Sitting in a Car Sarah Sproule

Do you have the skills and abilities to sit with really complex emotions?

Complex emotions like fear, worry, embarrassment, tension, or anger.

Whether they show up in you or others?

This is what you can learn if you join my community to learn The Evolved Family Method.

Your friend, who you love, is constantly making negative and toxic comments about her body and the body of others, around your kids.

You want her to stop but need some help in what to say.

In today’s episode I’m sharing how you can discuss this with your kids and also how you can best approach your friend.

Connection is at the heart of Sitting In a Car and for the relationship you want to build with your kids and the adults in your life.

Remember to grab a pen and paper so you can get the suggested wording to use and adapt for your own convos going forward.

You can also grab the free resource I mentioned via the link in my bio. (KELI CAN YOU MAKE SURE THIS LINK IS IN THE INSTAGRAM BIO PLEASE - You can edit the bio in searchie - thanks)

If you would love more support with your emotions, talking about sensitive things and plucking up the courage to do so, then The Evolved Family Method may be for you.

Drop me a DM to have a chat or head to the link in my bio to join The Evolve School waitlist.

x Sarah

Would you stick the words pu$$y or c0ck on the fridge as a fun learning technique?

Can you imagine your mum or aunt coming over and them seeing that?

No?

Ok, so this might not be suitable for your family and that’s ok.

I’m sharing how this CAN work for some and other ways that it could work for you, if this feels too extreme.

So let’s dive into how you can have an open convo with your kids about the slang words used for body parts so they’re informed and feel able to talk to you about anything.

Do you always have to use the correct anatomical word? (4:46)

Characteristics of an evolved communicating family (6:23)

Build a bridge and make it fun (7:36)

How can I be sure my kid won’t get confused and use these slang words in everyday life? (11:39)

As you know, we use 3 pillars to help you build your evolved communicating family. Growth, Courage & Kindness.

Growth is about being able to talk about all and any sensitive topics no matter what age your kid is at. Courage is about being able to start convos about challenging/sensitive topics.

The kindness pillar is all about emotional management aka emotional intelligence.

If you could use support with any of these pillars let me know you’d like some info by leaving your details here.

Until next week,

Sarah

This is a sign your baby is growing up!

Her classmates are throwing the term boyfriend/girlfriend around and now she’s asking what that is.

This might confuse you as you think about what these terms mean when referring to adults.

Which will get you thinking about what is ok for your kid to know. Right?

Because clearly, and this is ok, your kid is just catching up with this stage of development.

So let me share ways you can explain to your 8-yr-old what boyfriends/girlfriends are in a way that is inclusive, invites open communication and builds a deeper connection.

We’re pulling from the growth pillar for this one and of course, as usual, if you need more support for your own emotions and needs you are invited to leave your details here.

Wanna skip to the good parts?

Reasons we may not have already had this convo and why that’s ok (1:30)

How to be inclusive and less gendered (4:30)

Why it’s important to talk about all the different types of relationships (5:29)

Ways to share your experiences to normalise big feelings (7:38)

I’d love to hear your stories on how you got on with starting convos about sensitive topics such as explaining what boyfriends and girlfriends are drop me a DM.

x Sarah

He says he hates genitals.

His and everybody else’s. He thinks they're super weird.

Did I say too much too soon?

What can I do now to help him with these feelings?

These might be questions you find yourself asking yourself when your kid tells you they hate something about themselves after giving them much needed info about bodies and life.

We need a range of skills to feel like we’re doing a good enough job.

So what do you do when you’ve been doing the “right” things and then your kid tells you they hate parts of theirs and others bodies?

In today’s episode we’re learning how to use courage to stay focused and present in the presence of really complex, difficult and even painful emotions.

Let your kid(s) know that they get to talk about things:


they don’t like
that make them feel uncomfortable
that other people do that piss them off

If your nervous system is all over the place and you need support for yourself, consider joining our community of parents who are learning the skills, tools and techniques to take care of their own needs as well as their kid(s).

Sign up here to learn more.

x Sarah

Potential responses…

Silence, because what do you say?

Tell them that’s an inappropriate question and they mustn’t ask again because what if they say something at school?

Ask other parent friends for their advice because what do you say?!

All these responses make sense.

They’re an indication of the tongue-tied parenting effect.

And so in this week’s episode I’m giving 3 pointers that will help you answer the question, in an age-appropriate way, whilst offering a way for you to look after yourself as well.

Have a broader convo about what sex is (2:54)

How to talk about pleasure in an age-appropriate way (5:34)

Giving your kid context for the consequences of sharing info (10:33)

If you feel uncomfortable, tongue-tied and unsure about having sensitive convos with your kid(s), The Evolve School is a great place for you to learn the skills and get tools and resources to support you inside a like-minded community.

Connected communication is centred on growth, courage and kindness.

If you’re Interested in joining let me know here.

x Sarah

Kids are constantly learning how to make choices, without hurting others.

They’re learning about consent and what that looks like for themselves and others.

They’re learning about what is enjoyable for them.

They’re discovering what brings them pleasure.

And it’s our job as parents to give them lots of chances to discover these things safely and with encouragement and joy.

Proteced from the judgment of others, in particular other adults and their secret messages.

I understand that this can bring up very complex emotions too so it’s vital to have the necessary support so we can be what our kid(s) need.

Have a listen to this episode for 3 things you can do when your 5-yr-old likes to wear his cousin’s ballerina dress.

Also, if you need that extra support remember you can sign up here for The Evolved School.

Until next week,

x Sarah