s0 wet s0 dry

s0 wet s0 dry
s0 wet s0 dry

Fiji & Autumn explore sex, relationships, and personal identity through an intersectional feminist lens where pop culture, internet culture, and reality collide. We unpack tough topics and challenge norms to expand our understanding of self and the society that shapes it. From the online gender wars to misunderstood kinks to relearning how to date, we’re somewhere between wet, dry, and fxcking confused. Listen in on our FaceTime calls for the nuanced reality check that only a best friend (and some research) can provide 💦🌵💕 🎙️new episodes every thursday🎙️ Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/s0wets0dry/support

  1. 2 DAYS AGO

    a gender wars timeline: 1st wave of feminism - rise of the manosphere (part 1)

    This week on s0 wet s0 dry, Fiji and Autumn deep dive the political and dating gender wars with part 1 of this 3-part series. From the first wave of feminism and the men’s liberation movement to the birth of the manosphere and girlboss feminism, we’re running through an intersectional timeline of the gender wars to see how tf we go here. Part 2 comes out next week where cover the gender wars from Me Too and the rise of Andrew Tate to the present day. Part 3 will be out the following week for a full analysis of the political and dating gender wars. We WILL leave things out because we couldn’t possibly fit everything into one episode, but if there is a pivotal moment that you think we left out please please comment below and share. Our goal is to start a conversation and share insights🫶🏻 Suggested episodes: Gender Wars: https://youtu.be/ZYv4Zs03Ysg?si=KDAfH4PZvo8wtujg Bumble was never for women: https://youtu.be/cYz6BjjTZwM?si=yBGkVlD58oJzZqzO Humiliation content and onlyfans: https://youtu.be/j3GlbzodE0k?si=1qxBpIM1K_WgGXta Sex positive feminism: https://youtu.be/Y1kRMxoO6Uc?si=AieSdtvbCuq2Us9P We highly recommend  @FDSignifire  for more on the gender wars. Sources: https://docs.google.com/document/d/103pKZ8kBbGjWVDd1RdDcp6IJvhyApaxFWQBnX9iIFRc/edit?tab=t.0 Join our community of confused pussies💦🌵 follow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry the s0 wet s0 dry team: Autumn (host, editor) instagram: @autumnkaira twitter: @autumnkaira tiktok: @autumnkaira Fiji (host, editor) instagram: @s0wet twitter: @s0wet tiktok: @fijithesiren youtube: @s0wet Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist) instagram: @xlaomedia email: xlaomedi4@gmail.com A.I.R. (Music Producer) instagram: @airgoincrazy *This content is for entertainment, journalistic, and educational purposes. We do not own the rights to the content from other creators in this episode.* --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/sh... Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/sh... --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/s0wets0dry/support

    2h 56m
  2. 5 DEC

    Lily Philips and Bonnie Blue: 101 bodies in one day and onlyfans predator ?!

