Live Your True Life Perspectives with Ashley Berges Ashley Berges

On today’s show, I am talking about adjacent stress. Adjacent stress is the stress that others have and its impact on your life. It is other people’s stress and because of our relationship with them, it affects our lives. This stress can come from our spouse, our children, parents, best friend, family, and other friendships. Some people do not feel this stress, while others are highly impacted by it. If you are dealing with someone’s adjacent stress, this is the podcast for you. We need to understand adjacent stress and how to deal with it. It is great to care, but it can be difficult when we are dealing with our stress and taking on adjacent stress as well.

Stress, stress, and more stress! Many of us are under an immense amount of stress every day. This stress can come from our career, our home life, lifestyle, situations, family, relationships, regrets, and the state of the world. When we think of stress, how do we define it and how do we deal with it? We need to take a look at the choices that we have made and choices that we have not made in our lives that have created havoc and stress for us. Join me today as I take a deep dive into stress, where it is coming from, and what we can do right now to make changes In our lives to offset some of our stress.

Today’s show will discuss science and keeping our children up to date on the most innovative ways to obtain accurate information for them to learn. Joining me is Dr Penny Norman. Dr. Norman has a Ph.D. in Biophysics from UC Berkeley. Dr. Penny is dedicated not only to children but also to education. She has written more than 20 Science STEM books for elementary-aged children over the last 20 years. A number of these STEM books have sold millions of copies. These titles are based on years of work with children in the classroom and in after-school programs. She and her editor Ann Einstein have tested these materials and books over many years. Some projects work. Some do not. Some engage children. Others do not. It is only through years of “watching their faces” that activities have been sourced and selected.
Her books and kits have received numerous awards, including Family Choice Award 2018 – GOLD MEDAL, Multiple Creative Child Magazine Awards, Scientific American’s Young Reader’s Book Awards, Good Morning American’s Top Ten Children’s Toys, multiple National Parenting Magazine Awards, The Parent’s Choice Seal of Approval, PUZZLE of the YEAR from Games Magazine, and a Modern Library Award. See ScienceWiz.com for an almost complete list of her titles.

On Today’s show, we will identify the people in our lives that we pay to be in our lives. Our doctors, lawyers, accountants, and therapists are just a few examples of the people we pay to be in our lives. We pay these people to help us in our lives. We need to identify who these people are and be confident that they have our best interests in mind, often we lose sight of this. We need to make sure that the people we are paying and giving power to in our lives are there for us and give us the best possible care, advice, and interest in our lives. We need to understand why we chose these people to help us, and what it is that causes us to stick with them when they may not be the best choice for us. We give them power and hope they do the right thing. We must find people that share some of our values.

Have you ever found yourself offering a suggestion, only to be quickly turned down? The feeling of being shut down can be very disheartening. Today I want to talk about a group of society that tends to gravitate toward individuals who think they know it all. However, the reality is that very few know it all. This same type of person also seems to gravitate toward others who are narcissistic in nature. The heart of the matter lies in the issue that they only take advice from supposed know-it-alls without wanting to consider input from anyone else. This behavior most likely comes from their upbringing and family dynamics. This behavior seems to work for these individuals because it is something they are accustomed to. What works for them is very frustrating to the rest of us who care about them. The frustration is evident when the responsibility of caring for these individuals falls on our shoulders, and they refuse to take advice from anyone outside of their chosen know-it-alls.

On today’s show, I dive into the complicated relationship where one minute they love you and the next they don’t. This leaves us never knowing what is going to happen next. The uncertainty that goes along with this type of relationship has an impact on our daily lives leaving us stressed, overwhelmed, and unable to focus. Often, we find ourselves losing our sense of self, fearing being left, having our partner get angry at us, or blaming us for everything wrong. There is a lack of responsibility on their part, expecting everyone else to be responsible but them. A big part of our journey is to recognize and realize what we are dealing with. We need to ask ourselves if this relationship is worth saving. Are we both doing the work necessary to have this relationship move forward? Also, do we deserve this type of person in our lives? We cannot let their behavior rub off on us, we need to set boundaries and make sure those boundaries are respected. Are we willing to walk on eggshells our whole life with them or are we ready to take a stand for our well-being?