Heal Your Codependency with Marshall Burtcher Marshall Burtcher

Episode: Why you only love yourself when things are going wellWhen we live from a love equation that says "I'm only lovable when...", we are being controlled and manipulated. This leads us to invest precious time, energy, and attention on satisfying these conditions and then *maintaining* them.No wonder we burn out!Learn what do about this in today's episode:*** START YOUR WORKLooking for more guidance, tools, support, in your healing, alignment, and satisfaction?Start your work here: h...

Two Hidden Factors That Short Circuit Your Self-LoveReally, actually loving yourself is a profound challenge when we come from codependency and love-is-earned relationship and family systems. We are striving to earn the love, earn the permission, become worthy, and demostrate that we deserve it.To break out of this prison, you need to understand the two hidden factors that keep you chasing love.We explore these factors in today's episode!*** START YOUR WORKLooking for more guidance, tools, su...

Episode: The ONE thing that absolutely prevents you from loving yourselfTransaction, earned love teaches us that we must - MUST - seek, chase, and perform for love.This means we have to be "just right" in the eyes of the other or we won't get love.This means that when there are challenges, problems, hiccups, mistakes, love is in jeopardy.This means we start LIVING like we're always just on the edge of losing love.And that results in:- Anxiety about what others feel and think about us- a...

Why You Struggle To Really, Actually Love YourselfWhen you're rewarded with praise, attention, or affection for doing something, your body will see performance and love as the same thing.When you're presence is met with warmth, praise, attention, or affection on a consistent basis, your body will see your existence and love as the same thing. You deserve to know the second form of love.Learn what is really going on and your first step in really, actually loving yourself in today's episod...

Codependency And Shame - What's Really HappeningYou cannot become free of your codependency until you break free of what I call "Your Root Identity".Codependency depends on a root identity.What is a root identity? It is an identity that you FEEL and experience as utterly true about yourself.You filter the world through this identity and it controls how you live your life.Learn what this root identity is and what do to about it so you are free from it.*** START YOUR WORKLooking for more ...

3 Priorities For Satisfaction If You're CodependentDo you often feel: - Empty, frustrated, or used? - Wonder why your life is not fulfilling or satisfied? - Feel lost as to what you want, value, or even need in your life?Codependency has us prioritizing others emotionally, physically, mentally, and even financially or intimately. This happens through acts of people-pleasing, perfectionism, avoiding conflict, and even trying to fix their problems for them.We are confusing ...