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A psychology podcast about men & women, relationships, evolution, and culture. Trying to make sense of a world going mad so you don't have to 🌎

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The Bigger Picture Roni Fouks

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A psychology podcast about men & women, relationships, evolution, and culture. Trying to make sense of a world going mad so you don't have to 🌎

thebiggerpicturepod.substack.com

    Ep. 51 - Nir Boms: A Vision of Hope for Israel & The Middle East

    Ep. 51 - Nir Boms: A Vision of Hope for Israel & The Middle East

    In today's episode, I spoke with Nir Boms, a research fellow of the Moshe Dayan Center specializing in Middle Eastern policy and counter-terrorism.
    We spoke about:
    * The tragic events of October 7th
    * The Abraham Accords & progress with Saudi Arabia
    * Iran's role in instigating terrorism
    * Deradicalization of Palestinians
    * The Jewish legacy of hope and praying for peace
    * A hopeful vision for a peaceful Middle East


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    • 30 min
    Ep. 50 - Helen Joyce: The Trans Debate: When Ideology *Distorts* Reality

    Ep. 50 - Helen Joyce: The Trans Debate: When Ideology *Distorts* Reality

    In today's episode, I spoke with Helen Joyce, journalist and author of 'Trans: When Ideology Meets Reality'.
    We dove into the transgender debate, uncovering key elements of the trans ideology and the harmful effects of gender affirmative care.
    Here are some key points we discussed:
    1. Gender identity vs. biological sex: What each means and why they're not the same.
    2. Origin of the term 'gender': Exploring where the term came from, why it's useful, and where it allows us to distort our biological reality.
    3. Paradox of gender stereotypes: How trans individuals embody stereotypes while claiming gender isn't binary.
    4. Abstract vs. concrete: The Jungian idea that it is dangerous to turn what is symbolic into the concrete.
    5. Gender clinics: The harmful practices of gender specialists and the slippery slope of puberty blockers, hormones, and invasive surgeries.
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    6. Parents are terrorized: Parents are told that their child will commit suicide if the parent does not affirm their child's preferred genders.
    7. Types of transgender: Exploring androphilia and autogynephilia among men, and rapid-onset gender dysphoria and social contagion among teenage girls.
    8. Social media's effect on girls: Platforms like TikTok, Instagram, and Tumblr are spreading trans ideology to vulnerable teenage girls. *
    9. Fan Fiction Trend: The new trend of erotic fan fiction written by teenage girls for teenage girls, with romantic love stories between male characters from popular books (think a romance story between Draco Malfoy and Harry Potter!)
    10. Trans rights vs. women's rights: Men identifying as trans women are impinging on women's sports and endangering women in prisons.
    Let me know your thoughts in the comments below 💭

    This episode was recorded on February 22nd, 2024.




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    • 1 hr 25 min
    Ep. 49 - Seth Allison: Embracing Our Inner Selves with Internal Family Systems

    Ep. 49 - Seth Allison: Embracing Our Inner Selves with Internal Family Systems

    In today's episode, I dive deep into the fascinating world of Internal Family Systems (IFS) with returning guest Seth Allison.
    We explore Richard Schwartz's groundbreaking book "No Bad Parts," tracing the history and development of IFS, particularly its origins with eating disordered patients, and the paradigm shift it introduces away from a mono-mind approach.
    We delve into the core components of IFS, exploring the distinct roles of Exiles, Firefighters, and Protectors. According to IFS - there are no bad parts, only bad roles. To make it more personal, I share my initial encounter with IFS and the profound impact it had on me.
    Join me as Seth Allison guides me through an insightful IFS session, as I meet and interact with an internal Protector.
    If you're curious about unlocking the mysteries of your inner world and understanding the dynamics of Internal Family Systems, this episode is a must-watch! Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share your thoughts in the comments below. Let's embark on this journey of self-discovery together!


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    • 1 hr 23 min
    Ep. 48 - Bettina Arndt: Are Feminists Pro-Women or Anti-Men?

    Ep. 48 - Bettina Arndt: Are Feminists Pro-Women or Anti-Men?

