BECOMING UNTRIGGERED

Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown
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BECOMING UNTRIGGERED

Welcome to Becoming Untriggered, the podcast for people who want to be better parents and partners. Your hosts, Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown bring over 16 years of their own relationship experience and decades of working with both mothers and fathers. Together, they reveal how unconscious childhood trauma can manifest in adulthood, especially when life gets serious and committed relationships and children come on the scene. Join us fortnightly for practical tools, actionable advice, and conversations that empower you to show up as the conscious parent and connected partner you want to be.

  1. 4 DAYS AGO

    Parenting Tips to Manage More Than One Child

    Parenting more than one child is a beautiful and chaotic dance of energy, emotions, and endless learning curves. In this episode, we discuss the complex dynamics of raising multiple children, from juggling attention and managing birth order effects to uncovering unconscious triggers rooted in our own childhood experiences. With candid stories and heartfelt insights from raising our three kids, we reveal how subtle adaptations in each child can form based on how we parent them (or don't). We explore common patterns such as the “good” vs. “bad” child dynamic, sibling rivalry, and how birth order can shape a child’s role in the family system. We also shed light on how gender roles and societal expectations unconsciously impact how parents treat their sons versus their daughters. Whether you’re a parent of two or more, or thinking about expanding your family, this episode offers empowering strategies to parent with more awareness, compassion, and flexibility. – Resources:  Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session –  📱 Connect with Lavinia:  https://www.laviniabrown.com  https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew:  https://www.andrewlynn.net https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer  https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed

    28 min

  2. 11 APR

    Is It Your Personality or a Trauma Response?

    Have you ever wondered if the way you show up in the world is truly YOU, or if it’s a response to something you’ve been through? Many traits we consider “just who we are”, like people-pleasing, perfectionism, emotional numbing, or hyper-independence, may actually be protective patterns shaped by past experiences. In this episode, we’ll unpack how unresolved trauma can wire the nervous system and influence your behaviors, reactions, and relationships. You’ll learn how to identify common trauma responses that often go unnoticed because they’ve been part of your identity for so long. If you’re on a journey of self-awareness, healing, or helping others do the same, this episode will help you draw the line between personality and past trauma. Tune in to uncover what’s really driving your responses, and how you can begin the process of healing and reclaiming your authentic identity. – Resources:  Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme:https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme:https://www.andrewlynn.net Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session:https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session –  📱 Connect with Lavinia:  https://www.laviniabrown.com  https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew:  https://www.andrewlynn.net https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer  https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed

    23 min

  3. 28 MAR

    Why You Pick Your Partner: The Psychology of Attraction & Love

    Have you ever wondered why you’re drawn to certain people? In this episode, we uncover the psychology of attraction and the unconscious reasons behind your partner choices. From childhood experiences to hidden emotional wounds, we discuss how early attachment styles and past relationships shape who we find attractive and why those patterns sometimes lead to relationship challenges. Attraction isn’t just about chemistry; it’s deeply influenced by trauma bonds, unmet childhood needs, and subconscious expectations. You will learn how these factors play out in romantic relationships, why certain traits that once felt comforting can later become triggering, and how to recognize patterns that no longer serve you.  Whether you’re in a relationship or reflecting on past choices, this conversation will help you gain clarity on your love life. We’ll share practical strategies for breaking unhealthy cycles, deepening emotional connections, and building conscious, fulfilling relationships. – Resources:  Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session:https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session –  📱 Connect with Lavinia:  https://www.laviniabrown.com  https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew:  https://www.andrewlynn.net https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer  https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed

    23 min

  4. 14 MAR

    The Path to Becoming Untriggered with Joanna Lindenbaum

    In this episode, we explore the power of somatic healing, what it is, why it matters, and how it can transform both personal growth and relationships. We also explore the role of deep inner work, the connection between mind and body, and how somatic practices can help navigate triggers in marriage and parenting. Joanna Lindenbaum shares her journey from the art world to coaching, revealing how a life-altering experience pushed her to embrace her true calling. Joanna is the founder of the Applied Depth Institute, where she trains coaches, therapists, and leaders in master-level facilitation and trauma-informed coaching. With over 20 years of experience in coaching, human behavior, and embodiment practices, she helps practitioners go beyond surface-level work to create lasting transformation. Her Sacred Depths Practitioner Certification empowers professionals to gain the skills, confidence, and depth that set them apart while also experiencing profound personal growth. Many high-achievers struggle with balancing ambition, family, and self-care. Joanna opens up about her own challenges as the financial leader in her household, the unexpected triggers that surfaced in her marriage, and the work it took to redefine her relationship dynamics. We discuss how somatic awareness, ritual practices, and emotional regulation can help break free from limiting beliefs and create healthier, more fulfilling connections. Tune in to discover how embracing discomfort, working through fears, and integrating somatic practices can lead to profound transformation in both your inner world and your relationships. – Resources:  Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme:https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme:https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session:https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Joanna: https://applieddepthinstitute.com/ https://www.facebook.com/joanna.lindenbaum https://www.instagram.com/joanna.lindenbaum https://www.linkedin.com/in/joanna-lindenbaum-25377929a 📱 Connect with Lavinia:  https://www.laviniabrown.com  https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew:  https://www.andrewlynn.net https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer  https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed

    36 min

  5. 28 FEB

    Is It Ever Too Late to Repair Your Parent-Child Relationship?

