with Dr. Sun —>
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Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is the power to choose our response..." - Viktor Frankl.
We know that we should pause when we are triggered, so we can choose a different response. A healthier one, that is more aligned with our values.
But it’s so hard to do at the moment, right??
In today’s episode, I will show you HOW to actually pause, even if you’ve tried and failed a million times before.
And in next week’s free challenge, I will share the entire system to find and heal your triggers, so you can stay calm in any storm. Register here —>
https://bit.ly/BetheCalminAnyStormChallenge

Most couples therapy goes in circles because they jump straight to communication tools.
The problem is, without building a foundation of inner calm and confidence, no amount of communication tools will work in the heat of the moment!
But, how do we build inner calm and confidence??
There are 3 parts to it - Emotion Regulation, Know and Meet Your Needs, Honor Your Boundaries
Emotion regulation includes being able to heal your own triggers and wounds from the past, so they don’t keep holding you hostage in the present.
This is vitally important.
In this episode, and in my upcoming free workshop, I will share 4 simple steps to healing your triggers.
Here is the link to register for our upping workshop (it’s free, and replays will be sent to all those who register)—> https://bit.ly/BetheCalminAnyStormChallenge

Do you postpone your dreams and aspirations to “someday” in the future?
I've been there.
The bummer was that the future always seemed….well, in the future lol.
Just out of reach.I finally realized that what I had was a wish, not a plan.So I went to work trying to bring my future self into my present.
After many many failures, I stumbled onto a 3 calendar system that has truly changed my life.
We now teach it in great detail inside Mastery (our monthly membership program).
In today’s podcast, I share an overview of this system, so you can run with it and make it your own!
Enjoy!
Need more hands-on help? Join our free FB group for monthly live Q&A’s with Dr. Sun —> https://bit.ly/HYRFacebookGroup