    In today's episode, I spoke with Bettina Arndt, delving into the often-overlooked issue of an anti-male culture shaped by evolving feminist dynamics since the 1960s.
    * Anti-Men Culture: Explore how empowering women inadvertently led to an anti-male philosophy, leaving some men feeling powerless in a system stacked against them.
    * Sex in Marriage: Drawing from her book "Sex Diaries", Bettina shared the secrets of couples who maintain vital sex lives, and the more frequent issue of sex-starved husbands and the emotional toll.
    * Toxic Femininity: We spoke about Bettina's popular "Politics of Cleavage" video, where she discusses the power of female sexuality, and how women should use this power wisely - instead of making men feel like creeps.
    Share your thoughts in the comments below and continue the conversation. I love hearing from you! 💬
    Bettina Arndt is a rare public voice speaking on behalf of men – and the women who love them. This respected social commentator is renowned for tackling unmentionable topics. A former clinical psychologist and one of Australia’s first sex therapists, she first became well-known for breaking down taboos about talking about sex. She now writes an influential blog on Substack denouncing feminism and advocating for men’s rights, as well as providing support for falsely accused men on campuses and elsewhere.
    For more of Bettina’s work:
    * Sex Diaries: Why Women Go Off Sex and Other Bedroom Battles
    * #MenToo
    * Bettina's Substack


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    • 1 hr 6 min
    Ep. 47 - Leonard Sax: Why Boys Today Are Struggling

    Ep. 47 - Leonard Sax: Why Boys Today Are Struggling

    In today's episode, I spoke with Leonard Sax about his book 'Boys Adrift: The Five Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men'.
    Leonard Sax is an American psychologist and a practicing family physician. He is best known as the author of four books for parents: Boys Adrift, Girls on the Edge, Why Gender Matters, and the Collapse of Parenting.
    Highlights
    * 00:00 Intro
    * 6:52 Factor 1: Schools
    * 23:27 Motivation & Personality
    * 33:52 Factor 2: Video Games
    * 41:40 Roni's World of Warcraft Days
    * 53:07 Factor 3: ADHD Meds
    * 1:06:44 Factor 4: Endocrine Disruptors
    * 1:13:37 Factor 5: Male Role Models
    * 1:21:32 Don't Let Toxic Pop Culture Raise Your Children
    * 1:23:55 Where You Can Find Leonard's Work


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    • 1 hr 24 min
    Ep. 46 - Seth Allison: Humans Are Built for Love & Connection

    Ep. 46 - Seth Allison: Humans Are Built for Love & Connection

    In today’s episode, I spoke with Seth Allison, a licensed clinical professional counselor and founder of the Grow Collective, a growth-focused collective of psychologists. We spoke about his latest conversation with John Vervaeke and the unique perspectives he shared there about attachment and relationality.
    We dove into attachment theory, how humans are built for connection, and the visceral experience of being loved and seen by an intimate other. Seth has a very nuanced perspective on attachment, and we explored what happens when the early attachment relationship between parent and child is disrupted, and whether we should regard our attachment style as a lifetime diagnosis.
    We spoke about monogamy, Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples, and why conflicts between couples tend to be so explosive. We explored Sue’s idea of primary and secondary emotions, and how in most fights, we often use anger to mask how terrified we are of being abandoned by our partner.
    Towards the end of our conversation, we spoke about intergenerational trauma, how insecure attachment is often passed down from generation to generation, and what we need to do to break the cycle. We discussed the role of warfare in the perpetuation of insecure attachment and I shared my newfound understanding of grief. Ultimately, the price of love and attachment is the pain and grief of loss.
    I hope you enjoy this episode. Seth and I will be recording another episode where we plan on exploring Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Jung.
    Let us know in the comments below if there are any questions you’d like us to answer in the next episode 💬
    Seth is an attachment-based therapist, working with adults, couples, and families. For more information about Seth’s work and the Grow Collective, click here.
    00:00 Intro & Seth’s Background
    9:55 Humans Are Built for Connection
    11:10 fMRI Study: Love Makes The World Less Painful
    18:29 Are We Built for Monogamy?
    22:38 Do Relationship Promote or Stifle Personal Growth?
    30:14 Are Attachment Styles Real?
    35:03 Attachment Parenting is Not Gentle Parenting
    42:13 Changing Your Attachment Style through Relationship
    48:40 EFT Couples Therapy & Why Fights Get So Intense
    56:31 Secure Attachment Can Heal Intergenerational Trauma
    59:58 Does Intergenerational Trauma Stem from War?
    1:05:12 “I didn’t understand grief until I was married”


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    • 1 hr 11 min

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