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Today, let's talk about raising our standards for ourselves and shame. From my journey and the work I do with my clients, I’ve learned that these two things can’t coexist in a healthy way. If you demand more from life, you must demand more from yourself, which means navigating your shame differently. Allow me to unpack this with you.
Hey, I’m Star Monroe, and this is The Star Monroe Show where we explore all things Main Character Energy so you can strut through the world confident, unbothered and exclusive.
Currently, I’m in Kalkan, a town about 60 minutes from where I live in Turkey. I traveled here by car and booked a house through Airbnb, nestled on top of a mountain with breathtaking views. One thing I crave is new experiences, so I chose this house purposefully.
As with many properties in Turkey, the address wasn’t straightforward. When I finally reached the top of the mountain, I couldn’t find the house. I admired the sea and mountains, then turned around and saw the house perched even higher up, with a nearly vertical road leading to it. I took a deep breath and thought, “How am I going to do this?”
The guy meeting me was waving, confirming I was in the right place. I maneuvered my car, began the steep ascent, but halfway up, my car started skidding. Panic set in. I braked, put the car in park, and felt my heart racing. Tears welled up, a sign from childhood that I’m overwhelmed. But as an adult, I understand I’ve overloaded my bandwidth.
In that moment of overwhelm, the man ran down to help. I felt defensive and scared, projecting my fear onto him. But then I paused and recognized my old patterns—defensiveness as a form of protection. I took a deep breath and said, “I need to do this myself as I need to be able to come and go from this house.”
He respected my wish. I felt scared and vulnerable, but I honored my feelings. This honesty with myself marked a pivotal shift. Instead of shaming myself, I acknowledged my fear and took control. With his guidance, I reversed down the steep road, took another deep breath, and tried again. This time, I made it to the top, feeling victorious.
Standing at the top of that mountain, I realized something profound. High standards aren’t just about the big goals; they’re about how you handle the small moments, how you communicate with yourself, and how you respond to challenges. Demanding more from life means demanding more from yourself—seeing and hearing yourself deeper.
Shame and high standards can’t coexist in a healthy way because shame drags you down, keeping you stuck in old patterns and beliefs. Yet, you can use shame as a springboard to do things differently. Recognize when shame creeps in, and instead of letting it paralyze you, let it propel you. Acknowledge it, understand it, and choose a different path.
Remember, defensiveness is a form of protection. Recognize it, pause, and choose a different response. This is the essence of high standards. It’s not about perfection but about showing up for yourself in every moment, validating and recognizing your own worth.
So, if you want more from life, you must be willing to navigate shame differently. It’s about rewiring your responses, embracing your worth, and consistently choosing to elevate yourself. As you do, you’ll create a lifestyle that supports your highest aspirations.
Until next time, stay fabulous and know your worth.
Star Monroe, esteemed Psychotherapist and Confidence Catalyst, guides highly successful women over 50 who demand more from themselves and life, providing the support and guidance...

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If you want to elevate your very existence and stride through life in your Main Character Energy, embrace the mantra: nothing is inconsequential. Everything matters.
How you do anything is how you do everything. On this journey of expansion and growth, every small action builds your life. From making your bed in the morning to greeting yourself, brushing your teeth, making coffee, and journaling—every act matters.
Remember, you are the observer of your mind and thoughts. You are not your thoughts. Your job is to choose the ones that support your growth and let go of those that hold you back. Life isn’t about reaching a final destination; it’s about the journey. Embrace patience, discipline, and the willingness to delve deeper into yourself.
Nothing is inconsequential. Every word and thought shapes your reality. Practice these shifts:
- Instead of saying "I don’t know," say "Let me find out."
- Instead of "I don’t care," say "It doesn’t matter to me."
- Instead of "Tell me," say "I’m listening."
- Instead of "I’m lost," say "I’m exploring."
- Instead of "I’m tired," say "I need to rest."
- Instead of "I think," say "I’m certain."
- Instead of "I’m trying," say "I’m learning."
Nothing is inconsequential. Your thoughts and words matter.
Star Monroe is a Licensed Psychotherapist and Confidence Catalyst, guiding highly successful, ambitious 50+ women who demand more from themselves and life into their Main Character Era. Become an iconic woman who knows her worth and always gets what she wants.