    This week on s0 wet s0 dry, Fiji and Autumn deep dive Lily Philips and Bonnie Blue. We’re talking: Pleasure activism, sex work under patriarchy, Lily Philips and her 101 men in one day vlog, why Lily Philips got into porn, the physical realities of porn, kink vs reality, vlogging behind the scenes as a sex worker and the backlash, shaming sex workers online, porn as performance, performer personas, what qualifies as a body?, breaking the fourth wall in porn, amateur porn vs professional porn, aftercare, do all sex workers have trauma?, the problem with Bonnie Blue, Lily Philips and Bonnie Blue’s beef, the barely legal porn category, the ethics of kink, the paradox of sex work, owning your sexuality vs over-sexualizing yourself, the decentralization of the porn industry, porn entrepreneurs, the rise of web cam work, how much is too much on social media, when sex work becomes your entire personality, porn addiction, listener stories, and more!👀 Intro 00:01:15 - 00:02:39 Putting sex work into perspective 00:02:39 - 00:10:37 Lily Philips: 101 guys in one day 00:10:37 - 00:49:50 The problem with Bonnie Blue 00:49:50 - 01:39:23 The paradox of sex work 01:39:23 - 01:56:37 The integration of porn and social media 01:56:37 - 02:18:31 Porn addiction 02:18:31 - 02:31:18 What’s got us wet, dry, and still confused about the topic 02:31:18 - 02:55:41 Suggested episodes:  Sugar dating: https://youtu.be/zTebH_8E688?si=P-ZsVtwFxIucKn60  Humiliation content and onlyfans: https://youtu.be/j3GlbzodE0k?si=1qxBpIM1K_WgGXta  Stripper stories: https://youtu.be/ncTa7JTXDhw?si=0QeDa-nIfA-aWK4b  Sex positive feminism: https://youtu.be/Y1kRMxoO6Uc?si=AieSdtvbCuq2Us9P   Sources: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Gcb2L0dugzpwoFsYz2U-zOHi4K61KUVOJw6cBiQdDI8/edit?tab=t.0  Join our community of confused pussies💦🌵  follow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry the s0 wet s0 dry team:  Autumn (host, editor)  instagram: @autumnkaira  twitter: @autumnkaira  tiktok: @autumnkaira  Fiji (host, editor)  instagram: @s0wet  twitter: @s0wet  tiktok: @fijithesiren  youtube: @s0wet  Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist) instagram: @xlaomedia  email: xlaomedi4@gmail.com  A.I.R. (Music Producer)  instagram: @airgoincrazy *This content is for entertainment, journalistic, and educational purposes. We do not own the rights to the content from other creators in this episode.* ---  Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/sh... Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/sh... --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/s0wets0dry/support

    2h 56m
  3. 28 NOV

    When purity becomes shame: disney stars & the objectification of puberty

    This week on s0 wet s0 dry, Fiji and Autumn deep dive purity culture and Disney channel’s purity ring era. We’re talking: The Silver Ring Thing, True Love Waits, purity rings, abstinence pledges, purity balls, father daughter abstinence pledges, Disney’s purity era, the fetishization of virginity, purity culture, abstinence only sex ed, Demi Lavato, The Jonas Brothers, Miley Cyrus, Vanessa Hudgens, Jordan Sparks, Russel Brand, Hilary Duff, The Mickey Mouse Club era, the wholesome disney brand, the disney star formula, 2008 VMAs, should child stars be role models?, audience polls, listener stories, and more!👀 Intro 00:00:00 - 00:02:26 Breaking Down the Purity Movement 00:02:26 - 01:01:46 Purity Culture and Shame 01:01:46 - 01:11:10 Disney Channel and the Purity Culture Era 01:11:10 - 01:40:44 Why did Disney Encourage Purity in their Stars? 01:40:44 - 02:02:43 What’s got us Wet, Dry, and Still Confused about the Topic 02:02:43 - 02:18:09 Suggested episodes:  Sex education in America: https://youtu.be/MerEM56GaGo?si=GPzZ12QMpZWc0QXl   ovulation: https://youtu.be/nw-TNrYj4CU?si=El7EM_kyNLMFKbyM   Sex positive feminism: https://youtu.be/Y1kRMxoO6Uc?si=AieSdtvbCuq2Us9P   Sources: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Gcb2L0dugzpwoFsYz2U-zOHi4K61KUVOJw6cBiQdDI8/edit?tab=t.0  Join our community of confused pussies💦🌵  follow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry the s0 wet s0 dry team:  Autumn (host, editor)  instagram: @autumnkaira  twitter: @autumnkaira  tiktok: @autumnkaira  Fiji (host, editor)  instagram: @s0wet  twitter: @s0wet  tiktok: @fijithesiren  youtube: @s0wet  Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist) instagram: @xlaomedia  email: xlaomedi4@gmail.com  A.I.R. (Music Producer)  instagram: @airgoincrazy *This content is for entertainment, journalistic, and educational purposes. We do not own the rights to the content from other creators in this episode.* --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/s0wets0dry/support

