31 episodes

Welcome to my podcast Candle In A Dark Room. I will tell you the story of my life, how I survived trauma and how I live in recovery today. We will interview special guests and discuss all of the "off limit" subjects. This podcast has something for everyone.

Candle In A Dark Room Desi Garcia

    • Mental Health

Welcome to my podcast Candle In A Dark Room. I will tell you the story of my life, how I survived trauma and how I live in recovery today. We will interview special guests and discuss all of the "off limit" subjects. This podcast has something for everyone.

    S 2, Ep 14: "Carried by grace" w/ Allie Whitworth

    S 2, Ep 14: "Carried by grace" w/ Allie Whitworth

    In today’s episode I sat down with this beautiful and inspiring momma, Allie Whitworth.
    Allie was married to her high school sweet heart Cale, until everything changed a year and a half ago when he unexpectedly lost his life at just 27 years old while recovering from the flu. They had two daughters together and new baby boy who was only 6 months old. They had just built a house together and were living their best life. They had a beautiful life and endless love for one another. This story breaks your heart because of what this women went through and is still recovering from. She lost the love of her life and was left taking care of their 3 children, something she never thought she would do at 27 years old. Allie is a freakin warrior and even though this world has tried to knock her down, she continues to be an amazing mom and live life to the fullest everyday, because she knows that’s what her husband Cale would have wanted for her and their children. I’m so grateful Allie decided to share her story with me and all of you! I know others out there are grieving the loss of a loved ones and I’m hoping Allies story brings you encouragement, especially to those who have lost a spouse. Please go show Allie some love! 💛

    You can follow Allie on instagram @alliexwhitworth ✨Make sure you LISTEN AND SHARE SHARE SHARE! Also don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE to this podcast so you are notified when new episodes are released, AND of course make sure you follow our page on Instagram and Facebook @candleinadarkroom

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    • 52 min
    S 2, Ep 13: Silent no more w/ my LA girls

    S 2, Ep 13: Silent no more w/ my LA girls

    In this episode I got to see down with 5 amazing women! Cassie Scerbo, Seak Smith, Amber Rose which of who have all already been guests on my podcast and are here for amazing support. Then we have two new amazing women that I’ve had a chance to meet because of Cassie! Brittany Sugarman and Alexa Mey. Brittany and Alexa talk about their experience with sexual assault. They both live and work in the entertainment industry and know a lot of important people so because of that they felt they couldn’t tell their stories. Until now. Brittany who is a professional dancer for celebs like Lady Gaga and Jlo is also Cassie’s BFF. Today she talks about the sexual assault that happened to her from a very known dance producer. Brittany now knows from more than one person he’s done it to multiple others. He’s an “important” guy who thinks he can’t be touched so he has gotten away with it for too long! So Brittany takes her power back by telling her truth and without holding back! Something that’s incredibly brave! Alexa who is a beautiful model and a good friend of Cassie’s as well also sat down with us and told us about two different incidents of assault. One that was out of her control when she was drugged at a modeling gig and one about when she lost her virginity. These women are incredible and I am so grateful to have met them and sat down with them so they could tell their truth! They are so freakin brave and I’m so proud of them both for doing this hard thing and talking about these intense and vulnerable topics! Please go show them some love!
    You can follow all these ladies on instagram 
    @cassiescerbo and she has two others @boo2bullying and @b2b1on1
    @brittsugarman1
    @alexamey
    @amberrosebud_
    @seak_smith
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    • 1 hr 29 min
    S 2, Ep 12: "Grace And Grit" w/ Nola Hayes

    S 2, Ep 12: "Grace And Grit" w/ Nola Hayes

    I got to sit down with my friend Nola Hayes. Nola is a survivor of child sexual abuse by a family member, sexual assault, she's an activist and the co founder of the podcast "Sex, Love and you". She is also an actress, dancer and the social media director for the Do good bus. In this episode Nola talks about how she didn't remember her trauma until she was an adult and the damage that did to her once she remembered. Nola talks about how her trauma affected her so much which ended up resulting in an eating disorder, substance abuse and unhealthy sexual activity. She talks about the hard work she has had to do on herself and with her trauma to truly get to a good place not only mentally, but also physically. She also talks about how she has learned to take her sexuality back after her trauma without guilt or shame which is a very common feeling/response that survivors struggle with after their trauma. This was a great episode with great information on how to recover through trauma in a healthy way before you're too destructive to yourself and to feel empowered within yourself. 
    You can follow Nola on instagram @littlebird787 or @dogoodbus ✨ Make sure you LISTEN AND SHARE SHARE SHARE! Also don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE to this podcast so you are notified when new episodes are released, AND of course make sure you follow our page on Instagram and Facebook @candleinadarkroom


