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Tell me your secret, I'll tell you mine — true confessions of love, sex, money, food, addiction, and hidden taboo topics that are often hilarious, uplifting, and hopeful. Every Monday, best-selling author and actress, Brianne Davis, pulls back the curtain on the deepest, darkest, heartbreaking, and even silly secrets from an eclectic group of guests. While sharing her own secrets in each episode, Brianne's disarming approach creates an intimate and safe space for her guests to bare their souls, uncover the truth, and share practical advice. And just like that, we're laughing, crying, inspired, and filled with hope.

Brianne's best-selling book, Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict, a roman à clef novel based on a decade in recovery (with a dash of creative license), launched in February 2021.

Want to share your secret and be a guest on the show? Email us at secretlifepodcast@icloud.com or visit www.secretlifepodcast.com

Secret Life Brianne Davis

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    • 5.0 • 2 Ratings

Tell me your secret, I'll tell you mine — true confessions of love, sex, money, food, addiction, and hidden taboo topics that are often hilarious, uplifting, and hopeful. Every Monday, best-selling author and actress, Brianne Davis, pulls back the curtain on the deepest, darkest, heartbreaking, and even silly secrets from an eclectic group of guests. While sharing her own secrets in each episode, Brianne's disarming approach creates an intimate and safe space for her guests to bare their souls, uncover the truth, and share practical advice. And just like that, we're laughing, crying, inspired, and filled with hope.

Brianne's best-selling book, Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict, a roman à clef novel based on a decade in recovery (with a dash of creative license), launched in February 2021.

Want to share your secret and be a guest on the show? Email us at secretlifepodcast@icloud.com or visit www.secretlifepodcast.com

    Love Bombing!

    Love Bombing!

    In this enthralling episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt pulls back the curtain on the intoxicating yet perilous world of love bombing. With the precision of an emotional detective, Brianne dissects the manipulative tactics of love bombers, sharing her own past as both the perpetrator and the recipient of this seductive strategy. She exposes the lure of intense affection and the hollow promises that often leave a trail of confusion and hurt.

    Brianne equips listeners with the signs to watch out for, from excessive compliments to premature declarations of love, and dives into the psychology behind the need to rapidly secure a partner's affection. She challenges us to resist the rush and to recognize the difference between genuine connection and strategic manipulation.

    This episode is a deep dive into the complexities of modern dating, the misuse of therapeutic language, and the dangers of mistaking intensity for intimacy. Brianne's insights are a call to action for those who find themselves ensnared by love bombers or who may unknowingly be one themselves.

    If you've ever felt the dizzying highs and abrupt lows of a love-bombed relationship or if you're navigating the dating world's treacherous waters, this episode is a guiding light. Tune in for a raw, enlightening exploration of love, deception, and the journey to authentic connection on the Secret Life Podcast.

    #SecretLifePodcast #LoveBombing #EmotionalManipulation #Dating #Relationships #Intimacy #ModernDating #AuthenticConnection #SelfAwareness #Boundaries #HealthyRelationships

    If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at https://secretlifepodcast.com.
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    Secret Life Podcast's episodes include topics addressing addiction and recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness.
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    • 23 min
    Sitting in the Unknown

    Sitting in the Unknown

    In this compelling installment of the Secret Life Podcast, join Brianne Davis-Gantt as she delves into the uncomfortable but transformative space of sitting in the unknown. Sharing her own current personal struggle, Brianne candidly discusses the challenges of navigating uncertainty in relationships and life decisions. She reflects on the torment of not having clear answers and the instinctive urge to escape the discomfort through distraction or quick fixes.

    Brianne's vulnerability shines as she recounts past experiences where surrendering to the unknown led to unexpected and beautiful outcomes. She emphasizes the importance of building resilience by resisting the temptation to run from discomfort and instead, learning to sit with it. This episode is a testament to the growth that can occur when we allow ourselves to feel the full spectrum of our emotions, even when it's daunting.

    Listeners will be inspired by Brianne's raw honesty and her encouragement to embrace the lessons hidden within life's uncertainties. If you've ever felt paralyzed by not knowing what's next, or if you've struggled to find peace amidst ambiguity, this episode offers a powerful perspective on the beauty of patience, trust, and the courage to feel rather than fear.