    In this episode, we explore the power of repair in parenting, what it means, why it matters, and whether there’s a point where it’s no longer effective. We dive into the difference between short-term and long-term repair, the role of unresolved trauma, and how self-awareness can transform your relationship with your child. Many parents struggle with guilt, wondering if past mistakes have caused lasting harm. We share our own experiences and expert insights on why repair is always possible, even if it feels too late. We discuss how acknowledging your mistakes, taking responsibility, and showing genuine effort can rebuild trust and connection over time. If you’ve ever felt like you’ve damaged your relationship with your child beyond repair, this episode will give you hope and practical strategies to mend the bond. Tune in to discover how your healing journey can create a ripple effect, fostering deeper connection, understanding, and resilience in your child. – Resources:  Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme:⁠https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past⁠ Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme:⁠https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching⁠ Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session:⁠https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session⁠ 📱 Connect with Lavinia:  ⁠https://www.laviniabrown.com ⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert ⁠ ⁠https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert ⁠ ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert⁠ 📱 Connect with Andrew:  ⁠https://www.andrewlynn.net⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn⁠ ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer ⁠ ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed

    21 min

  6. 14 FEB

    How Your Inner Child Is Sabotaging Your Career

    Does your career feel stuck, unfulfilling, or full of unnecessary struggle? You might be unknowingly sabotaging your success. The beliefs and patterns formed in childhood don’t just shape your personal life, they also dictate your career choices, job satisfaction, and professional growth. In this episode, we uncover how your inner child influences your professional choices, the jobs you choose, why you stay in unfulfilling roles, and how you show up at work every day. From seeking parental approval to struggling with people-pleasing, perfectionism, and burnout, we unpack the unconscious ways your past is controlling your present. Many high-achievers unknowingly run on outdated survival mechanisms, leading to burnout, dissatisfaction, and even chronic health issues. Recognizing these patterns is the first step toward breaking free from self-sabotage. By doing the inner work, you can release old patterns and step into a career that truly aligns with your authentic self. – Resources:  Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme:https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme:https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session:https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia:  https://www.laviniabrown.com  https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew:  https://www.andrewlynn.net https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer  https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed

    22 min

  7. 31 JAN

    How to Make Your Kids Feel Safe in an Unsafe World

    In this episode, we explore how to make your kids feel safe in an increasingly unsafe world. From natural disasters to unsettling news cycles and social media overload, modern parenting comes with unprecedented challenges. They discuss how these external factors impact children’s emotional well-being and why creating a secure home environment is more crucial than ever. You’ll learn practical strategies for balancing honesty and protection when talking to your kids about difficult topics. We not only share our perspectives on managing fear, regulating emotions, and fostering resilience in children, but also address the importance of parental self-regulation, showing how your sense of safety directly influences your child’s emotional stability. Tune in to discover actionable advice for building a safe haven at home, where your children feel seen, heard, and protected. Whether you're navigating global crises or everyday stressors, this episode will equip you with tools to help your family thrive in an unpredictable world. – Resources:  Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia:  https://www.laviniabrown.com  https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert  https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew:  https://www.andrewlynn.net/  https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer  https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed

    25 min

  8. 17 JAN

    Why Addiction Stems from Childhood Pain (And How to Heal)

    In this episode, we dive into the complex and often misunderstood world of addiction, exploring how it functions as a coping mechanism for unprocessed pain and trauma. From socially acceptable habits like workaholism and exercise to substance dependencies, we examine the many faces of addiction and how they impact both personal lives and relationships. Together, we unpack what it means to recognize and address these unconscious behaviors and ask: How can we replace coping mechanisms with authentic healing? Our conversation touches on the emotional weight of shame, the unhealed wounds from childhood, and the societal norms that reinforce addictive patterns. We explore the role of self-compassion, inner parenting, and emotional awareness in breaking the cycle of addiction. Whether you’re navigating addiction yourself, supporting a loved one, or seeking to understand how unconscious behaviors influence your life, you’ll learn how to identify your own triggers and take the first steps toward building conscious, healthier habits. – Resources mentioned: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.laviniabrown.com https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.andrewlynn.net/ https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed

    32 min
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Welcome to Becoming Untriggered, the podcast for people who want to be better parents and partners. Your hosts, Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown bring over 16 years of their own relationship experience and decades of working with both mothers and fathers. Together, they reveal how unconscious childhood trauma can manifest in adulthood, especially when life gets serious and committed relationships and children come on the scene. Join us fortnightly for practical tools, actionable advice, and conversations that empower you to show up as the conscious parent and connected partner you want to be.

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  • Creator
    Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2025
  • Episodes
    23
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown
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