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As Told By Nomads features interviews with changemakers, global nomads, Third Culture Kids, and entrepreneurs discussing what it takes to be better inclusive and global leaders.

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As Told By Nomads features interviews with changemakers, global nomads, Third Culture Kids, and entrepreneurs discussing what it takes to be better inclusive and global leaders.

    582: Understanding Attachment Styles and Setting Healthy Boundaries with Silvy Khoucasian

    582: Understanding Attachment Styles and Setting Healthy Boundaries with Silvy Khoucasian

    In today's episode of the As Told by Nomads Podcast, join Silvy Khoucasian and me to discuss the different styles of attachment, the types of boundaries by Rokelle Lerner, and what she has to say about how to make intentional, genuine connections. Of course, not fully understanding what other people are going through sometimes is understandable. But for Silvy, what's essential at the very least is to learn how to validate the experiences of others even though we're unable to completely empathize. Tune in as Silvy shares more of her wisdom as a Relationship Coach in this episode!


    How to make a connection on the first date?
    Sparking connections with people involve elements that differ from person to person. Especially if it's a romantic relationship in a pandemic where the experience, for most people, is a new context. For a start, Silvy talks about boundaries. Boundaries, for her, need to be discussed before the first meet-up. It'd be awkward to talk about what works and what doesn't as the meet-up happens. That's why it's important to do it before, even if it sounds too serious to talk about at first. Boundaries exist to help both parties feel safe. When safety is established, a lot of things can take off better. It also gives clarity depending on what the intentions for dating are. Exploring is also one thing to remember when dating. Managing your expectations and allowing both to shine is a must to genuinely know each other. It's risk-taking, and it shouldn't always just be about you. For connection to happen, mutuality, reciprocity, and taking risks with vulnerability must take place. Both parties must actively take part in making these happen. If there's no active participation and you just leave things as is, many opportunities will be missed.


    Outline of the episode:
    - [04:42] Silvy: On the experience of immigration
    - [07:58] What is it about relationships that are telling of our personalities?
    - [12:11] Relationships may serve as mirrors
    - [16:46] The Attachment Theory and the different attachment formations/styles
    - [22:43] People find themselves in stories and in other people's experiences
    - [24:38] Why do you need to set boundaries?
    - [29:54] The pandemic is a new context to experience – on keeping boundaries
    - [32:33] How do we intentionally spark a connection?
    - [38:51] The back and forth thoughts when connecting with a different attachment style
    - [41:51] Making a connection is an active process
    Resources:
    Website: http://www.silvykhoucasian.com/
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/silvykhoucasian/?hl=en
    Online Programs: http://www.silvykhoucasian.com/online-programs
    Coaching: http://www.silvykhoucasian.com/coaching


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    • 48 min
    581: Black and Abroad with Juanita Ingram

    581: Black and Abroad with Juanita Ingram

    In today's episode of the As Told by Nomads Podcast, join Juanita Ingram and me to talk about the trailing spouse syndrome, Racism, the pandemic, and 'The Expats: International Ingrams' – the reality tv show that depicts their lives as an African-American family living abroad. Moving to London as a career move for his husband was a total mixed bag of feelings for Juanita as an attorney. From there, she began to unfold an array of realizations that she both struggled with and blossomed from. Tune in and find out how Juanita learned to redefine her life's new and changing seasons in this episode!


    The Conception of The Show: The Expats: International Ingrams
    Juanita is a self-confessed fan of reality shows. But no matter how much she is fond of them, she admits many things are lacking about the majority of the reality shows we see on TV. "…how we're being portrayed, in what's supposed to be reality shows, are impacting how the world sees us as black people," Juanita believes. In this episode, she recalls one gathering that motivated the show, The Expats. The show was born out of the importance of breaking stereotypes and showing positive black images internationally. The idea of a trailing spouse is also a theme that's heavily explored in the show, together with rejecting the common belief that life abroad is a long vacation. Ultimately, for Juanita, black people need to be seen in a different light. Because blacks are rarely seen as doctors, vice presidents, executives, and as families living internationally, Juanita took it upon her as a responsibility to showcase their reality as a black family. As of the moment, 'The Expats: International Ingrams Show' has garnered 78% five-star ratings from Amazon Prime viewers.