    #SecretLifePodcast #SittingInTheUnknown #Uncertainty #PersonalGrowth #EmotionalResilience #Discomfort #LifeTransitions #TrustTheProcess #Vulnerability #Patience #Courage #EmbracingEmotions

    Episode Chapters

    (00:00) Introduction to the discomfort of the unknown

    (03:45) Brianne's personal story of uncertainty in a close relationship

    (09:20) The struggle of wanting answers and the urge to control outcomes

    (13:55) Learning from past experiences of surrendering to the unknown

    (18:40) The power of sitting with discomfort and what it teaches us

    (22:50) Encouragement to face the unknown with patience and trust

    (27:30) Closing thoughts and an invitation for listener engagement


    If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at https://secretlifepodcast.com.
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    Secret Life Podcast's episodes include topics addressing addiction and recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness.
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    • 17 min
    Red Flags

    Red Flags

    In this riveting, Brianne Davis-Gantt confronts the warning signs we often overlook in relationships: the infamous red flags. With the acuity of a seasoned detective, Brianne unpacks the subtle and not-so-subtle signals that foreshadow trouble ahead. She shares anecdotes from her clients' experiences in the murky waters of dating, marriage, and even friendships, providing a comprehensive look at the red flags that surface in various types of relationships.

    Brianne doesn't just stop at the obvious – she digs deeper into the nuanced red flags like the misuse of therapeutic language as a form of love bombing, the dangers of toxic positivity in dating profiles, and the covert tactics of narcissism that can isolate and control. She also tackles the difficult topic of how our own desires and insecurities can blind us to these signs, such as the allure of an aggressive partner or the comfort of a familiar but toxic friend.

    Listeners are invited to examine their own thresholds for what constitutes a red flag versus a deal breaker. Brianne's insights offer a powerful reminder that not every red flag is a call to arms; sometimes, it's simply a sign that it's time to wave the white flag and find peace in walking away.

    If you've ever questioned whether to stay or go, felt puzzled by mixed signals, or wondered how to distinguish a genuine connection from a deceptive facade, this episode is your guide through the labyrinth of red flags. Tune in to learn how to navigate the complexities of human connections with clarity and confidence.

    #SecretLifePodcast #RedFlags #Relationships #Dating #Marriage #Friendships #LoveBombing #ToxicPositivity #Narcissism #DealBreakers #SelfAwareness #HealthyBoundaries #EmotionalIntelligence

    Episode Chapters

    (00:00) Introduction to the world of red flags

    (05:20) Red flags in online dating and love bombing

    (11:45) Unpacking the red flags in marriage dynamics

    (17:30) Navigating red flags in friendships

    (23:15) The intersection of self-awareness and red flags

    (29:00) When red flags become deal breakers

    (34:10) Closing thoughts and invitation for listener stories

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    If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at https://secretlifepodcast.com.
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    Secret Life Podcast's episodes include topics addressing addiction and recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness.
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    • 24 min
    Taking Accountability For Your Actions

    Taking Accountability For Your Actions

    In this eye-opening episode of Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt tackles the elusive and often avoided topic of accountability. With the passion of a seasoned coach who's seen it all, Brianne dives into the stories we tell ourselves to dodge responsibility and the victim mentality that ensnares so many. She shares her own struggles with saying "I'm sorry" and the transformative power of owning one's actions.

    Brianne dissects the excuses and justifications that keep us from acknowledging our role in our misfortunes. She challenges listeners to examine their relationships and life choices, urging them to stop pointing fingers and start looking inward. This episode is a candid exploration of the consequences of blame-shifting and the liberation that comes from embracing accountability.

    Listeners will be guided through the discomfort of admitting fault and inspired to practice self-honesty. Brianne's personal anecdotes and tough love approach make for a compelling call to action: to stop playing the victim, to apologize when necessary, and to maintain integrity in all aspects of life.

    If you've ever found yourself in a cycle of deflection or stuck in the blame game, this episode offers a roadmap to self-accountability and the peace that follows. Join us for a journey into the heart of personal responsibility on Secret Life Podcast.

    #SecretLifePodcast #Accountability #PersonalResponsibility #VictimMentality #SelfHonesty #Apologies #Integrity #SelfReflection #LifeChoices #Relationships #BlameGame #Transformation #Growth #SelfImprovement

    Episode Chapters

    (01:15) Brianne's personal battle with admitting fault
    (03:30) The cost of avoiding accountability and playing the victim
    (06:50) How to recognize and break patterns of blame-shifting
    (10:30) The power of saying "I'm sorry" and its impact on relationships
    (14:45) Strategies for embracing accountability in daily life
    (18:00) The importance of self-honesty and integrity
    (22:35) Brianne's challenge to listeners: find areas to take accountability
    (26:00) Closing thoughts and an invitation to share your stories

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    If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at https://secretlifepodcast.com.
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    Secret Life Podcast's episodes include topics addressing addiction and recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness.
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    • 15 min
    Unrealistic Expectations of Yourself

    Unrealistic Expectations of Yourself

    In this revelatory episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt confronts the pervasive challenge of unrealistic expectations we place upon ourselves. With the wisdom of someone who has navigated the treacherous path of self-improvement, Brianne dissects the notion that life must be fair, that opportunity should appear, and that personal growth should be rewarded with immediate, tangible benefits.

