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Liz Becker is the Co-founder of the National Association of Divorce Professionals and Creator/Senior Trainer of the Certified Divorce Specialist (CDS™) Program. Liz is also a Licensed NLP Master Practitioner, Communications Skills Coach & Trainer, and has more than a decade of experience in working with both divorcing clients and the professionals who serve them. 

Having worked in the divorce industry for many years, she has a keen sense of detecting specific issues that create obstacles for all parties involved in the process. Whether she was conducting NLP Certification Trainings, co-parenting workshops, or speaking at conferences, Liz has always found great reward in educating people on how to communicate more effectively and achieve positive change both personally and professionally.

Connie Jakab has been working in the area of resilience for over 20 years. Starting with youth at risk and gangs in East Vancouver, Connie has been researching what creates resilience and mental wellness her entire career through a sociological lens. She has owned three companies and is the author of three books on her research.

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Welcome back to the Fresh Start Podcast Series! Today we are chatting with Ali Ansell and Cindy Impolla, Chair and Communications Lead, respectively, from the Conflict Resolution Day Committee and their FREE upcoming Conflict Resolution Day training on October 21, 2021.  

The Conflict Resolution Day Alberta Committee is a collaboration between the Alberta Government's Dispute Resolution Network and ADR (Appropriate Dispute Resolution) organizations from all over the province. We provide resources and support to ADR professionals and organizations across Alberta to host events and activities to celebrate Conflict Resolution Day every October.

Their goal is to get Albertans talking about their options to work through conflict in a positive and productive way. ADR sometimes stands for Appropriate Dispute Resolution because it describes options other than going to court, but as ADR has become mainstream we use the term Appropriate Dispute Resolution to describe all the choices available to prevent and manage conflict in a non-adversarial way, including mediation, arbitration, and restorative practices.

For more information, please go to http://www.conflictresolutionday.ca/ and register for the Train the Trainer workshop, or the FREE event by emailing  info@conflictresolutionday.ca or going right to the registration page here 

When a conflict ends, reconciliation does not necessarily follow. if you meet your needs and your partner is going away empty-handed means that your partner does not have closure, and so the conflict continues. Perhaps it will be about the same issue, perhaps a different one. With a bit of effort, you are probably able to trace back your current disagreement to a much, much older one.

Leading challenging conversations is about facing your discomfort and dedicating yourself to the conversation that needs to happen. You’ve learned to identify issues that require a conversation and to self-check how to approach them. You have gone through a process that shows intent, It requires continuous practice, but you now have more tools, and with time you can now survive any conflict with your dignity intact.

To download your PDF of the Fresh Start Healthy Relationships Workshop: Conflict Resolution Techniques for Partnerships - Managing Emotions, please click on this link https://www.freshstartmediation.ca/resources or email don@freshstartmediation.ca

Taking responsibility is perhaps the hardest thing to do. That is because it requires you to empathize with the other person. Acknowledging that you may have done something that impacted somebody else in a negative way implies a negative intent and challenges our sense that we are well-meaning rational beings. 

Describing how the act affected the other person negatively generates trust and credibility. It makes it clear that you are looking at the situation from the perspective of the other person. Offering restitution indicates your willingness to repair the relationship.

To download your PDF of the Fresh Start Healthy Relationships Workshop: Conflict Resolution Techniques for Partnerships - Managing Emotions, please click on this link https://www.freshstartmediation.ca/resources or email don@freshstartmediation.ca

During an argument we want our partner to listen to us, whereas closeness with our partner is greatest when we listen to them.

By simply being inquisitive about our partner, we create a deeper, more meaningful conversation. In a disagreement, we need a better understanding of what motivates our partner to believe that their solution resolution to a problem is better than ours. By doing so, we can be more creative in how we meet our needs and the needs of our partner.

To download your PDF of the Fresh Start Healthy Relationships Workshop: Conflict Resolution Techniques for Partnerships - Managing Emotions, please click on this link https://www.freshstartmediation.ca/resources or email don@freshstartmediation.ca