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Hey guys and gals and non-binary pals! Courage + Spice is the podcast for humans with self-doubt, hosted by me: Sas Petherick. I literally have a masters degree in self-doubt and I've spent almost a decade coaching hundreds of people how to develop robust self-belief. You can expect interviews with delightful humans, evidence-based resources and original proven coaching tools. If self-doubt is holding you back in your relationships, career, creativity or your business, Courage + Spice is especially for you.

Courage and Spice: the podcast for humans with Self-doubt Sas Petherick

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Hey guys and gals and non-binary pals! Courage + Spice is the podcast for humans with self-doubt, hosted by me: Sas Petherick. I literally have a masters degree in self-doubt and I've spent almost a decade coaching hundreds of people how to develop robust self-belief. You can expect interviews with delightful humans, evidence-based resources and original proven coaching tools. If self-doubt is holding you back in your relationships, career, creativity or your business, Courage + Spice is especially for you.

    Teens and Self-belief with Maria Evans

    Teens and Self-belief with Maria Evans

    Episode 96:  Teens + Self-belief with Maria Evans

    I’m here this week with the one and only Maria Evans, a coach and mentor for teens, helping them to own their future, take on challenges in the times ahead as well as making sense of the ones they are dealing with now. I’ve been so excited to talk with Maria because if there is one thing I get asked all the time it’s: ‘how do we install self-belief in our kids?’ I’m not a parent and I don’t really work with teens, but I know that Maria’s experiences as a teacher, her training as a self-belief coach and her wealth of experience as a parent is going to be so helpful to everyone listening, I just adore this woman! The future is in good hands with Maria on board.

    So what’s this episode really about?
    We talk about the different pressures that come up for today’s teens (and no, it not just social media!) When you get down to the bottom of it, teens problems are the same as they have always been and we talk about the themes that Maria’s teen clients bring to her coaching. How self-belief is at the route of all these problems and Maria talks about her experiences in the Self-Belief Coaching Academy. Having a container away from the parent where a teen can offload their problems is hugely beneficial to both parent and teen. Maria offers her invaluable advice to parents on how to manage the teenage years. Why you should listen
    Maria talks about how she helps parents let go of some of the control they have on their kids when they are little, gets them to a place where they can safely give permission to their son or daughter to make mistakes, allowing them to fail. If you are micro-managing your teens and have come to the end of your tether, this is the episode for you!

    Also, I don’t imagine there are many teenagers listening to this podcast, but if you are, a massive shout out to you too.

    Links:
    The Book Of You: https://www.mariateencoach.com/the-book-of-you

    You can quote me on that!
    Maria Evans - “A lot of us have a fear of authority, of getting things right and we somehow think if our kid isn’t handing in their maths homework on time, we are the crap parent.”

    Mrs Broadfoot (my wonderful history teacher) - “Just do what you can to revise, I don’t want you peaking in high school.”

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    • 26 min
    Word of the year (but make it disco)

    Word of the year (but make it disco)

    Word of the year but make it disco

    Welcome to 2022

    If you are tuning into this episode in real time I hope you got what you needed from the holiday break.

    I actually rested - last summer i practiced rest and slowing down with mixed results. My over functioning self that spent decades finding safety in doing was not very good at not doing. Over Christmas I found it much easier, for a start I was way less burnt out to start with. There’s something in that!

    I am so excited about the guests coming up in the next few months. We got into a lovely rhythm last year and we are planning more of the same. Please know that I am open to creating episodes for you! If you have a self-doubt related question please zip over to selfbelief.school and fill in the online form - I’ll replay to your letter in podcast form - so you’ll get your very own episode. SO FUN.

    Here’s to a fun filled year of Courage + Spice, I am so glad you are listening in!

    So whats this episode really about?


    I delve into my approach to starting the year - how I’m feeling clear and open hearted about what I’m here to do. I go through my previous words of the year from way back when. How intentions help to make space in our brains, make things conscious. I go through my own word of the year- ‘Disappointment’ - and why I’ve chosen it.I also talk about how bringing our Intentions to life is about being really interested in where we put our Attention. I talk about the seven big risks that massively activate self-doubt.   