    Brianne shares a poignant conversation with a client struggling to reconcile the work they've done with the expectations of where they should be. She questions the rationale behind the belief that eight months of effort should undo 22 years of trauma, toxic behaviors, and self-sabotaging patterns. This episode is a heart-to-heart on the patience and compassion required in the healing journey and the understanding that the true prize is in the process itself.

    Listeners are invited to reflect on their compassion, the flexibility they allow in their personal growth, and the grace with which they handle their mistakes. Brianne offers a gentle reminder that the journey to self-improvement isn't about collecting gold stars but about embracing the layered complexity of our own development.

    If you've ever found yourself frustrated with the pace of your progress or caught in the trap of expecting too much too soon, tune in for a dose of reality and reassurance. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to recalibrate their expectations and find peace in the incremental victories of self-discovery.

    #SecretLifePodcast #UnrealisticExpectations #SelfCompassion #PersonalGrowth #HealingJourney #MentalHealth #SelfImprovement #InnerWork #ShadowWork #LifeOnLifesTerms #Patience #SelfCare #EmotionalWellness

    Unrealistic Expectations, Healing Process, Compassion, Personal Development, Mental Health Journey, Inner Child Work, Self-Improvement, Healthy Relationships, Emotional Growth, Self-Acceptance, Life Challenges, Shadow Work, Self-Discovery, Recovery, Transformation


    Episode Chapters

    (01:15) The struggle with unrealistic expectations of self

    (05:30) The conversation with a client about healing timelines

    (10:44) The myths of quick fixes and instant gratification in personal growth

    (15:22) The importance of self-compassion and patience in the healing journey

    (20:55) How to practice flexibility and allow yourself grace

    (26:03) The significance of embracing the process over seeking the prize

    (31:17) Closing thoughts and how to share your own journey with us


    If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at https://secretlifepodcast.com.
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    Secret Life Podcast's episodes include topics addressing addiction and recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness.
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    Tell your friends & share online!
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    • 13 min
    Confusing Intensity For Intimacy

    Confusing Intensity For Intimacy

    In this enthralling installment of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt delves deep into the often-confused realms of intensity and intimacy. With the precision of a seasoned guide, she navigates the tumultuous waters where the thrill of a new relationship can easily be mistaken for a genuine connection. Brianne unravels the complex ties between our nervous systems and our need for intense experiences, revealing how this quest for a high can lead us astray.

    Through candid discussions with her clients and personal reflections, Brianne dissects the allure of the passionate, all-consuming love that movies and myths have sold us. She exposes the truth behind these feelings – a nervous system hijacked by past traumas and an addiction to drama that masks itself as love. In contrast, she paints a picture of true intimacy as a calm, safe, and equal exchange between two whole individuals.

    This episode is a beacon for those seeking to understand why they chase the rollercoaster relationships and how to recognize the steady glow of healthy companionship. Brianne offers practical advice for retraining our nervous systems to appreciate the subtler, yet more sustainable forms of intimacy. If you've ever mistaken a heart-racing fling for a soulmate connection, this conversation is a must-listen.

    Join us as we challenge the misconceptions of love and learn to embrace the gentle power of real intimacy over the deceptive rush of intensity. It's time to redefine what it means to be truly close to someone, without the drama.

    #SecretLifePodcast #IntensityVsIntimacy #HealthyRelationships #EmotionalHealth #TrueConnection #LoveMythsDebunked #RelationshipGoals #NervousSystem #TraumaInformed #SelfAwareness #HealthyBoundaries

    Episode Chapters

    (02:15) The confusion between intensity and intimacy

    (07:48) How our nervous systems crave and recreate trauma

    (13:34) The signs of an unhealthy intensity in relationships

    (19:57) Defining true intimacy and how it differs from intensity

    (25:42) Practical tips for nurturing a healthy, intimate relationship

    (31:09) Embracing calm and safety over chaos and intensity

    🔑 Episode Keywords

    Intensity Vs Intimacy, Healthy Dating, Love Addiction, Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis Gantt, Hollywood Sex And Love Addict, Emotional Health, Relationship Advice, Trauma And Relationships, Inner Child Work, Shadow Work, Personal Recovery Stories, Sex And Love Addicts Anonymous, Nervous System Regulation, Codependency, Toxic Relationships, Self-Help Books, Amazon Bestsellers, Intimacy In Relationships, Healthy Boundaries

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    If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at https://secretlifepodcast.com.
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    Secret Life Podcast's episodes include topics addressing addiction and recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness.
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HOW CAN I SUPPORT THE PODCAST?
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    • 16 min

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Divya121 ,

Very engaging!

A very engaging podcast, love listening to these stories and hey! there is always something to learn from them too!

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