Closeness Tari Mannello

CHAPTERS:



0:00 Introduction



3:42 1:Logistics



8:03 The three categories of affection



11:33 Logistical problem 1a: Your furnishings



13:37 Logistical problem 1b: Lovers can't find the time



14:12 2. Family, extended family and kids



15:58 3. No locks on your doors



18:30 4. The zoo that lives with you



19:57 5. Energy



22:35 Not wanting to. Needing it to feel natural



29:25 7. You're not there emotionally



32:01 8. She shuts down emotionally, feels defeated and broken



36:04 9. Your timing is off!



43:40 Often women don't even know what bad timing is



46:05 10. Pressure



50:36 11. Not putting yourself in your partners shoes (empathy and understanding)



54:15 12. Too many broken promises



56:50 13. Not making small progressions towards sex

CHAPTERS



0:00 Intro and the types of relationships that are like this



2:34 Women who want it but their husbands drive is not there



3:42 You're trying, you're having good sex but it's still not enough for her



5:06 Thoughts on what to do if you have a very sexual wife or girlfriend



11:26 Distinguishing between a woman who doesn't want you vs someone who is turned off from you



15:02 If you're super aggressive or a non-affectionate man this doesn't apply



15:52 it's imperative as a man to take action if she has a high sex drive



17:45 What to do if she looks discouraged



21:30 She doesn't know what to do but you DO



25:24 When men get discouraged or don't understand what to do



27:35 Your sexuality matters too - but if you don't desire her you're in trouble



29:35 In search of answers...



30:22 If you don't authentically desire her, you'll probably blow it



35:40 You really can't change someone's desire, libido or sex drive too greatly



37:34 It turns out your sex drive does matter too



41:40 Women actually pressure men to have sex too...



46:02 Final thoughts, summary and wrap up







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Chapters: 



0:00 Intro 



2:25 Disclosures 



3:45 Connecting with your children is not something that ever ends 



5:45  1. Anytime something goes wrong, it’s going to require mom’s instant attention 



7:06 A taste of my story 



9:50 2. Many women think their ex is crazy or a narcissist 



12:00 The usual disclaimers 



14:00 A contribution from a single mother 



15:57 3. The length of your commitment matters 



17:56 4. Her children must come first 



22:15 5. You can’t just come over 



23:29 5a. Sometimes you may rank last in terms of priority 



24:24 5b. The ex she’s still in touch with 



25:30 Giving a balanced perspective 



27:04 6. You are stepping into a pre-existing family 



30:30 7. If the children don’t like you 



32:26 8. Divorce statistics and how they effect children 



33:39 9. You’ve got to be creative with discipline 



35:50 10. Navigating who should pay… for everyone 



41:06 11. The possibility of meeting the ex or proverbial crazy ex 



42:35 12. Extended family is often involved 



45:14 13. Women are incredible care takers- but often not for you 



49:08 14. The biggest risk: Spending time with the kids by yourself 



50:50 15. You’re not man enough for not raising her kids? 



52:42 16. Women have LOTS of “standards.” You’re allowed to have standards too



55:04 17. Physically speaking… 



59:04 18. What about what you need as a man? 



1:01:08 19. Women’s needs are often met by having and raising children 



1:03:35 20. Kids are truly a sensory experience for women 



1:07:20 Warm sentiments on the joys of connecting with children 



1:10:55 Outro 

Chapters:







0:00 Introduction



7:23 1. When she's deferential towards you



14:26 2. She looks at you directly, frequently



16:47 3. The way that she looks at you



20:55 4. Admiration



24:12 5. Her desire to have sex with you



28:50 6. The way she'll have sex with you and what she's willing to do



35:30 Putting yourself in her position



41:12 7. Little notes and mementos



42:56 8. Gifts



45:57 9. She wants to talk to you and be near you all the time



48:30 10. She gives you her softness



50:47 11. She's more sexual and sensual outside of the bedroom



51:50 12. Exchanging videos, memes and all number of cute things



52:30 13. She shows up for you and is there when you need her



54:44 14. She loves to have fun with you and play with you



56:30 15. Her family and or friends know about you and love you or like you lots

CHAPTERS



0:00 Intro



1:39 Men and women show sexual interest differently







3:41 Puppy dog love







8:34 Men and women initiate differently







12:33 What does it look like when a woman makes herself sexually available to you







14:23 Finding the right "time" to initiate







15:58 How to be sexual with your consensual partner







18:37 Why men have a hard time with timing







21:14 Don't ask her to do it, show her







22:16 What it means to bring your masculine energy to the relationship







24:25 Distinguishing consent from asking for sex







28:14 Why can't women initiate?







29:18 Why you must initiate with her







30:14 When women actually do want to initiate







31:44 When is the right time to initiate sex with your partner







35:34 She wants you to take her



39:24 Getting all those bad boy qualities into... you







43:17 How to create a nice sexual buildup







46:20 Be careful of being mechanical and planning it all out







47:38 You must become a sexual being or a sexual person to satisfy her







49:22 All about sexual tension







57:55 Outro

This is admittedly a dense episode. It's less about the usual sexy and thought provoking ideas we usually explore and more about the inane conflicts that arise in relationship which prevent us from experiencing true intimacy or a great connection! Fighting is often trite, exhausting and most couple's can't even remember what their last ten or twenty petty fights were all about. While some altercations may be symptomatic of a deeper issue, others can simply be avoided with a little presence. In this episode we'll teach you how to understand and navigate conflict in a healthy way.







Chapters: 0:00 Introduction







1:59 Conflict is usually the result of a repetitive action







3:20 Cause and effect







9:54 Some partners enjoy provoking you



11:10 Indirect vs direct: 20 minutes of bad behavior







24:02 Another 10 minutes of bad behavior







30:30 A logic based universe







32:30 When something parasitic occurs in the brain







37:22 No one actually knows how to be vulnerable today







38:56 Blindsiding your partner will lead to confusion and negative reactions







40:25 The elusive world of feelings







42:15 When people think all feelings are valid and should be validated







48:45 Understanding intuition







50:45 Text fights







53:30 Engaging in psychological warfare







53:56 When you're already a present, honest and accountable partner but they keep tanking







55:30 When you've done nothing to violate trust







58:00 Defending yourself is often not in your best interest







1:03:00 Are you focusing on what's working or the lack of it?







1:04:05 When you just have a stormy partner







1:05:25 It's natural to get defensive after poking the pair or being prodded







1:06:15 You cannot be infinitely patient with bad behavior







1:07:28 Playin the armchair psychologist







1:10:46 Outro