    Why you should listen

    Anyone who is going through this process of choosing there word of the year should realise it’s not about the outcome. So many of us get caught up with ‘what do I create, what’s the end goal?’ It’s not the outcome that creates the experience for us, it’s how we feel along the way and what these experiences help us to believe about ourselves and what we are capable of.


    Links:

    Self Belief School is the best fun you can have with your self-doubt. This programme has been a decade in the making and is the only way to coach with me. Sign up to the very first Self Belief School this Spring: https://selfbelief.school/class/




    You can quote me on that


    Mary Oliver - “Attention is the beginning of devotion.”

    Sas Petherick - “There is no goal or dream or achievement or resolution or intention that will make you more worthy of love.”

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    • 26 min
    Goodbyes are hard: grief, loss and endings

    Goodbyes are hard: grief, loss and endings

    As we come to the end of 2021, we have almost 150 thousand families in the UK grieving the loss of loved ones from Covid19, about 1 in 4 people are looking to change their job in the next 12 months and divorces and separations have massively increased over this pandemic period.

    I know for many of us there is grief, loss and endings in many shapes and forms. It doesn’t seem to matter if endings are ambiguous or even chosen, loss is HARD! So it’s no wonder we resist endings, we just aren’t very good at them.

    In this episode I really dive deep into the different types of grief and why every type is valid, I hope you can take comfort in my words as we share in this as a collective.

    So what’s this episode really about?
    Why we find grief, loss and endings so damn HARD! Grief exists on a massive spectrum, it’s not just about the loss of a loved one - all grief is legitimate and I talk about all the different types of grief and why they all matter. The sense of grieving, even when we are not directly impacted (and I talk about my own families loss in this area.)I discuss the emotional symptoms that come with grief, including the ones that surprise us. How grief can help us move on with our lives and ultimately make us better people. I go through 5 different ways of doing endings and grieving well from a healthy adult self. Why you should listen
    Grief, loss and endings are everywhere at the moment and it this episode I’ll talk more about how we can manage these feelings. I really hope this episode helps you feel more supported and less alone. If like me, you’ve had endings that haven’t been acknowledged growing up, this is the episode for you.

    Links:
    The 5 Stages of Grief by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
    On Death and Dying by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
    Transitions: Making Sense of Life's Changes by William Bridges 

    You can quote me on that:
    “Grief is complex; it’s a kaleidoscope of humanity that doesn’t have to involve the other person, it’s doesn’t have to be big or significant. If you loose something that’s important to you, it’s super natural to experience grief.”  - Sas Petherick. 

    “There is no one correct way to experience grief, but you can expect that your grief will change and evolve as you do.” - Sas Petherick

    “Every transition ends with a new beginning.” William Bridges

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    • 26 min
    Sober Curious with Karen Johnston

    Sober Curious with Karen Johnston

    Content warning: this episode contains a discussion about dysfunctional relationships with alcohol that may be difficult for folks new to recovery.

    Whenever I talk about my sobriety on Instagram I get a tonne of DM’s, so I’m overjoyed to have the wonderful Karen Johnston, champion of self-love, self-care and self-compassion, on the podcast today.
    Karen Marie Johnston is an advocate of women who are sober or are in recovery.  She comes from a front-line social worker background who has run award-winning projects, and now, alongside social work, runs The Self Love Hub - an online community along with the most beautiful weekend retreats, (which is totally on my vision board to attend, but always seem to sell out).
    So what’s this episode really about? 
    We get to the bottom of the reasons why some of us turn to drink to help us cope with life.Why in an increasing difficult world, it’s completely understandable that we choose to use alcohol to numb us out, or escape reality.How lockdown felt for as both in sobriety and how it effected people who drink excessively.How to spot the signs that becoming sober is right for you, or when you know it might be time to reduce your drinking.We ask the important question - are we avoiding our needs and emotions when we drink?Why you should listen
    Most of us aren’t taught how to navigate our feelings in a way that feels ok. We end up trying to avoid or dismiss them, some of us shop or scroll them away, some of us drink. This often creates a cycle of shame where the ways we cope with the underlying feelings, don't feel good.
    But it's the reason why we turn to these shadow comforts that are worth our attention, curiosity and compassion. By finding safe spaces to talk about how we are actually doing, we can begin the process of feeling instead of numbing.
    Most of us don't know who we will be on the other side of sobriety, or much-reduced drinking - understandably we feel apprehensive, fearful, even dismissive. It might not be something you have ever talked about with anyone but you can trust that soul-level recognition that wants to make a change.
    We talk about how amazing sobriety is, that this shared path creates an incredible intimacy with others. 

