Wait.. is it gossiping or processing‪?‬ Unicorn Gab Podcast

I noticed this common theme between conversations I was having with friends and these girl zoom nights I hosted. We all wanted to talk but we felt if we did, we were judging or should watch our own wording but what if it was just processing? We stop the process because we become overcritical to where it shuts ourselves down. How do you know the difference between gossiping or processing? What are the benefits to processing? lets dive the fuck in!