    2h 18m
  4. 21 NOV

    Liberal white women need to do better: 4B and the blue bracelets

    This week on s0 wet s0 dry, Fiji and Autumn deep dive liberal white women and their adoption of the 4B movement and blue bracelets post election. We’re talking: Decentering men, white women divorcing and breaking up with their husbands and boyfriends that voted for Trump, the dark side of the 4B movement, the problem with blaming men for everything, calling white men in, TERF, white feminism, the dangers of exclusionary feminism, how women uphold patriarchy , blue friendship bracelets, virtue signaling, performative activism, white women centering themselves in their advocacy, talking to our own white communities listener stories, and more!👀 Share this video with a white woman who voted for Trump: https://youtu.be/rabPfnuuHqU?si=kmj6L-Z7OhuDGNU6 Intro 00:00:00 - 00:03:04 The 4B movement’s growing popularity among liberal white women post-election 00:03:04 - 01:18:52 Trump’s feminism: white feminism and TERF 01:18:52 - 01:53:39 White women and the blue friendship bracelet debacle 01:53:39 - 02:25:18 What can we do instead? Pain Aversion and Getting Started 02:25:18 - 03:03:34 What’s got us wet, dry, and still confused about the topic 03:03:34 - 03:22:11 Suggested episodes: https://youtu.be/MerEM56GaGo?si=B3JA1BATIrW3roP1 https://youtu.be/6fHrPNyd0jw?si=HVKOeD_kb0_5GYkA https://youtu.be/iAP_TAUd4ME?si=h9w_C9f0WGJXoXB4 https://youtu.be/bWGww4hdgp4?si=cnBNK3xxuh3ne7TW Join our community of confused pussies💦🌵 follow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry the s0 wet s0 dry team: Autumn (host, editor) instagram: @autumnkaira twitter: @autumnkaira tiktok: @autumnkaira Fiji (host, editor) instagram: @s0wet twitter: @s0wet tiktok: @fijithesiren youtube: @s0wet Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist) instagram: @xlaomedia email: xlaomedi4@gmail.com A.I.R. (Music Producer) instagram: @airgoincrazy *This content is for entertainment, journalistic, and educational purposes. We do not own the rights to the content from other creators in this episode.* --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/sh... Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/sh... --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/s0wets0dry/support

    3h 22m
  5. 14 NOV

    Art about abuse and dark romance: why does the media romanticize toxic relationships?

