Banishing Mom Burnout

Sabra Staudenmaier

Motherhood, in theory, should be wonderful. It's the most natural thing in the world. Every living thing on this planet has a mother! But if you're listening to this podcast, you are likely experiencing a special flavor of motherhood, the one I've been in. Let's call this version "modern motherhood." This is the motherhood with postpartum depression, sleep training, social media, gluten, ADD, anxiety, food allergies and most recently, Covid. The sparks of many issues are out there. And without the right skills, flames will ignite. If you don't know how to manage this, motherhood will scald and sear and can burn you alive. How do you know if you have Mom Burnout? - You feel like a servant in your own home - You aren't taking care of your body - Your finances are not organized. You don't have the time or energy to manage them. - You don't feel good about your relationships with family - You engage in overeating, overdrinking, over shopping, or business to cope - Your life is hyper focused on your role as a caretaker and there is little room for your own needs - You are having a hard time with work/life balance. - You feel overwhelmed - You have a deep scary feeling that you're lost - Underneath it all you are unhappy more of the time than you want to admit Well Moms, I'm here to tell you amazing news! There is a way out! I've experienced the worst of this. My burnout charred me all the way to clinical depression. I was overweight, overdrinking, and this led to … not the best conditions to care for myself or the other people in my house. But I found a way to extinguish the burn. I've healed relationships, I've lost the excess weight and I stopped drinking alcohol. I've also I started a business where I get to live my life's purpose and passion while making money. In this podcast, I'm going to help you reclaim yourself so that you can get out of volcanic motherhood hell and are able to enjoy motherhood. This is not your mother's motherhood ladies; the circumstances have changed. This one can become an inferno. But there IS a way to tame the flames. If you want to find out how, join me here in the Banishing Mom Burnout podcast! I will see you soon!

  1. Fear of Money

    04/11/2022

    Fear of Money

    Money is power and until women have equal control and awareness of their money, they are forfeiting power. In this episode, I shine a light on what I have experienced and what I'm seeing regarding women being disengaged with their money and the reasons why. My husband was in charge of all of the "money stuff," it was his "department." I was like an ostrich with my head in the sand when it came to our money matters. And I knew it. I just didn't have the time, energy or immediate reason to do anything about it. Happily (refer to episode 4) I straightened this out. How? I got up to speed on my money AND I even hired my own financial advisor who helps me separately from my husband to make sure that I'm always in the loop with my money. But I continue to see this same lack of relationship with money with other women – my clients, my friends, I see it everywhere and I want to shine a light on it. In truth, this is something that's been bothering me for a VERY long time. It has to do with an underdiscussed (in my opinion) issue with women and money. Here's my observation… Despite how much money a woman has, if she's not involved in her money, she's disempowered. And many women are not involved, or at least not involved enough. This leaves them wide open to the risk of not being able to thrive and even survive down the road of their lives. This is also a big contributor to burnout. Coaching Referral Mentioned: Stacey Mendelson - Divorce Coach https://lifelinecoaching.ca Articles Mentioned: Women, Money and Power: The Next Generation (Correction - this article was written in 2017 not 2016 as mentioned in the episode) The Allianz Women, Money, and Power Study: Empowered and Underserved Women, Wealth, and Investing - A Story of Evolution Book & Podcast Recommendations: Rewire for Wealth: Three Steps Any Woman Can Take to Program Her Brain for Financial Success The Ramsey Show Money Guy Show Challenge Questions - Make sure you are aware of all of your accounts, amounts, logins and passwords. Make a list of all of your assets and liabilities. Make a list of the insurances you have and the ones you might be missing. Please Note: He/She Man/Woman Husband/Wife/Partner are used in this podcast for simplicity, but I welcome and support all gender preferences. Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For more information and available downloads, please visit our website at https://www.sabralifecoaching.com/banishingmomburnoutpodcast © 2022 Sabra Staudenmaier

    28 min
  2. Books for Burnout

    23/09/2022

    Books for Burnout

    Step 4 of Banishing Mom Burnout is stop overmomming and use that time and energy to build your life outside of motherhood. One great way to do this is to read. Read... a lot. Reading is a fantastic way to escape/take a break without going anywhere. You can do it while semi-supervising your kids. You can do it while you wait for your kids at activities. Thanks to one of my favorite things, Audible, you can listen to books while mom taxi-ing all over the place. Reading/listening to books is the best! Reading is also one of the best ways to learn new things and continue to grow as a person, which is so important to prevent burnout! Any reading is good, but I personally love reading about self-development (kinda my thing). For today's episode I've selected a few of my recent picks that have helped me with mom burnout. Here are the amazon/audible links: Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Inner Barrier to Women's Happiness and Fulfillment Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control over Their Lives The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For more information and available downloads, please visit our website at https://www.sabralifecoaching.com/banishingmomburnoutpodcast © 2022 Sabra Staudenmaier

