What Happens When You Examine The Life You Live vs. The Life You Want to Live Interesting Lives of Normal People

In the Summer of 2008, Tory Leggat took the leap to move from Seattle to NYC with no job and no real friends, but all the optimism and pluck of a 22-year old ready to live out a dream of a year in the Big Apple. But when the (financial) world crumbled within days of her arrival to NYC, Tory had to recalibrate her expectations for work, personal finances, and community—and also her perspective on living out her one-year ‘passion project’. Being lonely, jobless, and aimless in NYC, Tory learned the value of being pot-committed on scary things, saying ‘yes’ to everything and going all out to live the biggest life possible. 
Throughout this journey, and many others since, Tory thoughtfully reflected on these life lessons and others, and began articulating them as ‘guidelines’ for her life. Accumulating these rules for living—like “Remember what YOU are trying to do and forget others’ commentary on it“, “Don’t stress spending money on great experiences” or “Appreciate your job”—she’s created a wise-beyond-her-years framework for big-life-living.
Listen to Tory as she shares this framework, being challenged by the realization that the wonderful, big-life she had lived (happy, comfortable and optimized for fun) was coming up against the even-better life she wanted to live (sacrificial, meaningful and bigger than herself). 
Takeaways:
Remember the variablesSpot the opportunitiesDon't take too much adviceOwn what you're trying to do
Question of the Day
What variables do you have in your life that you're overlooking?
What's true for your Experience Self at this point in your life? Describe what you see for your Narrative Self?
Links from the Episode
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Yuval Harari on the Armchair Expert podcast
Book: 'Principles' by Ray Dalio
Book: 'A Million Miles in a Thousand Years' by Donald Miller
Book: 'Shoe Dog' by Phil Knight
Book: 'Ride of a Lifetime' by Bob Iger
Book: '12 Rule for Life' by Jordan Peterson
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