Hole in My Heart Podcast Laurie Krieg

If you’re a parent or mentor of young kids right now like we are, I am pretty sure you could marinate in fear every day of the week. 
Add the fact that it is up to us parents and mentors to teach these kids facts and wisdom about sexuality and body safety, and you can just find us in a panic attack on the floor every-other day of the week.
But what if we didn’t have to? What if we could learn how to wisely lead them in the midst of this wild world?
Today, psychologist and author Julia Sadusky helps us to do just that. Together we discuss:
• Why is avoiding conversations about bodies and sex lead to a lack of safety for our kids?
• What is the difference between sharing sexualized content with kids and talking about sexuality with kids?
• How do we non-anxiously but wisely engage body-exploration that kids naturally do?
• What are family rules and why might I consider having them? 
• What if we already feel like we failed as parents and mentors of young kids? How can we recover missed years?
| Highlights |
“What is beautiful about parenthood is you get to be this imperfect representation to the world and to your kids of what we do when we fall short of the glory of God.” —Julia Sadusky
“You will either be the first to have the sexuality conversations or the last.” —Julia Sadusky
“What we know from know from research on childhood sexual abuse that the number one thing that protects children and makes it less likely for them to experience sexual abuse in childhood is for them to know the accurate terminology of their private parts. When I learned that it blew my mind and it made me think to myself: If we could get all Christians on the same page that we are going to do this, sexual abuse in childhood in our generations can go down markedly.” —Julia Sadusky
“Young people are naturally curious about everything… We want to scaffold and support that learning. But without guidance from the primary people in their corner, young people will go elsewhere.” —Julia Sadusky
| QOTW |
Are you an ice or no-ice person? And what shape does it need to take? (Square, round, or perhaps Death Star shaped??)
| Do the Next Thing |
Julia’s book, Start Talking to Your Kids About Sex 
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It’s that time again: Let’s take your questions and try to respond with wisdom!
Here are the ones we respond to today!
How do you know when or if you need to move on from a therapist?
How can we walk with people experiencing unwanted sexual desires?
How do I recover my soul from burnout?
How do I talk with my kids about a family member who is transitioning?
How do I know if a temptation is spiritual attack or fruit from my sinful nature?
| Highlights |
“Our kids do not have to be fed rage and othering in order to cultivate a heart that is both passionate for truth and grieves over sin.” —Laurie Krieg
“If you are working harder than those you are caring for—that is a recipe for burnout.” —Matt Krieg
“People who transition from male to female are never going to actually be a woman. But can we know that, and maybe even say that, but can we speak it from a heart that is tender and compassionate while empathetically thinking, ‘Man, doesn’t it stink that idols don’t work?’”—Laurie Krieg
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We mention Journey Well here or here
We talk about Jay Stringer’s book Unwanted here
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Today, we conclude our two-part series looking at strategies to intentionally and evangelistically approach Pride Month. 
To continue the conversation, we talk with Elizabeth Delgado Black who is an evangelist and the co-founder and president of Kaleidoscope. Together, we talk about practical ways to love LGBTQ people like Jesus as well as: 
Can we talk a little bit about language? Why use LGBTQ language at all?
How do LGBTQ people in New York City seem to view Christians generally? Why?
How does Elizabeth’s nonprofit seek to love LGBTQ people into the Kingdom of God?
What contextual ways does she care for her community?
What fruit is she seeing from what she and her team do?
| Highlights |
“You don't have to invent something on your own. Some of the most powerful work that we do is with other organizations because they do not expect that a Christian is going to want anything to do with them.” —Elizabeth Delgado Black
“I’m doing missional work, but people are not a mission.” —Elizabeth Delgado Black
“How can we share the good news of Christ if we see certain people as completely other and unworthy? Then whatever we share is no longer good news.” —Elizabeth Delgado Black
 
| QOTW |
What is your most *you* music? (Ya’ll are too funny…)
 
| Do the Next Thing |
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Some Christians write off June’s Pride festivals as Sodom and Gomorrah. They don’t think anyone there could possibly want God.
Are we so sure about that?
At least two ministries in the U.S. are regularly going to Pride festivals in their areas, and they are seeing people come to know Jesus because of their presence, preaching, and practical love of neighbor.
This week, we interview a street evangelist who has been going to Grand Rapids, Michigan’s Pride Festival for the last five years. We ask:
Why does he go?
What heart does he have when he goes?
What pushback does he receive?
What fruit does he see from his going?
What can we learn from his work?
You’re not going to want to miss these episodes.
| Highlights |
“We are either open and affirming or we are openly condemning, but in the middle ground is the gospel.” —Stephen Nylen
“They will not know if I do not go. So I have to go. But if you’re going to preach and your feet aren’t beautiful (Westboro Baptist, legalists, moralists, open and affirming, or openly condemning) then you’re not preaching the right gospel.” —Stephen Nylen
“If you’re a firefighter and you see a fire, then your calling is to go. And so I go.” —Stephen Nylen
| QOTW |
What do you always need instructions for? (Making rice, Mac and cheese, or using a lawnmower?)
 
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Find everything about Stephen’s work here
Or on his FB here
Or here
His minidoc on the ministry here
And his two-minute gospel presentation here
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When we are going through suffering, we don’t usually think, “Hmm, what treasures might God have for me to discover here?”
It just feels like suffering.
However, author and major stroke survivor, Katherine Wolf, has a message for us: God has gems for us to find in the darkness. “If you have to go through hardship, why not get the treasure? My goodness, don’t waste the pain,” she says.
What else do we talk about?
What exactly are these “treasures” anyway?
How should we respond to our friends’ immediate suffering?
What if we are in a major depressive season? Is there hope for us? 
What if we don’t think our struggles are worth even naming as “suffering”? 
What steps can we take in the midst of a hard season to find hope?
// Highlights:
“Before we can ever accept the circumstances of our life, we have to go through the process of grieving the life we thought we should have had.” --Katherine Wolf
“The gift we can give one another as the body of Christ is to sprint toward one another’s pain and suffering.” --Katherine Wolf
“We need to remember that we are called and assigned to our stories.” --Katherine Wolf
“What saved my life was the logic of it all: If I should have died, I would have died. I did not die, therefore God has purpose in my being in this body and on this planet in this moment.” --Katherine Wolf
“We need less people telling you what to think in the pain and more just being with you in the pain.” --Katherine Wolf
// Question of the Week:
What two random things are in your junk drawer right now? 
 
// Do the Next Thing:
Katherine’s amazing new devotional/reflection book? Find it here
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“Hope in the gospel and discouragement are not mutually exclusive,” Pastor Derwin Gray encouraged us on today’s episode. 
But, how is that possible? The world can feel so defeating:
Politics, racial division, pastor scandals, congregant sin, and the drudgery of faithfully trying to do this thing called advancing the Kingdom of God wherever we are called can overwhelm anyone. How can we both experience grief, discouragement, or mourning, and allow it to propel us further into the heart of God?
Author and pastor of one of the fastest growing churches in America, Derwin Gray, preaches exactly the answer and exactly what weary souls needed to hear today.
 
// Highlights:
 
“When I find my heart becoming cynical I know that I have stepped out of grace and into self righteousness.” —Derwin Gray
“I’m finding encouragement because that tomb in Jerusalem is still empty.” —Derwin Gray
“We need more local pastors not teaching moralism, sin management, left-leaning secular ideologies or Pharisaical rightism. We need them to preach the gospel-centered, beautiful, bloody resurrection power of Jesus.” —Derwin Gray
 
// QOTW:
 
What is your favorite sign of spring?
 
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