    31 min
  3. Lessons Learned this Summer

    09/09/2022

    Lessons Learned this Summer

    This summer wasn't the restful break I thought it would be, but I learned many valuable lessons that I'd like to share. These are lessons that will help you with parenting and mom burnout. I sent my kids away this summer and was looking forward to some quality time-off from "momming." What I experienced was a shift from in-person to long-distance momming, as I dealt with two of my kids struggling while away from home. Coincidentally, I was reading a book called The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure by Jonathan Haidt & Greg Lukianoff. This book addresses many topics parents need to know about the kids of "Gen Z/I-Gen." I only scratch the surface of the information in the book in this episode; there is so much more. I recommend you read the book yourself, it's well worth the time. One concept that I found relevant to my summer experience was new to me: "Safetyism." The authors of the book define safetyism as a culture or belief system in which safety (which includes "emotional safety") has become a sacred value, which means that people become unwilling to make trade-offs demanded by other practical and moral concerns. It is through Safetyism that modern parents are perpetuating fragility in our kids and, ironically, making our kids less safe. In my opinion, the helicopter parenting, overparenting, etc. that goes hand in hand with Safetyism is doing something else: it's exhausting us and burning us out. In this episode I go over how I personally applied concepts from the book The Coddling of the American Mind to my kids over the summer. John Robert's Commencement speech "We wish you bad luck" https://youtu.be/pqzbEGA3x2I Note: next episode I will be discussing Patriarchy Stress Disorder as written about in the book by Valerie Rein. Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For more information and available downloads, please visit our website at https://www.sabralifecoaching.com/banishingmomburnoutpodcast © 2022 Sabra Staudenmaier

    29 min
  4. Mom's Secret Weapon

    24/06/2022

    Mom's Secret Weapon

    Summer is upon us and it's time to take the ultimate mom break. How? By sending your kids to camp. Preferably sleep away camp. I can't think of a better way to push the escape button on momming. We're talking up to 7 weeks without kids!!! In this episode I discuss my personal experience deciding to send my kids to sleep away camp. I address the mom guilt that many feel and recommend a book that helped me a lot: Homesick and Happy By: Michael Thompson, PhD To help even more with the mom guilt relating to outsourcing some momming, we discuss Chapter 15 of "Hunt, Gather, Parent" by Michaeleen Doucleff PhD to review how throughout history humans have turned to others to help raise their kids. This is not a one mom job. It takes a village. If you don't have a village to help you, camp is a great substitute. Finally, I announce a summer reading assignment: Patriarchy Stress Disorder by Valerie Rein, PhD I will be taking a break from the BMB podcast for July & August but will return in September when we will talk about Patriarchy Stress Disorder and how, as written on the cover, it is "the invisible barrier to women's happiness and fulfillment." Have a relaxing summer everyone! See you in September! -Sabra xo Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For more information and available downloads, please visit our website at https://www.sabralifecoaching.com/banishingmomburnoutpodcast © 2022 Sabra Staudenmaier

    43 min

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Motherhood, in theory, should be wonderful. It's the most natural thing in the world. Every living thing on this planet has a mother! But if you're listening to this podcast, you are likely experiencing a special flavor of motherhood, the one I've been in. Let's call this version "modern motherhood." This is the motherhood with postpartum depression, sleep training, social media, gluten, ADD, anxiety, food allergies and most recently, Covid. The sparks of many issues are out there. And without the right skills, flames will ignite. If you don't know how to manage this, motherhood will scald and sear and can burn you alive. How do you know if you have Mom Burnout? - You feel like a servant in your own home - You aren't taking care of your body - Your finances are not organized. You don't have the time or energy to manage them. - You don't feel good about your relationships with family - You engage in overeating, overdrinking, over shopping, or business to cope - Your life is hyper focused on your role as a caretaker and there is little room for your own needs - You are having a hard time with work/life balance. - You feel overwhelmed - You have a deep scary feeling that you're lost - Underneath it all you are unhappy more of the time than you want to admit Well Moms, I'm here to tell you amazing news! There is a way out! I've experienced the worst of this. My burnout charred me all the way to clinical depression. I was overweight, overdrinking, and this led to … not the best conditions to care for myself or the other people in my house. But I found a way to extinguish the burn. I've healed relationships, I've lost the excess weight and I stopped drinking alcohol. I've also I started a business where I get to live my life's purpose and passion while making money. In this podcast, I'm going to help you reclaim yourself so that you can get out of volcanic motherhood hell and are able to enjoy motherhood. This is not your mother's motherhood ladies; the circumstances have changed. This one can become an inferno. But there IS a way to tame the flames. If you want to find out how, join me here in the Banishing Mom Burnout podcast! I will see you soon!