The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Kate Anthony, CPCC

Dr. Sarah Schewitz returns to the podcast to talk about pathological love relationships. Dr. Schewitz helps us understand what this type of relationship is, how to know if you’re in one, why these types of relationships can be so devastating, and what is necessary to recover and heal. 
Dr. Sarah Schewitz is a licensed psychologist specializing in love and relationships. She is the founder of the successful online psychology practice, Couples Learn, which was named by Forbes Health as one of the top 3 online marriage counseling services in 2023. She specializes in healing attachment trauma, understanding the impact of childhood wounds on your relationships, helping couples transform their communication, and rebuilding trust after betrayal.
Featured topics:

Dr. Schewitz answers, “What is a pathological love relationship [PLR]?” and describes the four identifiers of a PLR (11:18)

Signs and red flags that you might be in a pathological love relationship (13:19)

The five personality traits of victims who most often are susceptible to this type of relationship (18:42)

Why it is necessary to seek out a trauma-informed and educated therapist to aid you in recovery (33:32)

Healing from traumatic PLR oftentimes requires a somatic therapy approach (36:06)


Learn more about Dr. Sarah Schewitz:
Dr. Sarah Schewitz is a licensed psychologist specializing in love & relationships. She is the founder of the successful online psychology practice, Couples Learn, which was named by Forbes Health as one of the top 3 online marriage counseling services in 2023. She specializes in healing attachment trauma, understanding the impact of childhood wounds on your relationships, helping couples transform their communication, and rebuilding trust after betrayal. Dr. Sarah and Couples Learn have been featured on CNN, The Washington Post, Women’s Health, Bravo TV, and more. 
Resources & Links:
Private Coaching with Kate
Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective
Couples Learn
Episode Link:
https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-270-pathological-love-relationships-with-dr-sarah-schewitz/
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For over six years, I’ve managed a Facebook group for women contemplating whether to stay in or leave their marriages. Recently, I made the very tough decision to close the group. In this bonus solo episode, I address the issues that led to the group’s closing. I further share about the rules and guidelines that were in place, the challenges of managing a large community, and my response to group members' frustrations. I also reflect on boundaries, the importance of doing the work for personal growth, and ultimately, the considerations for potentially reopening the group and providing some closure to the situation.
Resources & Links:
Facebook Group Survey
Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective
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We’re talking about tenderness and holding space with Heather Plett, author of the award-winning book The Art of Holding Space: A Practice of Love, Liberation, and Leadership and the recently released book Where Tenderness Lives: On Healing, Liberation, and Holding Space for Oneself. Heather opens up about her experience of dealing with divorce, co-founding the Center for Holding Space, and authoring books that dive into these concepts. Our conversation reveals how embracing tenderness towards oneself can disrupt patriarchal and capitalist structures and highlights the importance of self-care, setting boundaries, and the deep dive required for personal growth.
Featured topics:

The concept of holding space: what it is and how to do it (3:10)

Tenderness as a disruptive force (27:13)

Putting into practice daily acts of tenderness (33:15)

Learn more about Heather Plett:
Heather Plett is the author of the award-winning book The Art of Holding Space: A Practice of Love, Liberation, and Leadership and the recently released book Where Tenderness Lives: On Healing, Liberation, and Holding Space for Oneself. She is also an international speaker and workshop facilitator, and co-founder of the Centre for Holding Space.
Resources & Links:
Private Coaching with Kate
Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective
Kate on A Tender Space Podcast: Healing and Divorce I A conversation with Kate Anthony
Heather's website
Center for Holding Space
Heather on Facebook
Heather on Instagram
Episode Link:
https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-269-where-tenderness-lives-with-heather-plett
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Oftentimes, we wrap our identities in this one thing - like marriage. What happens when it's over? This week, Nikki Spoelstra (Nikki Spo) joins me to discuss the transformative power of self-discovery through life's most challenging moments.
Nikki and I cover a range of important topics, including how self-esteem is built through self-knowledge, strategies for managing thoughts about divorce, emphasizing the importance of setting limits on dwelling on the past, and so much more. Nikki is a breath of fresh air for women going through hard times. 
Join us as we discuss the intricate process of reinventing oneself after significant life changes, the importance of self-acceptance, and the journey to finding joy and worth within.
Featured topics:

