Inner Fortitude with Isis Isis Beirne

Emotional intelligence (EI) was conceptualized in 1990 by 2 social psychologists. This relatively young concept refers to the ability to observe, understand and manage our own emotions, observe and understand the emotions of others, and ultimately be aware of how our emotions affect the people around us.

In practicing emotional intelligence, we can begin to see emotions as internal signals that help us make decisions. It's best to think of these signals as allies; or ´data´ about an event. And this data will be used to assist us in developing our EI.

Many experts now believe that a person’s emotional quotient (EQ) may be a more important factor than their IQ; as it is certainly a better predictor of success, quality of relationships, and overall happiness.

In this episode, I share the basics on what EI is, and how it can benefit you in your own life. 


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In this episode, I provide a roadmap for your journey to self love. A methodology, if you will.

Often times, people embark on the self-love journey, unaware that for some things to "stick," you must go in a particular order. It's very difficult to end toxic relationships when you have very low self-esteem or sense of worth. It's a huge challenge to take on new risks when you lack confidence. It's an uphill battle to ask for what you need when you're not even sure you deserve it. And it's hard as hell to stop taking things personally when you constantly seek the validation of others to feel good about yourself.

You're probably drowning in a sea of information about self-love. You know you want it, and you're giving it your best shot, but you keep spinning your wheels. Chances are, it's because you haven't tackled some of the early work that is needed to successfully achieve this elusive "Self-Love" thing.

Allow me to guide you... In the right order! I'll explain why you might feel stuck. It's not your fault... And you can do this!


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We spend so much time worrying about what others think of us. We feel pain or anger when someone uses the wrong words or says something that we perceive as hurtful.  

Why do we take other people's points of view so personally? Because we are afraid of not being accepted and being unworthy.

A few years ago, I read a book that was life-changing. This book is called The Four Agreements, by don Miguel Ruiz. It was written about four principles by which the author believes we should all live. If we did so, we would have a much more fulfilling, happy, drama-free life. Not surprisingly, the second of the Four Agreements is "Don't Take Anything Personally." Per the author, "When we hear an opinions of others and believe it, we make it an agreement, and it becomes a part of our belief system."

By making this an agreement (and taking things personally), we are essentially allowing others to make decisions on who we are and what we are worth.

If you have been told that you are "too sensitive," or are quick to feel hurt or anger toward others, listen up. Settle in for a chit chat with me, and let me be your humble guide on how to stop taking things personally using simple steps.


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Confidence can push you forward, into success. And a lack of confidence can impede your ability to achieve it. It's something that gives you the resilience to cope with setbacks and failures (which everyone inevitably experiences at some point or another).

It can drive you to trying new things, which will ultimately allow you to see that mistakes lead to growth. It's kinda like being open and willing to fail sometimes, because you know that taking risks is taking a chance at success!

Join me in exploring the many ways you can begin building your confidence today.


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As the great Brené Brown says, "boundaries are simply our lists of what's okay and what's not okay. When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or choice."
So - stop saying yes when you want to say no. It is perfectly okay to say "I can't take that on right now" or "My plate is full."
As for your personal relationships, you need to be very clear about what is okay and what is not okay. If people don't respect them, they need to be held accountable. It's VERY important to mean what you say. If someone crosses your very clear boundaries, you must hold them accountable. Boundaries aren't set until you follow through on the consequence and stick to your convictions.

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I dedicate this podcast to anyone and everyone who suffers from low self-esteem and/or confidence.

Self esteem is defined as: confidence in one's own worth or abilities; self-respect.

It is correlated with one's ability to achieve success, good relationships and overall satisfaction with life. It is also the building block for true self-confidence.

Join me in discussing the ups and downs of self-esteem. In this episode, I will share tips on how to build your self-esteem, using life-long techniques that can bring you a huge step closer to developing your emotional intelligence, while also kick-starting your journey in self-love.


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