Ownit! Powercast Mary Baker

Welcome to episode 251 where we look for the safe people – and how to recognize them!
In this episode we explore the essential role of healthy boundaries and self-awareness in fostering trust and safety within relationships. We discuss how individuals with healthy boundaries maintain a sense of separateness while still fostering connection, emphasizing the importance of understanding these traits for building fulfilling and supportive relationships. Through clear communication, respect for autonomy, and emotional regulation, the safe people can strike a balance between independence and connection, creating an environment of mutual trust, respect, and emotional safety.
Key Takeaways:
1.    Clear Communication: Healthy boundaries are established through open and assertive communication. Individuals should feel empowered to express their needs, preferences, and limits in order to foster mutual understanding and respect within relationships.
2.    Respect for Autonomy: It's essential to respect the autonomy and independence of both oneself and others. Recognizing that each person is responsible for their own thoughts, feelings, and actions helps maintain a healthy balance between individuality and connection.
3.    Emotional Regulation: Mastering emotional regulation is key to maintaining a sense of separateness while fostering connection. Individuals with healthy boundaries can manage their emotions independently, without relying on others to meet their emotional needs, thereby fostering a sense of emotional independence within relationships.
 
 
If you want to find a safe person,
make sure they communicate openly,
with good boundaries…
and can let you be who
and where you are.
 
Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!
If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!
 
Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:
 
https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words
 
 
Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out:
https://findyourvoicecourse.com/
 
Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com



 
Resources:
Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143
 
 
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Welcome to episode 250 where we look at the behaviors that put “eggshells on the floor” in our relationships.
 
In this episode, we talk about the intricate dynamics of relationships impacted by "eggshell creators" – individuals whose behaviors consistently force others to tiptoe around them to avoid conflict or upset. We explore the various manifestations of such behavior, where it comes from, and how these patterns can erode trust and emotional well-being in relationships. By shedding light on the role of these "troublemakers," we can gain insight into recognizing and navigating toxic dynamics, empowering them to establish boundaries and cultivate healthier connections.
 
Key Takeaways:
 
Recognize the Signs: Pay attention to patterns of behavior in your relationships, such as feeling anxious or constantly on edge around certain individuals. Recognizing the signs of "eggshell creators" can empower you to address toxic dynamics and prioritize your emotional well-being.
Establish Boundaries: Set clear boundaries to protect yourself from the emotional toll of walking on eggshells. Asserting your needs and limits in relationships is crucial for maintaining your autonomy and fostering healthier interactions.
Seek Support: Don't hesitate to seek support from trusted friends, family members, or professionals if you find yourself navigating challenging dynamics with "eggshell creators." Building a support network can provide validation, perspective, and guidance as you work towards creating healthier relationships.
 
 
Walking on eggshells isn't
 just about avoiding conflict;
 it's about sacrificing your own
emotional authenticity
 to maintain a fragile
 sense of stability.
 
Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!
If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!
 
Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:
 
https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words
 
 
Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out:
https://findyourvoicecourse.com/
 
Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com



 
Resources:
Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143
 
 
Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.
Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

Welcome to episode 249 where we look at how interactions in childhood can create fear in our adult relationships.
In this episode, we delve into the intricate ways childhood emotional survival strategies shape our adult relationships. From observing parental behavior to adapting to avoid conflict, these learned behaviors often lead us to walk on eggshells in our interactions. The "eggshells on the floor" phenomenon reflects the cautious, tiptoeing approach we adopt to prevent discomfort or conflict, often at the expense of authentic communication. Additionally, we explore how rescuing behaviors further enable avoidance, hindering genuine growth and understanding in relationships.
 
As we examine these patterns, a recurring theme emerges: the importance of allowing ourselves and others to "sit in the uncomfortable." This involves stating the truth, setting boundaries, and relinquishing the need to rescue. By embracing discomfort, we create space for authentic conversations, fostering trust, respect, and genuine connection.
 
Key Takeaways:
Recognizing Childhood Influences: Childhood experiences deeply shape our relationship dynamics, leading to subconscious behaviors like walking on eggshells. Understanding these early patterns is crucial for breaking free from old cycles.
 
Letting Go of Rescuing Behaviors: Rescuing someone in conversations, though well-intentioned, often hinders honest communication. Letting them "sit in the uncomfortable" while stating the truth and maintaining boundaries empowers both parties to engage authentically.
 
Embracing Discomfort for Growth: Discomfort in conversations is an opportunity for growth and understanding. By challenging the urge to rescue and allowing space for vulnerability, we pave the way for deeper connections and resilient relationships.
 
 
To find the real issues, just work
backward from the conflict,
finding the 'eggshells'—those places of fear,
avoidance, and unresolved things.
That’ll show you exactly what happened.
 
 
Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!
If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!
 
Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:
 
https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words
 
 
Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out:
https://findyourvoicecourse.com/
 
Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com



 
Resources:
Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143
 
 
Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.
Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

 
Welcome to episode 248 where we explore how our brains impact our ability to set boundaries in the moment.
In this episode, we explore the impact of childhood coping mechanisms—fight, flight, freeze, and fawn—on adult boundary-setting behaviors. The limbic system, our emotional brain, often guides our immediate reactions in boundary-setting situations, stemming from survival strategies developed in childhood. These automatic responses can lead to patterns of behavior that might not always align with our best interests as adults.
 
However, by understanding these childhood coping mechanisms, we can begin to navigate boundary-setting with greater awareness and intentionality. Engaging our prefrontal cortex—the thinking brain—allows us to pause, reflect, and make conscious decisions about our boundaries. Through reflection, self-compassion, and aligning boundaries with our values, we can move away from automatic survival strategies and toward healthier, more assertive ways of setting boundaries.
 
Key Takeaways:
Pause and Reflect: When faced with a boundary-setting situation, take a moment to pause and breathe. This allows you to disengage from automatic reactions and engage your thinking brain for more intentional responses.
 Align with Values: Consider your values and well-being when setting boundaries. Aligning your boundaries with what matters most to you gives you clarity and purpose in your decisions.
 Practice Self-Compassion: Setting boundaries can be challenging, especially when breaking old patterns. Remember to be gentle with yourself and acknowledge that growth takes time. Self-compassion encourages learning and growth in your boundary-setting journey.
 
  
When you react with fear,
you're handing over power to others.
It's time to take back control
 and finally own your strength.
 
Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!
If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!
 
Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:
 
https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words
 
 
Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out:
https://findyourvoicecourse.com/
 
Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com



 
Resources:
Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143
 
 
Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.
Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

Welcome to episode 247 where we explore how boundaries in relationships make it safe to be open and connecting.
In this episode, we describe the delicate balance of vulnerability within boundaries. We explore how sharing our vulnerabilities can deepen connections, but also discuss the importance of discerning when it's safe to do so. By setting clear boundaries, we create a safe space where authentic communication and emotional intimacy can flourish. We emphasize the significance of starting small, being clear about our needs, and observing the responses of others to determine if they are emotionally healthy enough to trust with our vulnerabilities.
By understanding the role of boundaries in vulnerability, we empower ourselves to cultivate meaningful connections built on trust, empathy, and mutual respect. Remember, vulnerability is a strength, and when shared within healthy boundaries, it can lead to meaningful relationships that help us grow and enrich our life.
 
 
KeyTakeaways:
 
Start Small and Gauge Responses: Begin by sharing small vulnerabilities to test the waters and observe how the other person responds. This allows you to assess their empathy and understanding before diving deeper.
Communicate Boundaries Clearly: Before sharing vulnerable information, be clear about your boundaries and needs. This sets the stage for respectful and balanced interactions.
Trust Your Instincts: Pay attention to red flags and trust your instincts. If something feels off or uncomfortable, it's okay to hold back and reassess the relationship.
 
 

Vulnerability is the cornerstone
of trust in relationships.
When we reveal our truth
to another person,
 we are essentially saying,
"I trust you with
my innermost self."
 
 
Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!
If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!
 
 
Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out:
https://findyourvoicecourse.com/
 
Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com



 
Resources:
Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143
 
 
Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.
Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!
 
 

Welcome to episode 245 where we get into the magic of detachment that allows us to have boundaries, and to grieve instead of trying to control.
In this episode, we delve into the transformative journey of setting boundaries through the lens of detachment and grieving. We explore how detaching from others' emotions, behaviors, and choices is not about indifference, but rather creating the emotional space necessary for healthy boundaries to flourish. By honoring the process of grieving losses associated with setting boundaries, such as the end of familiar dynamics or relationships, we pave the way for deeper self-awareness and growth.
 
We discuss practical strategies for practicing detachment, including mindfulness, setting emotional boundaries, and letting go of the need to control outcomes. Navigating the grieving process involves allowing ourselves to feel the range of emotions that come with change, expressing ourselves creatively, and seeking support when needed.
 
Key Takeaways:
 
Create Emotional Space: Detachment allows for the creation of emotional space, providing clarity to recognize when boundaries are being crossed and respond from a place of strength.
 
Honor the Grieving Process: Acknowledge and honor the feelings of loss and change that come with setting boundaries. This process is essential for healing and moving forward.
 
Practice Self-Compassion: Throughout the journey of setting boundaries, remember to be gentle with yourself. Self-compassion allows for growth, resilience, and the ability to navigate relationships with authenticity.
 
Detachment is about creating space
between ourselves and the
swirling whirlpool of other people's stuff.
Their drama, their opinions,
their actions—they're not ours to carry.
 
Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!
If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!
 
 
Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out:
https://findyourvoicecourse.com/
 
Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com



 
Resources:
Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143
 
 
Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.
Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!