    Outline of the episode:
    - [04:01] Juanita: Has traveling and living internationally always been in mind?
    - [09:03] A mixed bag of feelings – Juanita's career as an attorney and the experience of having to move abroad.
    - [13:33] Juanita: On going through Trailing Spouse Syndrome.
    - [17:37] Redefining what it means to be a 'trailing spouse' by understanding how wolves work in packs.
    - [25:17] Racism is not new.
    - [27:58] In many places, the pandemic is a political issue instead of being a people issue.
    - [36:14] Reality shows, and shows in general, impact representation.
    - [38:32] Why did 'The Expats: International Ingrams Show' have to be made?
    - [44:21] For the show to be a franchise!
    - [47:45] About her books and Juanita Ingram as an author.
    Resources:
    Website: https://www.iamjuanitaingram.com/
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamjuanitaingram/?hl=en
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/iamjuanitaingram/
    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtrxlM1oEKxmN1KTOFdPeSQ/videos
    Books: https://www.iamjuanitaingram.com/copy-of-beauty-before-ashes
    https://www.iamjuanitaingram.com/copy-of-peace-over-panic
    https://www.iamjuanitaingram.com/ebook
    The Show: https://purpose-streaming.com/


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    • 53 min
    580: Understanding Digital Body Language with Erica Dhawan

    580: Understanding Digital Body Language with Erica Dhawan

    In today's episode of the As Told by Nomads Podcast, join Erica Dhawan and me to talk about what digital body language is, what it means to be inclusive, and the tips for connecting better – digitally. Now that more work-from-home settings are in place communicating may be an obstacle for some. Without the personal experience of body language, understanding how to connect is a challenge. But for Erica, body language didn't disappear—it just evolved. Tune in with us and learn about how Erica sees body language in the digital setting in this episode!


    The Digital Body Language You Already Have 
    Unlike when communicating face-to-face, understanding how someone responds to you through a video call or through chat can be very challenging. Most of the time, you're only limited to judging texts and video calls. When work is concerned, this can be frustrating. But don't lose hope just yet! There are typical examples of digital body language that you're probably just overlooking. If you observe more, you can totally inform yourself on how to better your communication and connection with work and colleagues when work-from-home settings remain. For Erica, body language is not lost when working or communicating digitally. It's just in a different form. How someone structures their email, how fast or slow they answer calls, how they use punctuations, and the frequency of their emojis are all examples of how body language works in a digital situation. They all contribute to the experience and either add or deduct from how someone receives the delivery of the message. They may not be the same with talking face-to-face, but nevertheless, they tell you a thing or two about someone's manner of responding in a digital space.


    Outline of the episode:
    - [02:26] What is body language in digital form?
    - [06:46] Digital body language has different styles!
    - [08:57] We are all immigrants to the world of digital body language.
    - [11:44] The practical tips to improve your digital body language.
    - [17:03] Erica: On speaking about connection and collaboration in a law firm retreat – A memorable experience on pivoting.
    - [21:02] Every part of communication is always under the spectrum.
    - [24:06] Formality Confusion – A form of anxiety that provokes digital body language.
    - [28:02] Gender differences in digital body language exist; What is Connectional Intelligence?
    - [33:12] Understanding digital body language is an opportunity to be more inclusive and less biased; Tips for virtual job interviews.
    - [37:26] Erica: On deciding not to go down the traditional path.
    Resources:
    Website: https://ericadhawan.com/
    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ericadhawan/
    Twitter: https://twitter.com/ericadhawan
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ericadhawan_/
    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo2UXHdLiuhxhS9vwpG_S2g
    Book: https://www.amazon.com/Digital-Body-Language-Connection-Distance/dp/1250246520


