Almost Adulting with Violet Benson Violet Benson

Get in besties, we’re getting ghosted! Welcome to this week's confession stories where you guys shared your horror ghosting stories!!!!!! dating sure is scary these days.

It can be a hard pill to swallow, but you can’t also become the person you want to be if you’re stuck in the past. There’s no fairytale or storybook ending if you don’t fix what’s within, but that doesn’t mean you have to do it alone!

Today we welcome sex and relationships therapist, Todd Baratz! Todd has devoted his entire life to wellness as he actively works against all formalities, traditions and diagnosis. Together Violet and Todd discuss the importance of intimacy negotiation in a relationship, identifying self sabotaging behaviors, and how to fill emotional voids. The two also deep dive into the myth of being “relationship ready”. The truth is, there’s no such thing. Relational love leads to self love. Besties, sometimes the real breakup you need is with your old patterns and behaviors.

Today we dive into why you got ghosted and how to manifest him back while also moving on.

And sometimes…we just need to hear the cold hard truth. Kidding. But when you only focus on the negative things in life, you don’t realize that that’s all you’re allowing your life to be. We all deserve the most beautiful things in life, and sometimes tough love from your bestie is exactly what you needed to hear.

Today we welcome TV host, podcaster, and Sports Illustrated model Kamie Crawford to Almost Adulting! Violet and Kamie, instant besties and Scorpio sisters, start off the conversation by talking brutally honestly about some of their own faults, and even their friends. They discuss how their delivery may not always be the best, but it may just be a Scorpio thing. They also talk in depth about Kamie’s life post her 5-year relationship, how NOT having a rebound after a breakup is a painful part of growing up, the two forms of cheating, and which of them is truly worse than the other. The truth hurts besties, no matter which way you put it.

Violet gives you the step by step guide to handling being dumped, from what to say to what to do after to get them running back to you in no time!

Read it and weep besties. It’s the truth. Stop wasting your time over a boy who just wants you around to boost his ego, to do his bidding, and to make himself more attractive to other women. Boys are just now learning how to live without their mom doing their laundry for them, let alone know a thing about commitment yet. Boys will keep you waiting and play mind games with you, and the LAST thing we’re doing is putting up with it any longer.

Today, we welcome Patti Stanger back to Almost Adulting. As a third generation matchmaker, Patti founded the Millionaire's Club in January of 2000 after serving five years as the Director of Marketing/Special Events for Great Expectations, the oldest and largest dating service in the U.S. Given her expertise in matchmaking and Violet’s experience in dating men, the duo talks about the male logic while dating, why successful women have higher standards and don’t consider marriage in their early twenties and why we should always keep a three-man rotation. Violet and Patti also discuss the effects of poor parenting, the real reason why men take advantage of the woman emotionally, and the many complicated aspects of dating while technology is evolving. You’re gonna want your pen and paper out for this, everything you’re about to hear is FACT.