67 episodes

Sexellence celebrates sexuality as a diverse, complex and multifaceted component of being a human being, without judgment. Hosts, Ian Lavalley and Shasta Townsend share the how-to, the mindsets, the science, the tools and the “secrets” to great sex and a good life.

They go beyond the usual “technique” focus of lube, vibrators and positions, and give you real information you can use to create a deeper level of intimacy, connection, passion and joy in the bedroom and outside of it! As married income and intimacy success mentors, they share real stories from their own lives and client case studies to keep this relevant and relatable for those of us who are not porn stars, but rather seeking our own ecstatic experience or just want to get the fire back!

Sexellence Podcast Shasta Townsend and Ian Lavalley

    • Health & Fitness

Sexellence celebrates sexuality as a diverse, complex and multifaceted component of being a human being, without judgment. Hosts, Ian Lavalley and Shasta Townsend share the how-to, the mindsets, the science, the tools and the “secrets” to great sex and a good life.

They go beyond the usual “technique” focus of lube, vibrators and positions, and give you real information you can use to create a deeper level of intimacy, connection, passion and joy in the bedroom and outside of it! As married income and intimacy success mentors, they share real stories from their own lives and client case studies to keep this relevant and relatable for those of us who are not porn stars, but rather seeking our own ecstatic experience or just want to get the fire back!

    How to Be Free IN Marriage: Why Ancient Tantra Might Save Modern Marriage

    How to Be Free IN Marriage: Why Ancient Tantra Might Save Modern Marriage

    “The old ball and chain.”
    When most people talk about marriage there is an almost sneer in their voice as though you are a sucker for getting married.
    With continually growing divorce rates, and changing cultural values why would anyone marry?
    In this episode, Shasta and Ian talk about WHY and HOW marriage became THE most freeing experience for them.
    They share the ancient wisdom path of Tantra and why it paradoxically might just save modern marriage.
    But, there’s a catch…
    In fact, there’s the absolute need to focus on one key value and it’s no contempt, keeping score or open relationships.
    Listen now to find out what it is…it actually is necessary in every relationship!
    You will also learn the correct definition of Tantra, and it may just change the way you look at yourself and the world.
    Listen now.
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    • 40 min
    Freedom – The Gift That Keeps On Giving

    Freedom – The Gift That Keeps On Giving

    What would I be, do, creative, offer, receive, experience if I was free of fear?
    In a time of limited freedom – real or perceived - freedom is the biggest gift to give ourself.
    In this powerhouse episode, Shasta and Ian talk about Freedom and why it is not just a concept for special interest groups but ESSENTIAL to truly grasp to live a fulfilling life, and yet also be dedicated and committed to another.
    Seem like a paradox?


    Listen to this episode where they:
    Define freedom as being unlimited by the past, the wounds, the projections and the Shadow. Understand why and where you might not be free – take their 30 second self-evaluation. Learn why your brain limits the actual amount of free choice or any choice you think you are making. Hear how the ancient philosophy of Tantra gives you the EXACT blueprint to freedom, and why it includes love, sex and relationship as part of the path! Get your mind blown by why freedom contains boundaries and meaningful limits, and freedom also means negotiating with others and living in the social contract.

    Listen to these highlight now:
    4:00    Why Freedom is so important.
    8:50    Why awareness that freedom is even possible is so important.
    12:00  How to be free in the TRUTH
    18:01  Are you free in who you are?
    27:25  The question to find out if you are free.


    Join the Freedom Soiree also for elixirs on living a 7 Star Life. Go to www.7starlove.com/freedom

    • 33 min
    What it Takes to Be "Dangerous": How to Break the Rules to Live Well, Especially now!

    What it Takes to Be "Dangerous": How to Break the Rules to Live Well, Especially now!

    The only way to get what you really want AND actually fulfill the reason you are on this planet, is to become “dangerous”.
    In this episode we share with you HOW to become the well treated woman and the first class man that you long to be AND how to have a totally orgasmic life because of it.
    This is not love and light nonsense.
    This is the willingness to get honest, real and totally alive!
    Think you have what that takes?
    Find out in this episode as Shasta and Ian share their list of HOW to become irresistible to the goodness in your life that is actually already waiting for you.
    And why you will NOT experience it playing by the rules, and yet, you can break them with real finesse and grace.
    Listen now!
    Check out these highlights:
    4:44    How to really let go of baggage and think about being “dangerous”
    5:55    The soul sucking agreement many men make.
    7:55    Why selfishness is underrated and why it leads to generosity.
    18:57  The Good Girl must die.
    25:20  How to access The Unimaginable
    27:35  The one thing that is key to a fabulous life and why the Unknown is the way.