    This week on s0 wet s0 dry, Fiji and Autumn deep dive toxic relationships in the media, dark romance, and art about abuse. We’re talking: It Ends with Us and the marketing disaster, Colleen Hoover, Blake Lively and Justin Baldoni, did It Ends With Us romanticize abuse?, what is the “right” story about abuse, input from survivors, why do people stay in toxic relationships?, who are stories about toxic relationships for?, what does good representation for survivors of domestic violence look like?, Baby Reindeer, You, Twilight, Harley Quinn and The Joker, Euphoria, The Notebook, Beauty and the Beast, Lana Del Rey and the controversy about glamorizing toxic relationships, the line “he hit me and it felt like a kiss”, America’s domestic and sexual violence epidemic, domestic violence and sexual abuse stats, the patriarchy, trauma bonds, abuse’s effects on the brain, the controversy over dark romance, how are toxic relationships in the media effecting teens?, dark romance as a power fantasy and coping mechanism, fantasy versus reality, shame about fantasies, the need for more arts and social sciences education, listener stories, and more!👀 Resources Sexual Assault, Rape, and Domestic Violence Resources, Support, and Hotlines: https://rainn.org/resources  https://www.thehotline.org/  Mental Health Support, Resources, and Hotline: https://mentalhealthhotline.org/  https://www.apa.org/topics/crisis-hotlines  Intro, spoiler alert disclaimers, and trigger warnings 00:00:00 - 00:03:52 It Ends With Us: The marketing backlash and did it romanticize abuse? 00:03:52 - 00:48:14 Toxic Relationships are Everywhere in the Media: When are they normalized and romanticized? 00:48:14 - 00:59:09 Does Lana Del Rey romanticize abuse and toxic relationships? 00:59:09 - 01:22:47 How much context do we need when consuming art about toxic relationships? 01:22:47 - 01:47:34 The Dark Romance controversy: dark romance as a power fantasy and coping mechanism 01:47:34 - 02:21:51 How is the romanticization of toxic relationships in the media effecting the teens? 02:21:51 - 02:40:32 What’s got us wet, dry, and still confused about the topic 02:40:32 - 03:09:25 Suggested episodes:  https://youtu.be/MerEM56GaGo?si=B3JA1BATIrW3roP1  https://youtu.be/lb035NeGKLs?si=gHC36-3NB6MlZZGU  https://youtu.be/3GN87EuNg9w?si=_6s9wqGrga3hAVt_  Join our community of confused pussies💦🌵  follow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry the s0 wet s0 dry team:  Autumn (host, editor)  instagram: @autumnkaira  twitter: @autumnkaira  tiktok: @autumnkaira  Fiji (host, editor)  instagram: @s0wet  twitter: @s0wet  tiktok: @fijithesiren  youtube: @s0wet  Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist) instagram: @xlaomedia  email: xlaomedi4@gmail.com  A.I.R. (Music Producer)  instagram: @airgoincrazy *This content is for entertainment, journalistic, and educational purposes. We do not own the rights to the content from other creators in this episode.* ---  Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/sh... Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/sh... --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/s0wets0dry/support

    3h 9m
  6. 11 NOV

    Dear white women who voted for Trump:

    Dear white women who voted for Trump, We’re Fiji and Autumn and we have a sex, relationships, and personal identity podcast but this is not a regular episode. When we discovered that 53% of white women in America voted for Trump we were shocked, hurt, and confused. In past years we probably would have blocked you, talked shxt, and looked down on you, but that doesn’t feel good or right anymore. We want real change and we want democracy, and we know you do too. For this episode we researched the reasons you voted for Trump and we hear you: you want a better economy and lower cost of living, you want your kids to be safe from crimes, and you respect Donald Trump to be the guy to get it done because of his past as a businessman. He reminds you of men in your family that you love and even though the sexist comments aren’t great, you’re willing to look past them because you trust him to deliver. We know we won’t change your minds on everything but since the media so often divides us, we wanted to tell you about the issues we care about. We’re here as two human beings trying to talk to you as a human being and we hope this conversation goes somewhere. Intro: We come in peace 00:00:00 - 00:08:11 Why people are blocking friends on social media and ending relationships across party lines 00:08:11 -00:12:17 Who voted for Donald Trump and why? 00:12:17 - 00:19:37 The economy 00:19:37 - 00:33:44 Immigration 00:33:44 - 00:47:01 Donal Trump’s history of sexual abuse against women and felonies 00:47:01 - 00:57:49 - 01:09:09 Sexism 01:09:09 - 01:27:26 Trans and LGBTQ+ Issues 01:27:26 - 01:36:30 Critical Race Theory 01:36:30 - 01:49:36 White Privilege 01:49:36 - 01:59:53 The Department of Education 01:59:53 - 02:12:24 Wrap Up 02:12:24 - 02:22:26 Suggested episodes: https://youtu.be/MerEM56GaGo?si=LBpNNas6k6yA34Mk https://youtu.be/nw-TNrYj4CU?si=mKQqj3Ownr6jYZG9 Join our community of confused pussies💦🌵 follow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry the s0 wet s0 dry team: Autumn (host, editor) instagram: @autumnkaira twitter: @autumnkaira tiktok: @autumnkaira Fiji (host, editor) instagram: @s0wet twitter: @s0wet tiktok: @fijithesiren youtube: @s0wet Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist) instagram: @xlaomedia email: xlaomedi4@gmail.com A.I.R. (Music Producer) instagram: @airgoincrazy *This content is for entertainment, journalistic, and educational purposes. We do not own the rights to the content from other creators in this episode.* --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/sh... Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/sh... --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/s0wets0dry/support

