Introduction to Recovery From Fragmented Families Mariam Ernest

Video Edition. 

Welcome to this week's amazing episode. 

There are so many pathways to family estrangement and addiction, whether it is behavioural or chemical  is certainly one of the pathways or at least a pathway to fragmented family relationships. 

I truly have an amazing guest this week.  His name is Josh Connolly, I first came across Josh  when I saw his interview that he did on LBC  - Talk Radio where he was sharing his story regarding loosing his father to alcohol as a child and how he carried that trauma into adulthood. 

Josh has an incredible insight into alcohol addiction and he uses his his personal experiences and other learnt knowledge to help others who are struggling with alcohol addiction. 

Josh is one of the UK’s most influential mental health advocates, Josh  regularly speaks on BBC, ITV & Channel 5 news. Josh has also spoken in the House of Commons, contributed to mental health policy and even advised the scriptwriting team on Hollyoaks. He has run resilience workshops for village schools and global brands alike. Additionally, he is an ambassador for NACOA – a national charity supporting people affected by a parent’s drinking.





Connect With Josh:

Website: www.joshconnolly.co.uk

Instagram - josh_ffw https://www.instagram.com/josh_ffw/

Inner You sign up - https://freedomfromwithin.thinkific.com/courses/inneryou3 

If you have been impacted by grief whether it is due to the death of a loved one or ambiguous loss of family members, then, this episode is for you!

Welcome to today's episode featuring  my amazing guest Dr Mary Frances O'Connor. 

Dr Mary-Frances O'Connor is a renowned grief expert, neuroscientist,  Psychologist and an PhD associate professor of psychology at the University of Arizona, where she directs the Grief, Loss and Social Stress (GLASS) Lab where she investigates the effects of grief on the brain and the body. 

Mary Frances's work has been published in the American Journal of Psychiatry, Biological Psychiatry, and Psychological Science. Mary has also been featured in the Newsweek, the New York Times, and, The UK Guardian and The Washington Post.

The Grieving Brain addresses; 

- Why it's so hard to understand that loved one has died and is gone forever

- Why grief causes so many emotions - sadness, anger, blame, guilt and yearning 

- Why grieving takes so long 

- What happens in the brain during grief

- The distinction between grief and complicated grief 

- Why we ruminate so much after we lose a loved one

- How we ago about restoring a meaningful life while grieving.



Grief is something that we're all going to experience at some point in our lives and sadly it is unavoidable. By becoming familiar of what we will actually go through, we can somehow have some mental preparation and also realise that we're not alone in how we feel.

Family estrangement is categorised as an ambiguous loss which also involves the processes of grieving. 

Family estrangement is complicated and I believe the book discussed in this episode and the episode itself will shed some lights as why you're struggling family estrangement.



To purchase - The Grieving Brain - Click on this link -  https://www.amazon.co.uk/Grieving-Brain-Surprising-Science-Learn/dp/0062946234

Connect with Mary-Frances O'Connor

Website: https://www.maryfrancesoconnor.com/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/maryfrancesoconnor/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/doctormfo



Connect with Mariam 

https://www.instagram.com/recoveryfromfragmentedfamilies/

https://www.facebook.com/groups/587817455514932/

Book a one to one coaching; https://calendly.com/recoveryfromfragmentedfamilies/60min?month=2022-03

or book a free 15 minutes  discovery call: https://calendly.com/recoveryfromfragmentedfamilies/15min?month=2022-03

Join the family estrangement support group: https://recoveryfromfragmentedfamilies.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1121

Hey wonderful souls. 



Welcome to today's episode featuring my wonderful guest Victoria Ndala. 

Although Victoria is an empowerment coach for women, she's simply on this episode to take you on a journey of her personal experiences of being the youngest child of 11 children and how it shaped the person she's today.  

Contrary  to the belief that the youngest child of much older siblings are usually spoiled with abundance of love and care, this was not at all Victoria's experience which eventually lead to her becoming depressed.

