Husband Material

Drew Boa

So you want to outgrow porn. But how? How do you change your brain, heal your heart, and save your relationship? Welcome to Husband Material with Drew Boa, where we answer all these questions and more! Each episode makes it easier for you to achieve lasting freedom from porn—without fighting an exhausting battle. Porn is a pacifier. This podcast will help you outgrow it and become a sexually mature man of God.

  1. Try Softer, Not Harder (with Aundi Kolber)

    6 DAYS AGO

    Try Softer, Not Harder (with Aundi Kolber)

    Instead of trying harder, what would it look like to try softer? Author and counselor Aundi Kolber guides us into compassionate attention so that we can reconnect with our bodies, heal from trauma, and outgrow porn. You'll also hear how God relates to us in the middle of our mess  with in-process miracles along the way. Aundi Kolber is a licensed professional counselor (MA, LPC) and bestselling author of the critically acclaimed "Try Softer" as well as "Strong like Water." She has received additional training in her specialization of trauma-and body-centered therapies and is passionate about the integration of faith and psychology. As a survivor of trauma, Aundi brings hard-won knowledge about the work of change, the power of redemption, and the beauty of experiencing God with us in our pain. Learn more at aundikolber.com Buy Aundi's books: Try Softer: A Fresh Approach to Move Us out of Anxiety, Stress, and Survival Mode—and into a Life of Connection and JoyStrong like Water: Finding the Freedom, Safety, and Compassion to Move through Hard Things—and Experience True FlourishingTake What You Need: Soft Words for Hard DaysComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026: The Same-Sex Connection™ Conference Register now at samesexconnection.com Support the show Take the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

    41 min
  2. How To Outgrow Porn Through IFS (with Patrick Cagle)

    28 APR

    How To Outgrow Porn Through IFS (with Patrick Cagle)

    Have you ever felt curious or confused about IFS (Internal Family Systems) and how it can help you outgrow porn? Patrick Cagle offers the perfect introduction: the 3 types of parts within you, the 9 Cs of your authentic self, and the highly practical 6 Fs to connect with a part of you that feels activated, triggered, or sexually tempted. Patrick Cagle is an IFS Level 2–trained therapist, a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) candidate, and a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (PSAP). Based in Alabama, he serves as an associate-level counselor devoted to helping individuals find freedom from unwanted sexual behaviors and supporting partners healing from betrayal trauma. With compassion, clarity, and a deep respect for each client’s inner world, Patrick integrates Internal Family Systems (IFS) to uncover and heal the underlying wounds that drive addiction. His approach helps clients move beyond shame, restore connection with their authentic self, and experience lasting recovery and transformation. Connect with Patrick at (334) 602-4112. Check out Patrick's Psychology Today Profile here. Join Patrick's drop-in discussion group: "Men's Internal Family Systems & Sexual Integrity" on Tuesdays at 10:00 AM Pacific Time here. Mentioned in this episode: The 9 C's of IFS (credit to Cece Sykes)The 6 F's of IFS by Dr. Richard SchwartzThe SIBAM Model by Dr. Peter Levine Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026: The Same-Sex Connection™ Conference Register now at samesexconnection.com Support the show Take the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

    38 min
  3. How To Stop Fighting Yourself (with Jenna Riemersma)

    20 APR

    How To Stop Fighting Yourself (with Jenna Riemersma)

    Are you tired of fighting a battle against yourself? Jenna Riemersma offers a remarkably powerful path to healing through the "Move Toward" approach, her simplified version of IFS (Internal Family Systems). You'll learn a practical three-step tool to transform unwanted behavior and outgrow porn through curiosity and compassion.  Jenna Riemersma, LPC, is a leading authority in integrating Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy with Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder (CSBD) and betrayal trauma treatment. As a Certified IFS Therapist, IFS Clinical Consultant, IITAP teaching faculty, and CSAT Supervisor, she brings over a decade of specialized expertise to this critical therapeutic intersection. Jenna is also the developer of the innovative "Move Toward" IFS shorthand tool—a practical resource that helps therapists and clients efficiently access IFS parts work. Learn more at movetoward.com Buy Jenna's new book: Move Toward: A Simplified IFS Therapy Tool to Welcome All Parts of YouJenna is also the author of: Altogether You: Experiencing Personal and Spiritual Transformation with Internal Family Systems TherapyIFS Integration: A Comprehensive Guide toComing up on Saturday, May 30, 2026: The Same-Sex Connection™ Conference Register now at samesexconnection.com Support the show Take the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

    46 min
  4. How To Be A Great Husband & Father (with Dr. Joshua Straub)

    6 APR

    How To Be A Great Husband & Father (with Dr. Joshua Straub)

    How can I revive the soul of my family? Whether you're a father, a husband, or a man preparing for those roles, listen to this. Dr. Joshua Straub presents a powerful picture of what it looks like to become emotionally safe, build intimacy with your spouse, enter your child's world, and protect your family in the spiritual realm. Joshua Straub is most renowned for his role as a husband and dad. A recovering human, he’s passionate about the ongoing journey of growth through coaching, community, and fitness. Alongside his wife, Christi, he leads Famous at Home, equipping leaders and organizations in emotional intelligence and healthy family systems. Josh is a speaker, author of seven books, marriage and relational intelligence coach, and podcast cohost. He’s had the privilege of coaching executives, entrepreneurs, entertainers, professional athletes, and nonprofit leaders, as well as serving military families across the country. At home, Josh and Christi are raising their three kids on a small homestead outside Nashville, TN, where life is full of family, faith, and a lot of fun. Learn more at joshuastraub.com Buy Joshua's book: Famous at Home: 7 Decisions to Put Your Family Center Stage in a World Competing for Your Time, Attention, and Identity Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026: The Same-Sex Connection™ Conference Register now at samesexconnection.com Support the show Take the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

    44 min
  5. Healing For Sexually Betrayed Men (with Adam Nisenson)

    30 MAR

    Healing For Sexually Betrayed Men (with Adam Nisenson)

    How does being sexually betrayed affect men? Adam Nisenson explains the phenomenon of masculine betrayal trauma and what healing looks like. Adam Nisenson is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT). He is known as The Betrayal Shrink, a pioneering voice in men’s mental health, and the first professional to define and name the phenomenon of Masculine Betrayal Trauma. Drawing from his own lived experience after his former spouse’s affair with her business partner over 12 years ago, Adam brings both personal understanding and clinical depth to every session, every book, and every word he shares. Resources by Adam Nisenson: A Man’s Guide to Partner Betrayal (book)A Man’s Guide to Trust After Partner Betrayal (clinical workbook)No Man’s Land (guided journal)Listen to Adam's podcast,Men Get Cheated On Too! where he breaks the silence around male betrayal trauma and gives men a voice, language, and a path forward in a society that too often leaves them behind. His work blends depth psychology, trauma-informed care, emotional accountability, and masculine healing frameworks to help men confront betrayal without shame and emerge stronger than they were before. Learn more about masculine betrayal trauma and connect with Adam at betrayalshrink.com Coming up on Saturday, May 30, 2026: The Same-Sex Connection™ Conference Register now at samesexconnection.com Support the show Take the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

    32 min

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So you want to outgrow porn. But how? How do you change your brain, heal your heart, and save your relationship? Welcome to Husband Material with Drew Boa, where we answer all these questions and more! Each episode makes it easier for you to achieve lasting freedom from porn—without fighting an exhausting battle. Porn is a pacifier. This podcast will help you outgrow it and become a sexually mature man of God.

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