Loosing a Loved One What Builds and Breaks Us

Everyone at some point deals with loss. Someone I know has lost their uncle recently and it changed their view on life forever. This person has found out first hand we all need time to heal after things happen. Even when we don’t deal with loss on a daily basis, it still hits us hard when it comes to mind.

Naturally, we all have fears, but for one particular person in Bangor High fear was the thing that was holding them back in school and in life. This individual was in a time where his uncle was on the verge of death, and they were afraid of losing him. Their fear was on their mind almost always, it kept them up at night, and was on their mind at school. They just couldn’t shake the thought of losing someone so close to them. Taking care of their uncle was the thing that hurt them the most, only looking at him gave them a terrible gut feeling that something was going to happen that could change everything in an instant. But even with all of this happening at home they were still achieving things elsewhere.

From start to finish, we all have things to accomplish even when the worst is happening. An achievement is something that someone puts great effort into. Even though this individual was going through a tough time they still managed to keep their grades up and earned straight A’s. Even though not thinking about his family and uncle’s condition was becoming tough for them, they still managed to focus on school. School was very tough for this person because they were in school for so long and only got to see their uncle for a few hours every other day.  School was very hard for this person because they felt as if they had extreme stress in and out of school. Commonly grades can be a big thing in someone’s life, but throughout the situation they were going through it seemed as if that were the least of their worries.

Coping with the loss of some can be harsh on someone mentally and physically. Unfortunately, this individual’s uncle did perish. Something that helped the individual cope with the death of his uncle was music. Music for them was the thing that took their mind off of the situation and was the thing that helped them get through that time. Eventually, the music wasn’t enough to keep them going and they had to talk about it with someone. They sat down with their parents and explained how the situation made them feel anguish on another level. The sadness that you feel when you lose someone is terrible, and sometimes the feelings can be amplified when you were especially close to the individual you’ve lost.

Sometimes things happen that we have no control over whether it be losing someone close or trying to multi-task with two things on your mind. Fear can be the thing that breaks us down but can also be the thing that builds us up into the people we are today. Our achievements can be the thing that distracts us from our fears and gives us hope that we are doing sufficient in school and other things. Dealing with things that change in our family and life can be the hardest. All of these things can change our outlook on stuff we do in our everyday life.