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Michael Sugrue is a Retired US Air Force Captain, Retired Police Officer and activist in helping Veterans and First Responders seek treatment for mental health issues, including PTSD.


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Jason VanCamp is an Author, a retired Army Ranger and Green Beret, and President of MissionSixZero


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Pat Welsh is an author, speaker, trainer and Pat retired as police officer with the rank of major.


0:00 This podcast is brought to you in partnership with AM300 and The Phoenix Project. For more information on both please check out AM300.com/mettle

0:12 Mettle Mentality Intro

02:02 Preston introducing Pat Welsh

03:59 Bigfoot Conversations

04:46 Pat talking about, What is a warrior servant leader?

06:57 What is our responsibility on this earth?

09:01 No greater service than being a parent to children- Preston sharing a day in the life

11:50 Pat sharing his experience of raising 5 kids working night shift.

14:40 Pat looking back into his life and journey

16:39 Absentee Parent- no regrets, have you ever accepted an apology that was never given. Forgiveness is essential to restoring relationships.

17:44 Pat talking about kicking out his son at 18 years old- forgiveness and reconciliation.

19:02 The age at when we stop hugging our kids and stop telling them we love them

20:46 God getting Pat’s attention when his wife got Cancer- Holy Moments- opportunities to get closer to God

21:48 You become what you celebrate

23:00 A word to those who are stuck in their past replaying their failure.

CARE: Commit All Resources and Energy to what I say I care about

24:00  What voice are you listening to- there are two competing voices!

25:58 Accepting an apology that was never given

29:15 You will always find what you’re looking for

30:18 Preston talking about freedom he received from forgiveness he gave

33:24 Pat talking about Mother Teresa being a warrior, servant, leader. She defended what she believed.

35:30 Pat talking about being abandoned in an orphanage in Ireland. And then finding his birth mother many years later.

44:06 Don’t hold things in, Apologize, clear the air, don’t carry the burden

48:11 Abandoning the “old” self -recommitting to building a relationship with God, a journey that will never end

50:18 Deliberate decision to make a change Preston references Deliberate Discomfort by Jason Van Camp https://www.audible.com/pd?asin=B08BLRMJYT&source_code=ASSORAP0511160006

51:51 Pat mentions Overcome by Jason Redman https://www.audible.com/pd/Overcome-Audiobook/154915012X

52:34 Matthew 16:24 paraphrased - Daily deny yourself- pick up your cross and follow Christ

Every day get up and intentionally choose to follow Christ.

53:59 Gold Star Family - Pat and his wife lost their son 5 years ago.

54:50 Go forward and choose

56:40 Mindset of Obedience- Obedient to what God calls us to and to the life we’re meant to live. Story of Moses.

58:49 I promise if you do the activities in this book your life will never be the same (audio link above) https://www.amazon.com/Deliberate-Discomfort-Operations-Comfortable-Uncomfortable/dp/1733428011

1:01:11 Sun Flowers face the light and if they can’t see the light they face the sun flower that can see the light

1:03:02 If you cannot find the light, look to someone who has the light and follow them until you can get the light.

1:04:40 If you are having a rough time of year- call someone.

1:05:34 Life Sentence “in one sentance what are people going to say at your funeral?” What do you want them to say at your funeral? What are you doing to live that sentence?

1:08:11 Ask for help- I’d rather sit and have a beer rather than go to your funeral

1:11:01 Thank you for spending time with us, please share this podcast, rate us a 5 star review, and make sure to follow Mettle Mentality Podcast on Social Media Instagram, Twitter and Facebook @MettleMentality


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Tony Overbay is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Certified Mindful Habit Coach

Host of The Virtual Coach Podcast

Motivational Speaker

Ultra Marathon Runner

Author of The Path Back and

Online Pornography Recovery Program

0:00 This podcast is brought to you in partnership with AM300 and the phoenix project. For more information on both please check out AM300.com/mettle

0:12 Mettle Mentality Intro

01:50 Preston introduces Tony Overbay

02:51 Tony’s Virtual Couch Podcast was the first self help podcast Preston had listened to, check in out https://www.tonyoverbay.com/?powerpress_pinw=1395-podcast

3:15 Empathy vs Sympathy - it’s what the world needs now!’

9:24 Acceptance and Commitment Therapy- You are the only person that has been through exactly what you have been through.

12:15 Empathizing with things you can’t understand

14:36 Ego

23:22 Where does Compassion come into play?

30:11 Core Values

32:38 Core Value Authenticity

34:58 Core Value Love

41:03 Acceptance that there’s nothing wrong with you, that you’re not for everyone

43:13 The Origin of the word Should

45:05 The difference between guild and shame

49:00 Victim of Circumstance vs taking responsibility

53:54 Core Values Accountability and Integrity

1:05:39 “80% of success is being present” Woody Allen

1:06:54 Bless your heart brain, and come back to what can I do today?

1:08:01 Progress vs Comparison

1:09:07 Validation external vs internal

1:10:14 Bigfoot Conversations

1:10:55 Tony’s 30 Second Message: work from the angle of “you’re not broken”

1:12:28 Accept yourself, Love Yourself! Move Forward!

1:12:56 Homework assignment:) list the top 5 things that you value most!