    2h 22m
  7. 31 OCT

    sex education in america sucks: a deep dive

    This week on s0 wet s0 dry, Fiji and Autumn deep dive sex education in America, censorship on tiktok, and puriteens. We’re talking: america’s fxcked up sexual history, Catholic school sex education, abstinence-only education, purity rings, consent education, experiences with sex education, menstrual health education, the Me too movement, the lack of LGBTQ+ sex ed, comprehensive and restrictive sex education laws and bills, the overturning of Roe v Wade, the moral panic over sex ed, trans youth, and critical race theory, the teen pregnancy epidemic, STD scares, sex talks with your parents, what parents want for sex education in schools, the problem with porn for sex education, porn addiction, sex education censorship on social media, content moderation, sex worker’s role in sex education, Murphy v. Missouri, the celibacy trend, Puriteens, listener stories, and more!👀 Resources Sexual Assault, Rape, and Domestic Violence Resources, Support, and Hotlines: https://rainn.org/resources  https://www.thehotline.org/  LGBTQ+ Resources, Support, and Resources: https://afsp.org/lgbtq-crisis-and-support-resources/  Racial Equity Support, Resources, and Hotline: https://www.linesforlife.org/get-help-now/services-and-crisis-lines/racial-equity-support-line/  Mental Health Support, Resources, and Hotline: https://mentalhealthhotline.org/  https://www.apa.org/topics/crisis-hotlines  Sex Education Resources, Support, and Hotlines:  https://schoolofsexed.org/resources https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn  Intro 00:00:00 - 00:04:33 The Racist, Violent, Puritanical, and Repressive history of sex in America 00:04:33 -00:22:02 The history and current state of sex ed in America: Abstinence-only education and the lack of queer sex ed 00:22:02 - 00:57:06 Sex education laws and bills 00:57:06 - 01:15:52 What is sex ed at home with parents or guardians? 01:15:52 - 01:35:14  So, where do people go to learn about sex? TV shows and movies, porn, and porn addiction 01:35:14 - 01:56:43 Sex Ed on social media and censorship 01:56:43 - 02:24:54 Puriteens and Celibacy are trending among Gen-Z 02:24:54 - 03:09:22 What’s got us wet, dry, and still confused about the topic 03:09:22 - 03:30:10 Suggested episodes:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RtzN8kstoU4&t=3102s  https://youtu.be/nw-TNrYj4CU?si=WkF-sryiWgfu1Nyw  https://youtu.be/lb035NeGKLs?si=3Aht_ufC42kERV5p  https://youtu.be/cYz6BjjTZwM?si=YWjB4XiVEsKuXPVB  Join our community of confused pussies💦🌵  Sources:  https://docs.google.com/document/d/13a6AeeQTmh_miQrOTGTQMDHJDBqZl0YN0SLS7qR2EF8/edit?tab=t.0  follow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry Intro 00:00:00 - 00:01:52 Ovulation is trending on TikTok and Sabrina Carpenter’s Ovulation Music 00:01:52 - 00:05:20 What is ovulation and what are the syptoms? 00:05:20 - 00:19:49 Ovulation horniess on tiktok 00:19:49 - 00:37:00 The types of sex you might prefer when you’re ovulating 00:37:00 - 00:54:05 The types of people we’re attracted to when we’re ovulating 00:54:05 - 01:12:26 How men respond when a woman is ovulating 01:12:26 - 01:25:27 Are you more attractive during ovulation? 1:25:27 - 01:50:35 Menstrual cycle nutrition and cycle syncing tiktok 01:50:35 - 02:06:52 The need for menstrual health education and menstruation censorship on tiktok 02:06:52 - 02:27:28 Listener Story 02:27:28 - 02:36:39 What’s got us wet, dry, and still confused about ovulation 02:36:39 - 02:51:24 the s0 wet s0 dry team:  Autumn (host, editor)  instagram: @autumnkaira  twitter: @autumnkaira  tiktok: @autumnkaira  Fiji (host, editor)  instagram: @s0wet  twitter: @s0wet  tiktok: @fijithesiren  youtube: @s0wet  Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist) instagram: @xlaomedia  email: xlaomedi4@gmail.com  A.I.R. (Music Producer)  instagram: @airgoincrazy *This content is for entertainment, journalistic, and educational purposes. We do not own the righ

