43 min
Suicidal Ideation: After My Husband Committed Suicide, I Wanted to End It All Tendrils of Grief
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- Self-Improvement
Janie Dalrymple has been a nurse for over 17 years including hospital-based bedside care, home health, and the outpatient clinical setting. She has a strong neurology background and was a Clinic Coordinator for an ALS Clinic for several years. After the unexpected death of her husband and mother at a young age, Janie felt the need to advocate for others finding it difficult to navigate the healthcare system, including dealing with end-of-life issues. Janie shares what life looks like after her husband’s passing and how she’s found new meaning in life after a whirlwind of grief.
Key Takeaways:
A little bit about Janie and her grief story. Why did Janie’s husband commit suicide? It came out of nowhere. Janie blamed his work and the institution. He was being bullied by a coworker and he had complained multiple times about it, with nothing happening. Janie went to a grief counselor 2 weeks after he died. It would take Janie 4 hours to just get up and brush her teeth. Janie had suicide idealization after her husband passed away. Susan can relate. Janie could see how painful the sudden death of her husband was to her friends and family. She couldn’t do that to them x2. With her life uprooted, Janie took some time to figure out what her next career steps would be, and then her mom got really sick. Witnessing how the nurses and hospital staff treated her sick mother, Janie realized she needed to become a patient advocate and speak for people who can not speak for themselves. The best time to have tough conversations is when you’re healthy. Families often want to push their own agenda on a sick or end-of-life family member. It’s important to honor the person dying, not the family. Janie is working extensively with ASL patients, an incurable disease. Get your paperwork in order so that when someone passes away, family members can just focus on the grieving process. There’s nothing wrong with planning a grieving session. Just take 20 mins or an hour out of your day to just grieve. Would your loved one want you to feel guilty or sad? No! The unfortunate reality is that your loved one is gone. So what’s next for you? Janie now has a new partner and she is grateful that she can still honor her late husband’s memory. With a lot of pain, there comes a lot of growth too.
Resources
Tendrilsofgrief.com
Email Susan: susan@tendrilsofgrief.com
Yourpatientsadvocate.com
Janie on LinkedIn
Janie Dalrymple has been a nurse for over 17 years including hospital-based bedside care, home health, and the outpatient clinical setting. She has a strong neurology background and was a Clinic Coordinator for an ALS Clinic for several years. After the unexpected death of her husband and mother at a young age, Janie felt the need to advocate for others finding it difficult to navigate the healthcare system, including dealing with end-of-life issues. Janie shares what life looks like after her husband’s passing and how she’s found new meaning in life after a whirlwind of grief.
Key Takeaways:
A little bit about Janie and her grief story. Why did Janie’s husband commit suicide? It came out of nowhere. Janie blamed his work and the institution. He was being bullied by a coworker and he had complained multiple times about it, with nothing happening. Janie went to a grief counselor 2 weeks after he died. It would take Janie 4 hours to just get up and brush her teeth. Janie had suicide idealization after her husband passed away. Susan can relate. Janie could see how painful the sudden death of her husband was to her friends and family. She couldn’t do that to them x2. With her life uprooted, Janie took some time to figure out what her next career steps would be, and then her mom got really sick. Witnessing how the nurses and hospital staff treated her sick mother, Janie realized she needed to become a patient advocate and speak for people who can not speak for themselves. The best time to have tough conversations is when you’re healthy. Families often want to push their own agenda on a sick or end-of-life family member. It’s important to honor the person dying, not the family. Janie is working extensively with ASL patients, an incurable disease. Get your paperwork in order so that when someone passes away, family members can just focus on the grieving process. There’s nothing wrong with planning a grieving session. Just take 20 mins or an hour out of your day to just grieve. Would your loved one want you to feel guilty or sad? No! The unfortunate reality is that your loved one is gone. So what’s next for you? Janie now has a new partner and she is grateful that she can still honor her late husband’s memory. With a lot of pain, there comes a lot of growth too.
Resources
Tendrilsofgrief.com
Email Susan: susan@tendrilsofgrief.com
Yourpatientsadvocate.com
Janie on LinkedIn
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