    Join our Freedom Soiree at www.7starlove.com/freedom

    • 39 min
    "Dangerous" Decisions: Why You Need to Make Them Now

    "Dangerous" Decisions: Why You Need to Make Them Now

    “Stop telling people to be safe.
    The most interesting people are finding ways to be more dangerous.” Dave Asprey
    Unlock the “forbidden” secret of success in life, love, and sex…make Dangerous Decisions!!!!!
    Interestingly, 99% of humans are completely confused as to who they are really because they are confused about what is safe and what is dangerous.
    In this paradigm shattering episode, we talk about why is being “dangerous” is important, and what being dangerous really means.
    We don’t mean Jason Bourne stuff – we mean the decisions that you think you can’t make like sleeping with someone’s husband, leaving your marriage or just finally saying what you reallllly want…
    …Like we did…
    In other words, giving up the Good Girl or Good Boy “being nice” syndrome that is actually destroying your soul is THE best thing you can do!
    Learn what happens when you become dangerous and how FAST your dreams unfold. Understand why you should be dangerous to the toxic agreements you’ve unwittingly made. This is your permission slip to greatness!

    Listen now to these highlights:
    3:22    Danger defined.
    7:21    Why being nice is for frauds.
    18:25  The jaw-dropper reveal of what we did to be together. Hearts were broken.
    24:54  Why you need to break all the rules.
    29:36 The true cost of following the rules.
    35.24  The only real mantra you need.


    Join our Freedom Soiree at www.7starlove.com/freedom

    • 40 min
    Why Soulful Sex is the Best Medicine

    Why Soulful Sex is the Best Medicine

    How to Reverse Age, Make More Money & Heal
    Can better sex make you younger, wealthier and even prevent disease?
    Can you Benjamin Button yourself to look better thanks to orgasm?
    Can you have great intimacy if he’s soft and she’s dry?
    YES! YES! YES!
    In this episode we dispel many health, age-related and even sexual dysfunction myths.
    We tell you HOW to bio-hack your sex life and why you should.
    We will also share with you why “average” sex might be making you sick, old and broke, and what soulful sex is and how to achieve it.
    Listen to how women can experience more enjoyable sex, and sex that’s good for your skin!
    Learn also what men are dying the fastest on the planet, and how you can NOT be one of them.
    Listen Now: 2:38 – What is soulful sex versus mutual masturbation.
    5.48 – The recipe for soulful sex.
    15:17 – What happens to your health when you are unhappy with your sex life.
    22:55 – What men are dying the fastest and are the sickest and how sex relates.
    26:35 – What happens bio-chemically when women have vaginal orgasms
    27:35 – Why non-ejaculation for men makes you younger and more virile.
    30:45 – The pandemic and why we need to have great health and great sex.
    The Thrive Global article for even more insight https://thriveglobal.com/stories/2119766/
    Sex Diary freebie for inspiration www.7starlove.com/secret

    • 34 min
    Is Polyamory for Cowards?

    Is Polyamory for Cowards?

    Think variety is the spice of life?
    Believe monogamy is against human nature?
    Wondering IF commitment really still exists?
    In this premier episode of Season 3, Ian and Shasta speak to why polyamory is for cowards, and why all of the beliefs we have about monogamy will leave you poor, lonely and completely unsatisfied.
    Listen now to hear WHY monogamy is so damn hard BUT what can happen when you fully devote so just one person…It’s called The JACKPOT FREQUENCY.
    They share how they overcame their own shit to be fully in and why resulted in money, success and healing.


    Listen now to these highlight:
    4.00  – Why the paradigm of marriage and love might be wrong.
    11.20 – The surprising transformative power of dedication and devotion.
    15.20 – Why relationship is so fucking triggering, and what to do.
    25.51 – Why Shasta sees variety WITH Ian and wants to make love, daily.
    31.15 – The truth about The Jackpot Frequency.
    40.00 – How to activate to the money, love and sex you want.
    Go to www.7starlove.com/secret to get your free gift too!

    • 40 min

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