20 Things to consider when getting involved with a woman who has children Closeness

Chapters: 



0:00 Intro 



2:25 Disclosures 



3:45 Connecting with your children is not something that ever ends 



5:45  1. Anytime something goes wrong, it’s going to require mom’s instant attention 



7:06 A taste of my story 



9:50 2. Many women think their ex is crazy or a narcissist 



12:00 The usual disclaimers 



14:00 A contribution from a single mother 



15:57 3. The length of your commitment matters 



17:56 4. Her children must come first 



22:15 5. You can’t just come over 



23:29 5a. Sometimes you may rank last in terms of priority 



24:24 5b. The ex she’s still in touch with 



25:30 Giving a balanced perspective 



27:04 6. You are stepping into a pre-existing family 



30:30 7. If the children don’t like you 



32:26 8. Divorce statistics and how they effect children 



33:39 9. You’ve got to be creative with discipline 



35:50 10. Navigating who should pay… for everyone 



41:06 11. The possibility of meeting the ex or proverbial crazy ex 



42:35 12. Extended family is often involved 



45:14 13. Women are incredible care takers- but often not for you 



49:08 14. The biggest risk: Spending time with the kids by yourself 



50:50 15. You’re not man enough for not raising her kids? 



52:42 16. Women have LOTS of “standards.” You’re allowed to have standards too



55:04 17. Physically speaking… 



59:04 18. What about what you need as a man? 



1:01:08 19. Women’s needs are often met by having and raising children 



1:03:35 20. Kids are truly a sensory experience for women 



1:07:20 Warm sentiments on the joys of connecting with children 



1:10:55 Outro