Victoria is a Self-Empowerment Coach, a personal development Podcaster and a Transformational Speaker. She specializes in self-love and singleness. 

Victoria believes that singleness is more than just being single. It's a moment where everything starts with you, from the inside out. She coached many people in their singleness season and helped them see their true value by promoting the importance of putting yourself first.

Connect with Victoria 

Instagram 

https://www.instagram.com/theemmerance/

Victoria's podcast 

https://theemmerancespodcast.buzzsprout.com/

YouTube 

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpc8-vJ7JQLafZsnQ3c4P9Q

Victoria's website 

https://www.emmerance.com/about/



Connect with Mariam 

Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/recoveryfromfragmentedfamilies/

Family estrangement support group 

https://recoveryfromfragmentedfamilies.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1121940 

Family estrangement  private  Facebook group  

https://www.facebook.com/groups/587817455514932/

Forgiveness Journal 

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09FRZW8XT?ref_=pe_3052080_397514860

If you are on a receiving end of no contact, it not unusual to seek comfort in the idea that one day an estranged family member will re-establish contact. In some cases it can happen and other times it doesn't.  So, if you're hanging on hope, it is perfectly normal and remember, hope is different than expectation. 



Book a one to one coaching; https://calendly.com/recoveryfromfragmentedfamilies/60min?month=2022-03

or book a free 15 minutes  discovery call: https://calendly.com/recoveryfromfragmentedfamilies/15min?month=2022-03

Join the family estrangement support group: https://recoveryfromfragmentedfamilies.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1121

Welcome to today's episode with my amazing guest Emma Gosling. 

As we go thorough this journey of life, it is imperative that we develop mental cushions or resilience  that would enable us to pivot when we are faced with life challenges. There are so many modalities that can be implemented that would enable us to develop mental cushions or emotional readiness for when we're faced with challenging times. One of the those modalities is Hypnotherapy and Emma is here to explain how it all works. 

Emma Gosling is a Clinical Hypnotherapist and Worthiness & Money Mindset Expert who helps high-achieving & over-giving female founders & executives to stop short-changing themselves & feel good putting their emotional and financial needs first before giving to others.



Connect with Emma:

Website: https://www.feelgoodenough.co.uk/?r_done=1

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_emma_gosling/

Hello wonderful souls.

During my one to one coaching session. I discuss the concept of Thrownness as highlighted below.  

Book a one to one coaching; https://calendly.com/recoveryfromfragmentedfamilies/60min?month=2022-03 

or book a free 15 minutes  discovery call: https://calendly.com/recoveryfromfragmentedfamilies/15min?month=2022-03

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Thrownness is a concept introduced by German philosopher Martin Heidegger (1889–1976) to describe humans' individual existences as being 'thrown' into the world. This essentially means; things (circumstances) in your life that you didn't choose or pick but you were thrown into them, much of them existed long time before you were born, you had no say or choice in them, but played a huge role in shaping who you're today.

These things include;


Your parents
Your siblings
Your extended Family Members
Your genetics
Your Gender
Your geographical location of your birth
Where you grew up
Type of neighbourhood
Your parents' financial and Social economic status
Family generational (unsolved) trauma
Parental mental health
Your parents class
Your race
Your religion
Political climate
Social Norms
The era

The list can go on...

On a conscious level, we're intellectually aware that, there are so many factors that contribute to shaping us as an individuals, but we rarely ever take the time to conduct a deep analysis and reflection of what all those factors mean to us.

You were thrown into these circumstances and you have basically been trying to navigate them ever since and you will be be doing so, until the day you're no longer here..

So, what does this mean....?

It means that, many of the things that influence your emotional blue print, your psychology and your personality was not on you. However, as an adult it is up to you to change these experiences and circumstances.

We experienced the world through these things, as they shape the lenses that we view our world from. Through these lenses, we learn how to organise our thoughts and beliefs around them.

Through the 'thrownness' we receive indoctrination of our mental programming and this mental programming is deeply imbedded in our subconscious mind and as previously discussed, much of our everyday actions and behaviours are dictated by our subconscious mind.