    3h 30m
  8. 24 OCT

    ovulation has the tiktok girls ravenous

    This week on s0 wet s0 dry, Fiji and Autumn deep dive ovulation horniness. We’re talking: What is ovulation?, ovulation music, the menstruation cycle explained, tracking your period cycle, discharge, ovulation horny, going to the gyno, the problems with women’s healthcare, ultrasounds, post-ovulation clarity, men’s response to ovulation, the types of people you might be attracted to during ovulation, the types of sex you might like during ovulation, are you more attractive during ovulation?, does the luteal phase make you ugly?, menstrual nutrition, cycle syncing tiktok, menstrual health education, censorship on tiktok, listener stories, and more!👀 Suggested episodes:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RtzN8kstoU4&t=3102s  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l954x4jxwzc&t=2044s  Join our community of confused pussies💦🌵  Sources:  https://docs.google.com/document/d/1GroyTHdcScTr056chZDhcDQiJwnVYMbOqk7wZtgNCtg/edit?tab=t.0  follow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry Intro 00:00:00 - 00:01:52 Ovulation is trending on TikTok and Sabrina Carpenter’s Ovulation Music 00:01:52 - 00:05:20 What is ovulation and what are the syptoms? 00:05:20 - 00:19:49 Ovulation horniess on tiktok 00:19:49 - 00:37:00 The types of sex you might prefer when you’re ovulating 00:37:00 - 00:54:05 The types of people we’re attracted to when we’re ovulating 00:54:05 - 01:12:26 How men respond when a woman is ovulating 01:12:26 - 01:25:27 Are you more attractive during ovulation? 1:25:27 - 01:50:35 Menstrual cycle nutrition and cycle syncing tiktok 01:50:35 - 02:06:52 The need for menstrual health education and menstruation censorship on tiktok 02:06:52 - 02:27:28 Listener Story 02:27:28 - 02:36:39 What’s got us wet, dry, and still confused about ovulation 02:36:39 - 02:51:24 the s0 wet s0 dry team:  Autumn (host, editor)  instagram: @autumnkaira  twitter: @autumnkaira  tiktok: @autumnkaira  Fiji (host, editor)  instagram: @s0wet  twitter: @s0wet  tiktok: @fijithesiren  youtube: @s0wet  Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist) instagram: @xlaomedia  email: xlaomedi4@gmail.com  A.I.R. (Music Producer)  instagram: @airgoincrazy *This content is for entertainment, journalistic, and educational purposes. We do not own the rights to the content from other creators in this episode.* --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/s0wets0dry/support

    2h 51m

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Fiji & Autumn explore sex, relationships, and personal identity through an intersectional feminist lens where pop culture, internet culture, and reality collide. We unpack tough topics and challenge norms to expand our understanding of self and the society that shapes it. From the online gender wars to misunderstood kinks to relearning how to date, we’re somewhere between wet, dry, and fxcking confused. Listen in on our FaceTime calls for the nuanced reality check that only a best friend (and some research) can provide 💦🌵💕 🎙️new episodes every thursday🎙️ Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/s0wets0dry/support

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