1:13:42 Thank you for spending time with us, please share this podcast, rate us a 5 star review, and make sure to follow Mettle Mentality Podcast on Social Media Instagram, Twitter and Facebook @MettleMentality


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Bonnie is a mother, real estate negotiator, creative entrepreneur, & life energy coach.

Bonnie can be reached at bonniebarberrealestate@hotmail.com 801-462-5455

0:00 This podcast is brought to you in partnership with AM300 and the phoenix project. For more information on both please check out AM300.com/mettle

0:12 Mettle Mentality Intro

02:06 Preston Introduces Bonnie Barber

03:16 Bonnie talking about having courage to be Vulnerable, and growing through it

04:28 What Bonnie does and how she got to where she is

05:05 Talking about being a Personal Trainer

05:24 Talking about being a Body Builder Costume Designer

06:41 Talking about being a Real Estate Agent

07:42 Preston talking about “Got your 6” having each other's back

08:11 Competing in Body Building Competitions

10:54 Seeking validation from an external source

12:40 Are you committed or interested?

13:52 Overcoming that fear of worrying about what people think

16:22 Preston talking about overcoming fear to start this podcast

18:07 Thought creates fear, shifting from being interested to being committed.  Being willing to keep going no matter how hard it gets.

18:39 Enjoying the journey, so focused on the future and held back by the past, we miss this moment

19:26 Being your own coach with your own dreams.

20:30 Living present in the present moment- this moment is all that is promised

23:49 Blessing of the pandemic, teaching us to slow down change priorities

26:16 When we are in the darkest points, the way we get out is, build a foundation, Consistency, fortitude and grit.

27:00 Bonnie talking about her darkest time and how she uses busy-ness as her numbing tool and overcoming it with crying and letting it all out, resetting and doing it again.

30:09 Foundation of Hope, where to find it, create it.  Meditation, asking for a sign,

32:59 Changing your perspective

35:00 Mantras having them and thinking about how we talk to ourselves

36:00 Negative Self Talk- Preston mentions Trever Moawad here is a link to his youtube channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvzYoc4rkqyE6LDKQDseDNg

37:20 How to validate yourself - Making a list of things you Value about yourself

43:12 Get comfortable being uncomfortable

45:12 Realizing that you aren’t where you want to be, consumption vs action of learned information

45:54 Learning to Let go

48:28 Importance of meeting people, making friends and shared missions.  Appreciation people that come in to your life in lots of different ways.

50:06 Seeing more in people than they see in themselves, being that person that brings their greatness to light for the first time

53:20 Bonnie references “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz. Link Here for audio book: https://amber-allen-publishing.mykajabi.com/offers/TbEXBXBk/checkout

Keeping promises-especially the ones you make yourself.

58:05 The impossibility of insecurity.  What if it was impossible to be insecure, how powerful would you be?

1:02:12 Thank you for spending time with us, please make sure to follow the Mettle Mentality Podcast on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook @MettleMentality.  Know you Matter.






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Steven Aragón is a recreational therapist and a retired member of the Coast Guard.



Show Notes

0.00 Thank you to our sponsor visit am300.com/mettle

0.12  Intro

2:13 Welcome & Introduction of our guest Steven Aragón.

3:31 Big Foot or Extraterrestrial Aliens Conversation.

5:38 Steven Introducing himself, how he got into doing what he's doing.

6:26 Steven talking about Ski Trip for Disabled Veterans, 3 day ski trip.

10:14 Steven talking about his military experience.

13:28 Steven talking about the MWR (Morale Welfare and Recreation) Program a d explaining how it is with in the military for for members and their families.  All honorable discharged military members have access to the program.

16:56 Steven talking about life events that have defined who he is as a person.

19:32 Steven talks about Wild Land fire fighting, going out on Hot Shot Crews, "It was hard but we did it together."

20:15 Preston talking about forming a team and insulating yourself through hard times.

20:46 Steven talking about how having a team has meant to him.

21:09 Camaraderie

22:50 Preston talking about respect he has for all in uniform.

23:51 When you're not alone during sucky times, it makes sucky times a lot easier.

24:17 Talking about suffering and hardship, how it makes you stronger.

25:36 Steven talking about empathy and how it has helped his journey.

26:54 Making the choice to serve others! This is who you are. We need more people like this in life!

28:07 Steve talking about how helping Veterans realize that they are unbroken has impacted his life.

29:48 We aren't tied to our triggers, we can make a different choice. Use what Natures Given US!

31:56 Losing our Purpose when we get out of the Military.

32:40 Purpose of Service even though I can't stand you, I'll be here for you.

33:42 Steven talking about Core Values of having community and giving back to that community

35:30 If I'm not being of service then I'm not being my authentic self.

36:12 Reflection of screwing up and find the ways to grow.

36:30 Letting insecurities get in the way of caring for others.

38:08 Wearing a mask realizing that taking it off is the key.

39:14 People who must serve others, we are not aware of the number of people who just want to help others.

40:20 If you feel Broken, if you feel Hopeless, You are not Alone.  There are people out there who want to help you.

40:56 Preston sharing his story of co-worker soldier that took his own life recently.

42:02 Steven's 30 second message:  I'm here, you don't have to say anything, just know you are not alone.

43:54 To reach Steven contact him saragon1087@gmail.com

45:24 Thank you for being here, please share this podcast with someone you know who could benefit by it. You can find us on Instagram, facebook and twitter @mettlementality













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