    Links:
    Follow Karen on Instagram
    The Self-Love Hub

    You can quote me on that!
    “Being able to feel the full spectrum of your emotions is being alive.” - Sas Petherick

    “Our wound is not our fault, but our healing is our responsibility.” - Karen Marie Johnston

    “I can access my intuition (now I’m sober), that feels incredible to me.” - Karen Marie Johnston.

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    • 50 min
    Why your ducks aren't in a row with Pippa Parfait

    Why your ducks aren't in a row with Pippa Parfait

    It was love at first sight with this weeks guest, the glorious Pippa Parfait. We met a dozen moons  ago at a posh party in London and we have been firm friends ever since. Pippa has had decades of experience before she retrained as a coach, leading big teams and sorting out big companies. This super resourceful lady now runs Disobedient Business, is a strategy whiz who totally gets systems and tech but is also a coach with a massive heart, who coaches businesses to run things their way. This chat will pretty much be like our co-working chats, we welcome you folks to be a fly on the wall!

    So what's this episode really about?
    How comfortable we get with chaos as business owners and why we keep things in our own head.We both admit to bouts of toxic productivity and talk about leaning into looking after ourselves more, making time for rest and also being playful with our businesses.At what point in your business cycle you know that you are ready for help. (clue: it usually starts with a tech problem)How self-doubt comes up when there is too much complexity, when it feels too hard.How do I hire someone when I need to get over my perfectionism?How we find safety in over functioning.Why you should listen
    If you are the kind of person who has real crunchiness when it come to delegating in your business and to let those people you have delegated too, work in their zone of genius without micro-managing, this is the episode for you!

    We also talk about how tech can let you down, you can have all your ducks in a row and things still don’t go to plan, but how we are able to let this go, it’s not the end of the world.

    When you work with people rather than having people working for you and the joy that comes with that.

    Links
    Follow Pippa Parfait on Instagram
    Work with Pippa

    You can quote me on that!
    “When we get really simple and clear about how we work with people, it becomes magnetising.” - Sas Petherick

    “If we put all our ducks in a row, what happens then, how do we surrender to that?” - Pippa Parfait

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    • 49 min
    Love, Self-doubt and Attachment

    Love, Self-doubt and Attachment

    This episode is about, self-doubt, love, attachment theory and…burgers!
    If you're sad at the prospect of being alone forever, terrified of settling for someone you don’t really like anymore, if you are convinced that there is only one true soul mate out there for you, if you are dating complete arses, or Insta stalking your ex, if you feel like the entire model of coupledom forever is just not for you, then grab a cuppa and listen in close, this episode is for you!
    So what’s this episode really about? 
    The intersection of self-doubt in love, how many choices we have, why we want what we want and why we often don’t get what we want.Why we accept the love we think we deserve (quoting Charlie from The Perks of Being a Wallflower)How we show up in relationships and some ways you can reflect on this.The idea of love as we see it in our culture today.Why you should listen
    I take a look at attachment theory and self-doubt: how this can help us understand the beliefs and behaviours of how we connect with other people.
    And you've got homework! Three questions to ask yourself about you and your relationship right now that can help you experiment with healthier ways of being in relationships.  
    Links 
    Find your attachment style
    Books I recommend:
    Insecure in Love by Leslie Becker-PhelpsAttached: The New Science of Adult Attachment by Amir Levine and Rachel S. F. HellerHold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Dr. Sue JohnsonPolysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica FernYou can quote me on that…
    “Love is hard, it’s one of the most emotionally complex things you will ever do. It’s a full house of psychological risk, so no wonder our self-doubt gets really twitchy.” - Sas Petherick.
    “As soon as you raise your standards, as soon as you say I am worthy of being loved because I like myself enough to require that, you will never walk into a McDonalds and ask for a damn Whopper.” - Sas Petherick

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    • 28 min

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