Let’s Get It On Cindra Banks

TW: Abuse, su!cide. Listen with care.⁠
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What you'll learn about on this episode:⁠
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🎧️ What betrayal trauma is and how it shows up in relationships⁠
🎧️ How you can be "blind" to things you can actually see⁠
🎧️ Having unhealthy attachment to people⁠
🎧️ How trauma bonding plays out in relationships⁠
🎧️ What toxic co-dependency is⁠
🎧️ How to start healing any and all the above!⁠
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PLUS so much more, Jess shares her amazing story and we share our experiences and what we have both gone through to get into the secure relationships we are in now 💦⁠
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Thanks to this babe @jessellaainsworth for her wisdom - Go and check out her Insta and her work🔥⁠ And follow me whilst you’re at it @cindrabanks
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And thanks in advance for listening, rating and reviewing the pod. Let's get it on 🫶🏼

This episode is brought to you by Healthy, Secure & Hot 🔥 The twelve week program to go from triggered, avoidant and libido-less to secure AF, deeply connected and turned on in your relationship! DM me to enrol - Instagram.com/cindrabanks 🔥 My friend and colleague ALICE joins me for this juicy episode, talking about the main issue we hear from our audiences and clients, the loss of desire (aka the spark) in long term relationships 👏🏻⁠
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What you'll learn about on this episode:⁠
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🎧️ The reframing of what high/low libido is
🎧️ How to handle the intimacy “rebuff” and what to do about it
🎧️ Why s.egs shouldn’t be on the to-do list
🎧️ Non-Segsual Intimacy and the importance of this
🎧️ Foreplay during the day
🎧️ Brakes and Accelerators for s.egs
🎧️ Erotic rituals and play to spice things up
🎧️ Why Cindra doesn’t have s.egs on school nights
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PLUS so much more, we give you a wealth of tools and resources to reclaim the desire in your relationship 💦⁠
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Thanks to this babe @alicechildofficial for their wisdom - Go and check out her Insta and her amazing games for couples🔥⁠ And my Insta is @cindrabanks 💕
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And thanks in advance for listening, rating and reviewing the pod. Let's get it on 💦

EVEN if you don't get behind open relating, open up your ears and listen to this convo because I gurantee you will learn something regardless 👏🏻⁠
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What you'll learn about on this episode:⁠
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🎧️ Toxic/Unhealthy Monogamy⁠
🎧️ How jealousy in relationships is romanticised and based on insecurity (your own)⁠
🎧️ Infidelity and what it means⁠
🎧️ How Ether Perel and the Gottmans are changing the way relationships are (thank god)⁠
🎧️ What open relating means...⁠
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PLUS all the goss on Kate and Greg's relationship, recent experience at a swinger's resort, their NAUGHTIEST rendezvous with others and so much more 💦⁠
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Thanks to these babes @cfkate and Greg for their wisdom - Go and check out their podcast Gone Rogue for more on them and their relationship 🔥⁠ Find me on Insta @cindrabanks 💕
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And thanks in advance for listening, rating and reviewing the pod so more peeps can find this 🙏

TW: Domestic V.iolence - Please contact 1800 RESPECT for support⁠ in Australia.
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💜 That’s So Taboo - DOMESTIC VIOLENCE with Lauren Jane from @find.my.wild 💜⁠
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Gosh, what a much needed episode this is 🫶🏼⁠
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Lauren shared so openly about her DV journey, how to identify emotional a.buse, how she managed to not only survive, but eventually thrive from her experience and what she does now to help people going through similar things 👏🏻⁠
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It was eye opening and heart breaking, to tell you the truth. As she shared about gaslighting, post separational a.buse and the long recovery journey, my mouth hung open 😧⁠
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I cannot believe this is happening EVERY DAY in this country and elsewhere and many people are turning a blind eye 👀⁠
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Not after this episode they won't be, I want to get this out to as many people as possible - So please do listen and share 🙏🏼⁠
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Thanks to this beautiful babe @find.my.wild for her vulnerable shares, inspiration and guidance around this topic - Go follow her on IG and get ready to support her not for profit which is so needed 🔥⁠ Follow me too @cindrabanks 💕
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And thanks in advance for listening, rating and reviewing the pod - It will help more people hear this story 👏🏻⁠

Join us for this juicy convo about BREAKUPS. Yes, we are going there on this episode, chatting about our own break up stories and how we turned them into BREAKTHROUGHS. Bringing this topic into the light and sharing tips on how to navigate breakups in a healthy way. Whether you have just experienced this grief, or if it was a long time ago, we know you are going to get so much out of this episode! The break up guide I WISH I had to get me through my two divorces. I know personally that my break ups were the BIGGEST catalyst for growth for me and also getting me into the most secure relationship of my LIFE. Thanks to these babes @itsstephyj @kendallbrowncoaching for their wisdom - Go follow them for much more of this magic! And me of course - @cindrabanks 💜 Thanks for listening, would LOVE a rating and review so this episode can reach more peeps 🙌

Hormone Coach Instagram.com/brookeluisesurtees joins me for the most INFORMATION packed and insightful episode all about HORMONES 💘⁠
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EVERYONE that has a v.ulva NEEDS to listen in to this episode, especially if you do struggle with low s.egsual desire and have a lot of stress 🙋🏼‍♀️⁠
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In this episode, we cover:⁠
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- our disordered eating pasts and how both of us have moved into eating and body freedom 😋⁠
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- sympathetic vs parasympathetic nervous systems and how this effects our health 🫨⁠
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- the impact of stress on us (esp intimately) and what we can do about it 💦⁠
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- getting older and how this impacts our hormones ❤️⁠
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- owning mid life and demystifying menopause and peri-menopause 👑⁠
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And so much more, we could have talked all day!⁠
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I learnt so much as will you, a must listen 🥰⁠
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Thanks Brooke for sharing so much wisdom with us! Find out more about her and her amazing work at @brookeluisesurtees on IG ❤️ ⁠and follow me @cindrabanks 💖
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Thanks for listening 😘😘⁠
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PS Please SHARE with ya sistas because this is an important comversation!!!