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Are you constantly finding yourself on the clearance rack, despite knowing you're destined to be a high-value woman? Listen up. High-value women respect their time, energy, and emotional landscapes. This not only safeguards their energy but also naturally repels toxic influences—without lifting a finger. It’s all about the energy you emit.
So, why haven't you embraced this mindset? If you've grown up in an environment where your experiences were dismissed—like those endless "Stop crying" or "Get over it" comments—you've likely learned to ignore your needs. This isn't just about you; I'm a living example. I dragged this toxic baggage into adulthood, stumbling through codependency, poor financial choices, and not one, but three mental breakdowns.
It took me far too long to wake up to the reality that these patterns were not my identity—they were my conditioning. If you haven't worked through these issues in therapy yet, you've got work to do. It's crucial to pay attention to your emotional needs and fulfill them yourself. You're the only one who should dictate your life's quality—no one else.
Why Midlife? Why Now?
Midlife presents a pivotal moment to do this crucial work. It’s a time when many women reassess what they want from the next chapters of their lives. Doing this work now is essential to shed past limitations and attract more of what you truly desire—be it fulfilling relationships, career growth, or personal peace. Midlife is not just a time to look back; it’s a significant opportunity to design your future with intention and clarity.
How do you start changing this? Acknowledge the heavy conditioning you've carried. Understand that seeking external validation is a trap. Turn inwards. Listen to your body, your intuition, your emotions. It's tough, sure, but living in denial is far worse. Choose your hard.
I'll give you a personal example. Recently, I told my mother I was upset, and she dismissed my feelings. Instead of spiraling into self-doubt, I stepped back to recalibrate. I recognized this as an old pattern of dismissing my own feelings, and instead, chose to honor my emotional response.
By acknowledging and respecting my own boundaries, I strengthen my relationship with myself. This isn't a one-time fix; it’s a continuous practice of honoring yourself and refusing to numb or deny your reality. To attract respect, opportunity, and genuine connections, it starts with respecting yourself and viewing your life through a lens of high value.
Every day you wake up with yourself; every night you go to bed with yourself.
👉🏻Make sure it's someone worth waking up and going to bed with.
Be unapologetically you, honor your emotions, and watch how your world changes. Midlife is your chance to reset, recalibrate, and radiate the energy that attracts the life you deserve. Let this be your time to shine.
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Main Character Energy in process. Join me as I embrace an embarrassing moment and, transform it into an opportunity for my personal growth and elevation.
Star Monroe is a Midlife Psychotherapist and Confidence Catalyst, guiding ambitious midlife women who demand more from themselves and life into their Main Character Era. Flaunt your journey as an Iconic Older Woman who knows her worth and always gets what she wants.

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Join me as I share a fabulously enlightening story about self-worth that centers around one of my favorite activities—shopping! Imagine this: walking into a high-end store and feeling like it might be out of your league. That was me, 18 months ago. But not anymore. Through inner work and shifting beliefs, I transformed that feeling of unease into one of ownership and confidence.
In this tale, I'll take you to a charming town in Turkey, a place where fashion and finesse meet, and where I learned to strut unapologetically through a world that once intimidated me. From uneasy first visits to becoming a queen of the fitting room, my journey is a testament to the power of self-belief. With every espresso and pastry at the adjacent patisserie, I soaked in the ambiance and prepared myself for transformation.
This isn't just about clothes—it's about how we see ourselves in the mirrors of our lives. How shifting from a mindset of lack to one of abundance can change not just how you shop, but how you live. Discover how I went from questioning my worth to knowing deep in my fabulous heart that nothing, absolutely nothing, is out of my league. Because, darling, I am the league.
Tune in and transform how you approach every shop, every opportunity, and every reflection. It’s time to claim your place as the main character in your life story—high value, high worth, and highly fabulous!
Star Monroe is a Midlife Psychotherapist and Confidence Catalyst, guiding ambitious midlife women who demand more from themselves and life into their Main Character Era. Flaunt your journey as an Iconic Older Woman who knows her worth and always gets what she wants.

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Star Monroe is a Midlife Psychotherapist and Confidence Catalyst, guiding ambitious, successful midlife women who demand more from themselves and life into their Main Character Era. Flaunt your journey as an Iconic High-Value Woman who knows her worth and always gets what she wants.