Nikki answers, "How did you reinvent yourself?" TLDR: “You do so, even when you’re scared as shit.” (7:18)

Self-esteem is built through self-knowledge. (22:02)

Apologizing is not the same thing as making amends. (26:11)

Romanticizing friendships with your ex/co-parent: Don’t compare your divorce or co-parenting relationship to others. It may evolve differently or stay the same forever. (29:59)

Parallel parenting vs. co-parenting. (31:33)

A reminder that you get to be the owner of your story, and people don’t have to know all the details about your relationships or divorce (38:19)


Learn more about Nikki Spo:
Nikki Spoelstra is the host of The Know with Nikki Spo - a globally top-ranked podcast that highlights the stories of individuals who are finding and celebrating their deepest sense of inner knowing in a space where it’s not about knowing everything, but about coming to know ourselves.
Covering topics that range from motherhood and business to wellness and self-care, The Know with Nikki Spo has been nominated for the People’s Choice Podcast Award and is up for two coveted Gracie Awards, which honor exceptional women in podcasting and journalism.
Nikki is a single mom of three, has overcome tough life experiences with ferocity and grace, and is a compelling speaker of truths.
Resources & Links:
Private Coaching with Kate
Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective
Kate on Nikki’s Podcast The Know with Nikki Spo
Nikki's website
Nikki on Instagram @nikkisappspo
Episode link:
https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-268-reinventing-yourself-after-divorce-nikki-spo-on-self-discovery-and-empowerment/
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“Therapy is dead,” says this week’s podcast guest, Dawn Wiggins. In this episode, we get to the heart of why Dawn says therapy isn’t always the answer and, instead, how somatic and homeopathic techniques help individuals heal from various forms of trauma.  
Dawn is a trauma-informed licensed marriage and family therapist and integrative healer who helps women turn the traumatic journey of divorce into a force for healing, self-love, and joy through a tailored blend of holistic and scientifically supported solutions.  
Featured topics:

Supported solutions for healing like EFT (6:45)

Why Dawn says therapy is dead + explains the job of a therapist (16:25)

Homeopathy: what it is and how Dawn weaves it into her practice (18:31)

How we can use all of these techniques to heal the trauma of divorce and more (29:19)

Learn more about Dawn Wiggins:
Dawn Wiggins is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, EMDR specialist, and constitutional homeopath. She draws on decades of experience to help women navigate the emotional rollercoaster that comes after ending a marriage. Using a little bit of science, a few alternative remedies and emotional release techniques, a whole lot of love, and zero BS, we step out of the victim mindset and into building a new life after divorce.
Resources & Links:
Kate’s book “The D Word
Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective
Dawn's website
Dawn on Facebook
Dawn on Instagram
Post Divorce Roadmap - 21 Days of Guided Journaling
Episode Link:
https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-267-is-therapy-dead-with-dawn-wiggins/
DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

We are talking about a really important topic this week: grief. Grief is shocking in divorce. My guest Barri Leiner Grant, is a grief specialist and educator who joins me to help us understand how to process the grief we feel over an ended marriage. Barri divorced after a 17-year marriage and helps name grief and grieving for others who have experienced losing an imagined future. Putting the G-word in the D-word!  
Featured topics:

Why do we grieve a divorce? (2:16)

Shame is a complicating factor in grief and divorce (8:49)

The root cause of the shame and how to move through it (17:00)

If we don’t look at our grief head-on, it will grow like a weed

Grief tending: what it is and how you can tend to your grief (21:18)

Exploring who you are now and who you want to be (28:35)


Learn more about Barri Leiner Grant:
Barri Leiner Grant is a grief specialist and educator and the founder of The Memory Circle -- a place and space she created for those who have experienced both death and non-death losses. Her work has been featured in The Washington Post, Psychology Today, and Maria Shriver's Sunday paper, among many other media outlets. She is an author who shares her personal experiences of loss widely. She divorced after a 17-year marriage and helps name grief and grieving for others who have experienced losing a future imagined. Putting the G-word in the D-word!  
Resources & Links:
Kate’s book “The D Word
Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective
Barri's website
Barri on Instagram
The Artist’s Way
Episode link:
https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-266-putting-the-g-word-in-the-d-word-with-barri-leiner-grant

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