20 episodes
Banishing Mom Burnout Sabra Staudenmaier
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- Kids & Family
Motherhood, in theory, should be wonderful. It’s the most natural thing in the world. Every living thing on this planet has a mother! But if you’re listening to this podcast, you are likely experiencing a special flavor of motherhood, the one I've been in. Let’s call this version “modern motherhood.” This is the motherhood with postpartum depression, sleep training, social media, gluten, ADD, anxiety, food allergies and most recently, Covid. The sparks of many issues are out there. And without the right skills, flames will ignite. If you don’t know how to manage this, motherhood will scald and sear and can burn you alive.
How do you know if you have Mom Burnout?
- You feel like a servant in your own home
- You aren’t taking care of your body
- Your finances are not organized. You don’t have the time or energy to manage them.
- You don’t feel good about your relationships with family
- You engage in overeating, overdrinking, over shopping, or business to cope
- Your life is hyper focused on your role as a caretaker and there is little room for your own needs
- You are having a hard time with work/life balance.
- You feel overwhelmed
- You have a deep scary feeling that you're lost
- Underneath it all you are unhappy more of the time than you want to admit
Well Moms, I’m here to tell you amazing news! There is a way out! I’ve experienced the worst of this. My burnout charred me all the way to clinical depression. I was overweight, overdrinking, and this led to … not the best conditions to care for myself or the other people in my house.
But I found a way to extinguish the burn. I’ve healed relationships, I’ve lost the excess weight and I stopped drinking alcohol. I've also I started a business where I get to live my life’s purpose and passion while making money. In this podcast, I'm going to help you reclaim yourself so that you can get out of volcanic motherhood hell and are able to enjoy motherhood.
This is not your mother’s motherhood ladies; the circumstances have changed. This one can become an inferno. But there IS a way to tame the flames. If you want to find out how, join me here in the Banishing Mom Burnout podcast! I will see you soon!
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Moms With Money
In this episode I go over the reasons why making and having money is the #1 solution to ending your burnout.
I've been coaching moms out of burnout for over two years. In today's episode we discuss the main conclusion I've come to.
It's not surprising that money plays a very big part in mom burnout. If you don't have enough money you will be more burned out. If you do have enough, the chances of you banishing your burnout significantly increases.
Tune in to hear my plan for helping moms earn money so they can put an end to their burnout once and for all!
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Important Meetings
Moms, the holidays are coming ... ready or not! Now is the time to block off space on your calendar for yourself. I'm calling these blocks of time "Important Meetings" or "Important Appointments" and I'm advising you to schedule them ASAP!
In this episode, I talk about signs I've experienced that burnout is on its way. This is a high risk time of year for Mom Burnout. Be on alert. Be warned. And take advanced precautions by scheduling down time/break time right now -- aka "important meetings" and "important appointments." Get them on your calendar before the holiday craziness gets going. These are blocks of time you're going to use to rest and recover from all of the holiday to dos on the way.
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Fear of Money
Money is power and until women have equal control and awareness of their money, they are forfeiting power. In this episode, I shine a light on what I have experienced and what I'm seeing regarding women being disengaged with their money and the reasons why.
My husband was in charge of all of the "money stuff," it was his "department."
I was like an ostrich with my head in the sand when it came to our money matters. And I knew it. I just didn’t have the time, energy or immediate reason to do anything about it.
Happily (refer to episode 4) I straightened this out. How? I got up to speed on my money AND I even hired my own financial advisor who helps me separately from my husband to make sure that I’m always in the loop with my money. But I continue to see this same lack of relationship with money with other women – my clients, my friends, I see it everywhere and I want to shine a light on it.
In truth, this is something that’s been bothering me for a VERY long time. It has to do with an underdiscussed (in my opinion) issue with women and money. Here’s my observation…
Despite how much money a woman has, if she’s not involved in her money, she’s disempowered. And many women are not involved, or at least not involved enough. This leaves them wide open to the risk of not being able to thrive and even survive down the road of their lives.
This is also a big contributor to burnout.
Coaching Referral Mentioned:
Stacey Mendelson - Divorce Coach
https://lifelinecoaching.ca
Articles Mentioned:
Women, Money and Power: The Next Generation
(Correction - this article was written in 2017 not 2016 as mentioned in the episode)
The Allianz Women, Money, and Power Study: Empowered and Underserved
Women, Wealth, and Investing - A Story of Evolution
Book & Podcast Recommendations:
Rewire for Wealth: Three Steps Any Woman Can Take to Program Her Brain for Financial Success
The Ramsey Show
Money Guy Show
Challenge Questions -
Make sure you are aware of all of your accounts, amounts, logins and passwords. Make a list of all of your assets and liabilities. Make a list of the insurances you have and the ones you might be missing.
Please Note: He/She Man/Woman Husband/Wife/Partner are used in this podcast for simplicity, but I welcome and support all gender preferences.
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Tough Love from My Husband
After realizing the impact of internalized patriarchy (IP) on mom burnout, I have come up with a strategy to deal with it. Join me today as I share this burnout "hack" with you.
Here's what I know about internalized patriarchy:
It's internal, we cause it Men, in general, don't suffer from it.
(Disclaimer: I'm not sure how gender identification plays into this so I am referring to men and women to keep this concept simple - but know I support all forms of gender associations).
Therefore, here is a hack ... find a man or person who does not suffer from internalized patriarchy (I have affectionately termed this person to be your IP partner) and when you find yourself experiencing IP -- pause -- and ask the other person what they would do in this situation. Bam! Now at least you see what's going on and you have some options to find a way out.
Join me for this episode of BMB where I run actual scenarios in my life by my chosen IP partner, my husband Walter, who shines a light on what he would do in each scenario.
IP is a massive cause of burnout. And I'm on a mission to conquer it! Join me!
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Wisdom from My Life Coach Kelly Hollingsworth
Kelly Hollingsworth is a brilliant and masterful coach for coaches.
She has opened my eyes to so many things including internalized patriarchy, the need for equality in the home and how to engage powerfully with others. I have Kelly's guidance to thank for creating this podcast!
In this episode Kelly and I talk about how she is teaching mostly women how to engage powerfully with others and how this helps women make money.
We talk about Type 1 vs Type 2 patriarchy.
We discuss how the way Motherhood is being handled right now is a giant barrier to women earning money.
I am so proud and so honored to be one of Kelly’s coaches and I could not be more excited to share this conversation with you.
To listen to Kelly's How to Make More Money podcast click here (I especially recommend episode 21).
Enjoy!
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Books for Burnout
Step 4 of Banishing Mom Burnout is stop overmomming and use that time and energy to build your life outside of motherhood. One great way to do this is to read. Read... a lot. Reading is a fantastic way to escape/take a break without going anywhere. You can do it while semi-supervising your kids. You can do it while you wait for your kids at activities. Thanks to one of my favorite things, Audible, you can listen to books while mom taxi-ing all over the place. Reading/listening to books is the best! Reading is also one of the best ways to learn new things and continue to grow as a person, which is so important to prevent burnout!
Any reading is good, but I personally love reading about self-development (kinda my thing).
For today's episode I've selected a few of my recent picks that have helped me with mom burnout. Here are the amazon/audible links:
Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Inner Barrier to Women's Happiness and Fulfillment
Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans
The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control over Their Lives
The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure
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© 2022 Sabra Staudenmaier