Make Him Wonder Coach Paula Grooms

44-yr-old divorced, single mom, Leisel, reached out to 45-yr-old divorced dad, Rob, on Bumble.  Rob eventually asked Leisel to meet and the two have been dating for about 3 months. But Rob only agrees to see Leisel every two weeks and doesn’t stay in much contact between times. When asked about where they stand, Rob says that he doesn't like labels and wants to "take things slow."  Most concerning to Leisel is that Rob says he likes "aggressive women” who make the first moves and pay for dates 50-50. Feeling anxious about Rob’s interest, Leisel connects with Paula to see if she should gamble on this relationship becoming more equitable, or if she needs to fold ‘em and walk away.

56-yr-old Maddy and 44-yr-old Andrew have had 4 breakups in 3.5 years of their relationship. Successful, happy with her life, and accommodating, Maddy is confused as to why Andrew is so confused about her.  Despite saying he loves her Andrew will go for a certain amount of time before telling Maddy he “can’t.” On this episode, Paula explains why Andrew feels as he does, and what Maddy can do for the best chance of Andrew knowing, feeling, and deciding that he “can!”

44-yr-old Emily is seeking a hypergamous relationship from online dating. As a Rules Girl, Emily states that she expects a man to see her as his “dream girl” and start wining and dining her without texting between dates. Confused as to why telling her prospective wealthy men what it is that she expects of them isn’t leading her to the relationship she desires, Emily comes on this episode to get Paula’s coaching advice.

35-yr-old Shana set out wanting 47-yr-old Paul to see her as more than just for fun.  But a casual boat trip and a late-night invite steered things off-course, and Paul drifted off.  On this episode of Make Him Wonder, hear what Shana can text to allow Paul to see her as potential wife/mother material so that this prospective relationship doesn’t get dry-docked before it has a chance to launch.  

Despite 43-yr-old Terri knowing that casual relationships don’t work for her, she finds herself going on hook-up sites and predominately dating much younger men.  They eventually leave, then Terri becomes obsessed, wondering why they didn’t like her enough. On this episode, Terri discovers the source of the dissonance between what she intellectually knows is her value and the feelings of unworthiness that drive her behavior.

28-yr-old Loni wasn’t particularly interested in 28-yr-old James when they first met. But upon showing her the kind of care and attention Loni hadn’t ever before received from a man, James won her heart. The couple now have a newborn together, but all is not blissful.  Loni admits that she allowed her insecurities and jealousy to take over, and James moved out. Now in regret, Loni comes on Make Him Wonder to hear what Paula has to say about the possibility of rebuilding trust and James coming home to stay for good.