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    • 40 min
    579: Living Outside the Binary with Aubrey Blanche

    579: Living Outside the Binary with Aubrey Blanche

    In today's episode of the As Told by Nomads Podcast, join Aubrey Blanche and me as we talk about racialization, equitable leadership, living outside the binary, and more. As someone who opted out from being often white assumed, Aubrey uses her story to teach people about race and privilege. She also talks about the effects of tragedy olympics in this episode and how the game of 'who's pain is worse?' squanders the opportunity for anyone involved to champion empathy. For Aubrey, it's not saying that we shouldn't engage in critique, but we should do so on the grounds of compassion and not on violence and argument. Find out more about how you can live outside of the binary in this episode as you tune in to Aubrey Blanche!


    Everyone Must Find Their Work & Do It!
    For Aubrey, right now, there's so much work to do on our idea that the way we do things is the only way. She thinks that our work is such a function of the privileges we hold that we spend a lot of time actively arguing with each other about what the best way forward is. This type of energy isn't the type that fights the needed fight. Aubrey likes to go back to a quote by Audre Lorde that says: "each of us must find our work and do it." Critique and constantly questioning concepts and things in place should definitely live on. But for Aubrey, the motivation behind and the goal after it needs to be precise. If it's to critique for the sake of argument, then that's not it. She believes that critique must be done on the grounds of compassion for each other in a way that preserves the relationships we have. And that should come with respect. We need to critique, but we don't need to critique with violence against the people who are walking the path with us—because that's a distraction. That's what white supremacy culture wants us to do—fight each other so that we can't fight it. And that's the win they should never get.


    Outline of the episode:
    - [02:11] Promote representation, uniqueness, and other identities; lest we…
    - [05:02] By being seen, I help others be seen. 
    - [10:04] On going through a process of racialization.
    - [17:39] An experiment that leads to a full-time position that tackled organizational biases.
    - [22:09] The level of secondary trauma typical for leadership roles and roles where it's your job to care.
    - [26:17] Tragedy Olympics is a problem!
    - [30:05] The difference between a bullsh***er and a liar.
    - [35:20] What is equitable leadership?
    - [40:11] Allow your privilege to make an impact with the P.A.A. Model.
    - [43:04] "Remember, somebody has to catch the football of our ideas and actions…."
    Resources:
    Website: https://aubreyblanche.com/
    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adblanche/
    Twitter: https://twitter.com/adblanche/
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adblanche/
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    Stephen Colbert and Anderson Cooper's beautiful conversation about grief:
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YB46h1koicQ


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    • 46 min
    578: How to Develop Your Referable Brand Idea with Michael Roderick

    578: How to Develop Your Referable Brand Idea with Michael Roderick

    In today's episode of the As Told by Nomads Podcast, join Michael Roderick and me to discuss the frameworks to developing a referable brand and the approach to relationship building. Often, when people network, all they do is scatter shock. Instead, Michael explains why intention and an effort to spark curiosity are vital when building your connections. Michael also discusses how information can be carried more quickly when it's simple and has an emotional impact in the face of academia that rewards complexity. As someone big on patterns, for Michael, frameworks can be found even in reflection and self-awareness. Find out more about how you can be referable in this episode as you tune in to Michael Roderick!


    The T.C.M. Index 
    When it comes to teaching, most of the time, nothing is being taught within the space of relationship building. If there is, it's always nothing profound. But for Michael, relationship building is an essential topic to factor in if one wants to be an efficient connector. Following that, Michael came up with the T.C.M. Index. The T.C.M. Index is an acronym that stands for Time, Connections, and Money that most individuals don't have in them in one complete package. Michael also found that there are always surplus and deficits present in these resources. And to establish an effective connection, relationship, or partnership—leveraging the differences of these resources is key. The answer to solving any deficit is in the other two things. If you lack time but have the money to invest, someone skilled and available can be a potential partner for your goal. If you're an expert working on a startup, linking up with someone who has connections will make pulling in investors a lot easier for you. Basically, the T.C.M. Index gives the framework to what Michael believes: "the keys to all the doors we need to open are in other people's pockets."


