Teaching Humanity Remotely with Dr. Mindy Shaw learnwithmeremotely

In this very personal episode, Dr. Shaw shares her recent experience of having her adult son hospitalized with an serious condition and what her learning lessons were from that adventure.... and the lesson is that it's all about how you show up.   She discusses some of the ups and downs of advocating for her son Joshua in the hospital and how encountering different personalities among the doctors and nurses re-taught her that flexibility is often the key.   Sometimes you have to be assertive, sometimes you have to make peace, but all the time one needs to keep in mind that you are not likely to change the other person by your behavior.   All one can do is be themselves with honesty and integrity and that gets you through the negative as well as the positive.

In this brief but important episode, Dr. Shaw discusses the need for setting boundaries for young children and her approach is always that children who, for example, have temper tantrums actually ARE ASKING for and know they need boundaries.  She begins by discussing an example of a substitute teacher who has temporarily taken over an unruly class and suddenly that class is well behaved.   In that case, it's not that the children have changed, it's that the person in charge is earning respect and treating the children with respect as well, and the mutual respect that they share leads to harmony.  Dr. Shaw also talks about the role of parents in setting boundaries and she acknowledges that parents have a different relationship with their children and that boundaries might be more challenging.  Still, if you don't display a high threshold for chaos and if you don't just act mean or demanding and if you simply have the correct boundaries that are respective and have give and take, you'll have positive results.

In this episode, Dr. Shaw takes a look at the use of language and how it can cause misunderstanding or misinterpretation.   She uses the example of the phrase "the universe is testing me," and the framework of that phrase implies a zero sum game where the universe is either for or against us.   What we should say in that situation is the universe presents opportunities, and the manner in which we respond to that point of view becomes a demonstration of where we are as individuals and how we show up.  How we choose our words impacts our experience, and we don't want our words to turn us into victims.  What we need to do is see ourselves in each and every moment and if we can teach our children to do the same thing via modeling, we will be helping them tremendously.

In this episode, Dr. Shaw discusses on one of her most important and frequently mentioned educational tool and that is "noting and marking" occurrences of success.   She shares some of her own experience from her decades of experience, and she then focuses on an illustrative example of noting and marking from her personal life.  She relates a recent story about how she dealt with some anxiety that her granddaughter was feeling and how noting and marking a successful experience in dealing with that anxiety.  She believes that learning is not a selfish experience, rather a generous one, and this story can help reinforce how modeling the right behavior goes very far in educating.

In this brief but insightful episode, Dr. Shaw discusses and illustrates how we are often lucky in our lives when negativity strikes.   While that may seem counterintuitive on the surface, Dr. Shaw provides a few examples of how our challenging moments in life can lead to us being lifted up.   Her poignant conclusion on this topic is worth remembering.... that our moments of suffering are truly gifts because they lead us to the next moments of complete healing.

In this episode, Dr. Shaw talks about the celebrations of the Spring Season.  The religious holidays and other celebrations of this season have a focus on re-birth, growth and freedom.  She relates a personal story about her recent experience telling the story of Passover to her young grandchildren and how she handles some of the scary parts of that story.  She talked at that dinner about how the Passover story allows a vision into the human condition and is very focused on the notion of freedom.   There are lessons in there about co-existence and it demonstrates different belief systems.  The conversation then turns to handling relationships that may not share the same point of view... her conclusion is that someone may not be a friend, but that doesn't mean one shouldn't be friendly with that person.  The understanding that comes from this is that in order to have peace in our lives, acceptance of differences is key.