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Therapists and love experts Matt Wotton and Graham Johnston explore modern relationships and give practical advice to improve your partnerships. Attachment, divorce, dating, affairs, sex, neurodiversity, trauma and money: it's all covered in episodes you can digest during your commute or lunch break. Discover how to master the craft of making love last. If you love what we're doing, please subscribe and offer a five star review. Contact us at crazyinlovepodcastuk@gmail.com Podcast theme music by Transistor.fm.

  1. Don't Be A Jerk: The ONE reason why most relationships fail

    14 HR AGO

    Don't Be A Jerk: The ONE reason why most relationships fail

    So much of the complexity of relationship advice can be simplified into four words (or five, if you're being pedantic): Don't Be A Jerk. Of course, the reality is a bit more complex than that. Matt and Graham talk in today's episode mainly about the single biggest killer of relationships: contempt. What is it? How does it develop in relationships? How can you see it when it's present? And how do you work your way back towards respecting and liking each other when contempt is present? The Psychology Today blogpost discussed in today's episode is available here.

    29 min
  2. The Three-Hour Evening: should couples create more structure in their evening routine to improve their relationships?

    24 OCT

    The Three-Hour Evening: should couples create more structure in their evening routine to improve their relationships?

    You've probably heard of it: the Three-Hour Evening. It’s the latest couples’ hack and involves splitting the evening into chunks – including an hour without phones. What's not to like? Do your chores, have some couples' time, have some alone time. Perfect. But who are these mysterious people with young children who have THREE HOURS of time every evening to fill? And, joking aside, even if you only have one hour, does it make sense to split it in the way the Three-Hour Evening suggests? Matt and Graham dive in, and find that there are some surprisingly useful nuggets of truth here....

    27 min
  3. Neurodiversity & Relationships 2: Autism

    10 OCT

    Neurodiversity & Relationships 2: Autism

    Graham and Matt continue a short series on neurodiversity and relationships by exploring autism. Autism diagnoses have gone up 800% in the last few decades. The male to female ratio has shrunk from 4:1 to 2:1. Most of the explosion in diagnoses has occurred at the milder end of the autism spectrum. Social media is rife with videos celebrating inaccurate versions of "autism" and claiming it as an identity. So what's going on here? How does autism manifest in relationships? What behaviours would you notice if a partner was autistic? How can couples talk about autism? And, like with ADHD, how much can you expect change in a relationship where one person has with a diagnosis? If you like what we're doing with Crazy in Love, subscribe and drop us a review. You can contact us at crazyinlovepodcastuk@gmail.com.

    38 min
  4. Neurodiversity & Relationships 1: ADHD

    25 SEPT

    Neurodiversity & Relationships 1: ADHD

    Graham and Matt begin a short series on neurodiversity and relationships by focusing on ADHD. What actually is ADHD? How does it show up in relationships? What behaviours would you notice even if you or your partner don't have a formal diagnosis? How can couples talk about ADHD without it feeling like one partner's "problem" to solve? And how much can you expect change in a relationship where one person has with an ADHD diagnosis? What happens if you're both neurodiverse? The episode covers the parent-child dynamic in relationships and how to break out of that cycle to something healthier.

    39 min
  5. The Benefits of Marginal Gains

    16 SEPT

    The Benefits of Marginal Gains

    Calories in, calories out. Harm reduction in substance abuse. Tiny improvements, day in, day out. All very sensible - but can modest, realistic interventions drive genuine transformation in your relationship? Matt and Graham argue that yes, you can achieve a lot with relatively little. A small number of couples therapy sessions, with some key interventions, can transform an unhappy relationship. But what are those interventions and how do you practice them?

    38 min
  6. Great Expectations: do we expect too much from our relationships?

    4 SEPT

    Great Expectations: do we expect too much from our relationships?

    In the modern world, we are told to look for romantic partners who "complete" us. They should not only be someone who we love, but also someone who encourages us to live our best life, to achieve our individual goals and self-actualise. This is a big shift in the last fifty years. We're increasingly sceptical of relationships like the Clintons built on security and shared socio-economic or career interests. Are we asking too much of our relationships? Can we expect one person to offer us security, help us raise our children, but also be exciting and dynamic and help us grow as individuals? Can love absorb all these expectations? If we are asking too much, how do we shift our expectations in more realistic but healthy directions? Matt and Graham try to weave their way through these tricky questions in today's episode. Contact us at crazyinlovepodcastuk@gmail.com and leave us a review if you're enjoying the pod!

    37 min
  7. Trauma & Relationships

    23 AUG

    Trauma & Relationships

    Big "T" trauma. Little "t" trauma. The likes of Gabor Maté and Bessel Van Der Kolk have brought the understanding of trauma far beyond the field of mental health and into everyday life. But what actually is trauma? How does it impact people's personalities? If everything difficult is labelled trauma, does that dilute our understanding and treatment of it? And, of course - how does trauma manifest in relationships? What are the links between trauma and Adverse Childhood Experiences? Between trauma and attachment styles? How do couples deal with their trauma in healthy ways? All this and more covered by Graham and Matt in this episode of Crazy In Love. Contact us at crazyinlovepodcastuk@gmail.com

    31 min
  8. Relationships Are Not Safe Spaces

    11 AUG

    Relationships Are Not Safe Spaces

    Relationships aren't fragile. They need healthy stress to make them strong. In this episode, Matt and Graham explore how the language of emotional regulation and safe spaces - imported from therapy rooms and HR departments - has reshaped what many now expect from their closest relationships. For many couples, modern love means no raised voices and gentle communication. Conflict and arguments are seen as a failure. What gets lost in the push for comfort is any room for challenge; for the difficult-but-essential conversations that allow you to grow together. Good relationships aren’t low-conflict; they’re high-repair. Connection grows from working through things, not avoiding it. Conflict isn’t the problem—how you handle it is. The Psychology Today blogpost they discuss is available here. Contact us at crazyinlovepodcastuk@gmail.com Give us a review on your podcast player of choice and please spread the word if you're enjoying the pod.

    34 min
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Therapists and love experts Matt Wotton and Graham Johnston explore modern relationships and give practical advice to improve your partnerships. Attachment, divorce, dating, affairs, sex, neurodiversity, trauma and money: it's all covered in episodes you can digest during your commute or lunch break. Discover how to master the craft of making love last. If you love what we're doing, please subscribe and offer a five star review. Contact us at crazyinlovepodcastuk@gmail.com Podcast theme music by Transistor.fm.

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  • Creator
    Graham Johnston and Matt Wotton - Relationship and Love Experts
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2025
  • Episodes
    33
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Graham Johnston and Matt Wotton 2024
  • Show Website
    Crazy in Love