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    • 45 min
    S 2, Ep 11: "Deceived and trafficked" w/ Jose Alfaro

    S 2, Ep 11: "Deceived and trafficked" w/ Jose Alfaro

    On this episode I got to sit down with my friend Jose. Jose is a Human Trafficking Survivor, Public Speaker, Author, Advocate and Activist. Jose was physically and sexually abused as a child. He did not have the love and support of his parents or family because he was "too feminine" and later came out as gay, and his father strongly disapproved. When he was a lost teenager looking for love and acceptance, he was put into human trafficking through a massage business. He was a young teenager who was put in a dangerous, uncomfortable and forced situation by a way older man who he thought was his friend and cared about him. After 3 months he was able to get out of the situation physically, but mentally its something that took work and that he has been carrying with him for years. He is ready to speak up and bring awareness to this situation because unfortunately its a very common issue. You can follow Kay on instagram @joselewisalfaro ✨ Make sure you LISTEN AND SHARE SHARE SHARE! Also don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE to this podcast so you are notified when new episodes are released, AND of course make sure you follow our page on Instagram and Facebook @candleinadarkroom

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    • 1 hr 33 min
    S 2, Ep 10: "20 years silent... until now"

    S 2, Ep 10: "20 years silent... until now"

    In this episode I sat down with one of my brothers closest friends, Zach Deardorff. Zach is a survivor of child sexual abuse at the hands of his own brother.  1 in 6 boys are sexually abused or assaulted, and unfortunately Zach falls into that statistic. He talks about how he was trapped in a life of abuse with no one to count on and protect him including the relationship with his toxic father. Zach had to basically raise himself and figure out life on his own at a young age which has not been an easy road. Zach never reported his brother, and only in recent years he told his dad about the abuse. Zach talks about how he tried to numb himself by using substances, having toxic relationships and always being in chaos. Zach has been through hell and back, but he has worked hard to be where he is now. Even though he still struggles at times, Zach now has a beautiful wife, a house, has a relationship with God and has cut ties with his toxic relationship with his family for his own mental health. It was important to have Zach on the podcast to help break the stigma on male sexual abuse/assault. It can happen to anyone and it is nothing to be ashamed of. Abuse does not discriminate. Im so proud of where Zach is today and I'm proud of him for turning his life around and breaking the cycle. Please show Zach some support so more men feel comfortable with telling their truth no matter what it is. Zach does not have social media, but if you would like to speak with him just let me know and I can put you in contact. ✨ Make sure you LISTEN AND SHARE SHARE SHARE! Also don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE to this podcast so you are notified when new episodes are released, AND of course make sure you follow our page on Instagram and Facebook @candleinadarkroom

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    • 53 min
    S 2, Ep 9: "Unapologetically me” w/ Kay Kenkins

    S 2, Ep 9: "Unapologetically me” w/ Kay Kenkins

    Todays episode is with the beautiful Kay Jenkins. On this episode Kay and I dive deep into her life, how she grew up and the traumatic events that changed her life and made her who she is today. On the outside Kay is a beautiful, fit, confident and an independent strong women. She is a top real estate agent here in Utah, a business consultant, life coach and a model. But Kay has not always had the life she has now. She grew up in a trailer park in a toxic environment with parents that were addicts. Kay has one older brother name Kyler. They grew up with basically only being able to count on each other and were best friends. Today she talks about the night her life changed forever with the traumatic accident involving her brother. Its honest and raw and will bring tears to your eyes, but at the end a smile in your heart. With everything Kay has endeared she could have went down a completely different and toxic path, but after some time and a lot of self help, she made the choice to have a better life and to learn from her past and to make her brother proud. Kay is incredibly strong and a perfect example of turning beauty into ashes. 

    You can follow Kay on instagram @kay_jenkins.co ✨ Make sure you LISTEN AND SHARE SHARE SHARE! Also don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE to this podcast so you are notified when new episodes are released, AND of course make sure you follow our page on Instagram and Facebook @candleinadarkroom

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    • 51 min

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