    Outline of the episode:
    - [04:11] On teaching and the love for theater.
    - [07:25] Developing your craft and building your network can exist outside of school.
    - [12:47] You need to be intentional about the relationships you're building.
    - [17:27] Are you creating interest, curiosity, or intrigue?
    - [21:59] On the effects of emotional appeal and simplicity.
    - [28:33] Most relationships are built because you listen, not because you talk.
    - [32:44] What we can learn from comedians about market research.
    - [39:58] End your day by asking your G.I.F.T.
    - [45:47] The core behind Small Pond Podcast and Access to Anyone Podcast.
    - [48:23] Reversing the reality on how more subpar ideas get extraordinary marketing.
    Resources:
    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michael-roderick-1161571/
    Twitter: https://twitter.com/MichaelRoderick
    Consult with Small Pond: http://www.smallpondenterprises.com/
    Check out Access to Anyone Podcast: https://www.accesstoanyonepodcast.com/
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    • 50 min
    577: Embracing Uncertainty and Navigating Tomorrow’s World with Jordan Gross

    577: Embracing Uncertainty and Navigating Tomorrow’s World with Jordan Gross

    In today’s episode of the As Told by Nomads Podcast, join me and my guest, Jordan Gross, as we talk about the four distinct mindsets during uncertainties and how behaviors help people cultivate opportunities by navigating change. Jordan shares how development is better taught through parables and fables as someone who leverages the relatability of creative storytelling. From there, he also speaks on his new book “What Happens in Tomorrow World?” and its arcade-like approach to representing the future and life’s uncertainties. There’s a lot to take notes from in this episode, so make sure to tune in to Jordan.


    Personal Development Through Story Telling 
    Instead of a prescriptive approach, Jordan uses a different manner to teaching development through storytelling. He shares that fun and adventure are a must in his life. Which is the reason why stories with zig-zaggy and non-linear flows always resonate with Jordan. For him, this particular nature of parables and fables, if used creatively, can also be a potent tool for teaching lessons and morals, as proven precisely in his latest book. With the emotional appeal of stories that draw people in, readers find it easier to pay attention to details and find themselves in the levels of every character. Storytelling can teach lessons by leaving people with the opportunity to make their own decisions and assessment after the story. Jordan sees this differently from the ‘do this do that’ type of teaching that often lacks relatability. Because stories take a more creative and stimulating approach to connecting with the reader’s mind, people are then allowed to learn different messages from stories using their own imaginations without losing their autonomy.


    Outline of the episode:
    - [04:03] On embracing the uncertainties of life.
    - [07:00] The 4 Common Mindsets That Arise During Uncertainties.
    - [11:01] Personal development through creative storytelling.
    - [12:45] Over-optimism can exist too; Is optimism always the answer?
    - [15:05] Toxic positivity and genuine positivity.  
    - [16:55] How can you turn your passion into sustainable business opportunities?
    - [22:59] “Opportunity precedes passion.”
    - [26:51] Is there a correlation between solitude and opportunity?
    - [28:52] What is Tomorrow World?
    - [31:51] Have something you can call “yours only” that can make a difference.
    Resources:
    Website: https://jordan-gross.com/
    Grab your copy of Tomorrow World now: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/195066595X
    Also, check out The Journey to Cloud Nine: https://www.amazon.com/Journey-Cloud-Nine-Confront-Redefine-ebook/dp/B0815S6DY3
    Jordan’s Book Inspiration: https://www.amazon.com/Moved-Cheese-Spencer-Johnson-M-D/dp/0743582853
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    • 34 min

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