46 episodes

pov: you're obsessed with paradigm shifts, aha moments, expanding your consciousness, de-colonizing, and seeing beyond the current paradigm. you believe love, community, interdependence, joy, rest & creativity are our birthright, and you are seeking more ways to find y(our) way home. you are the Wise Friend who listens deeply, but often feels unheard or unseen. i am here to walk beside you. let's paradigm shift together, guided by your host, Ayanda, also known as @ayandastood on TikTok and IG.

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pov: you're obsessed with paradigm shifts, aha moments, expanding your consciousness, de-colonizing, and seeing beyond the current paradigm. you believe love, community, interdependence, joy, rest & creativity are our birthright, and you are seeking more ways to find y(our) way home. you are the Wise Friend who listens deeply, but often feels unheard or unseen. i am here to walk beside you. let's paradigm shift together, guided by your host, Ayanda, also known as @ayandastood on TikTok and IG.

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    46: you have these gifts for a reason 💛

    46: you have these gifts for a reason 💛

    If you are feeling unmotivated or uninspired, if you are stuck minimizing and hiding from your natural gifts, this episode is for YOU. You have these gifts for a REASON.



    This episode will get you fired up, calling you back into your power and ACTIVATING you to be brave in the face of the fear we all experience as we face our goals and dreams. You are someone’s cheat code. 



    You are here to UNLOCK something powerful in the collective. NOT keep your gifts to yourself, hiding and playing small when you know that there is something bigger calling you, longing for you just as much as you long for it. 



    You are not here to be silent and convenient for the status quo or those who don’t support you. You are an EXPANDER. You are here to break rules and break the mould that has been given to you, to truly make it your own, and to support the collective in our collective healing journey. 



    What if: you have these gifts for a reason. And the reason is NOT simply your own self-actualization, but the realization of more love, healing, community, creativity (insert what you are here to help cause) for ALL of us. We need you in your power, bestie! We love you. I love you. 



    Time stamps:

    (00:49): Collective consciousness

    (03:18): Who does it serve? 

    (04:42): There’s a reason

    (06:11): Ego vs. Soul 

    (10:00): Creative Power

    (13:50): Soul resonance 

    (15:44): You are the cheat code

    (18:04): Two choices in the face of fear



    Book a one-on-one coaching session with me to support your creativity and unlock your next level of brave expression: www.ayandastood.com/coaching



    Sources mentioned:

    Essay: Age, Race, Class, and Sex: Women Redefining Difference by Audre Lorde (in the book Sister Outsider)

    Book: Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert

    Quote: “We’re all just walking each other home” — Ram Dass 



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    • 22 min
    45: there'll always be more to say 🌻💛 | perfectionism & creativity

    45: there'll always be more to say 🌻💛 | perfectionism & creativity

    hi precious beings! if you're battling with perfectionism, this episode is for you. earth angel, consider this your permission slip to declare your unfinished work FINISHED because completion is a myth maybe?! find out... i love you all, thank you thank you for being here!



    I hope you enjoy today’s soul session. stay tuned for more, and share it with a friend 💛



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    visit my website at ⁠⁠www.ayandastood.com⁠⁠⁠ 

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    • 20 min
    44: collectivist vs. individualist dreams

    44: collectivist vs. individualist dreams

    if you dream of writing, there are people dreaming of reading you.

    if you dream of singing, there are people dreaming of hearing you.

    if you dream of being seen, there are people dreaming of seeing you.

    if you dream of teaching, there are students dreaming of being taught by you.


    your dreams are dreaming you back. even more: the collective is dreaming THROUGH YOU. Question for you: Who might be dreaming you back?



    book a one-on-one coaching session to step into your fullest expression and power, on- and offline: ⁠www.ayandastood.com/coaching⁠

    Time stamps:

    (00:35): Individualistic vs. collectivist dreams

    (02:02): Example of my (our!) podcast dream

    (03:09): Who will expand through you?

    (05:11): Against perfectionism

    (06:37): You are a representative

    (07:41): The other side of desire

    (08:05): What you seek is seeking you

    (08:26): The beauty of surrender

    (09:24): Please follow & subscribe :)


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    • 10 min
    43: become the energy you crave (or envy)

    43: become the energy you crave (or envy)

    today i bring you a bite size dose of ENERGY I recorded in December but felt wasn't "good enough" at the time. in honor of breaking up with perfectionism, i bring you this offering. let's call it a SOUL SNACK if you will.

    topics include: envying someone's success, listening to yourself, embodying what you seek, and the energetic messages of the universe. i love you, sunshines & soul siblings!

    i hope you enjoy this experience. stay tuned for more, and share it with a friend if you resonate 💛



    TIME STAMPS:

    (00:51): Are you listening?

    (01:38): Reframing envy

    (05:50): Who I'm drawn to

    (06:33): Energy is a spectrum

    (07:09): Collective healing

    (09:55): Unity consciousness

    (10:23): What are you calling in?



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    • 11 min
    42: what if the opposite is true?

    42: what if the opposite is true?

    if you are a worst case scenario thinker/feeler/(anti-)dreamer, this soul session✨ is for you. let's unpack why it's time to let go of assuming the worst — not only in terms of what's possible, but also in our relationships and friendships.

    in this soul session, i share examples of times when i assumed the worst and the exact opposite happened. i invite us to ask ourselves this question the NEXT time we find ourselves stuck in a worst case scenario mindset. you will (re)learn how holding onto the worst case scenario to protect ourselves becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy: we align our actions to what could go WRONG instead of RIGHT, thereby making the former more likely.

    you will hear me walk through common examples where we assume the worst and are often "wrong", such as:


    assuming strangers don't want to talk to us...
    assuming old friends don't want to hear from us...
    assuming everyone online will certainly HATE or cancel us...
    assuming conflict will RUIN our relationships/friendships... and more!!

    let me say that i applied the lesson of this episode in the PROCESS of making, editing, and sharing it. here's how:

    my inner critic said (repeatedly): "what i'm saying is nothing ✨revolutionary✨ therefore it's not worth sharing this episode". or "i'm not adding anything new here!"

    the underlying assumption is A) we get our value from our uniqueness (individualism) and B) no one wants to hear and re-integrate the same lesson again from ME specifically.

    WHAT IF THE OPPOSITE IS TRUE? A) What if collective wisdom becomes more potent the more people share it? and B) What if people actually LOVE hearing and re-integrating wisdom they already know and feel to be true, and they love hearing it from ME (not exclusively but in a particular way)



    i love the feeling of applying a lesson i am sharing with you, because it makes me feel very aligned and like i'm sharing my life's wisdom with you. with that being said, I hope you enjoy today’s soul session. stay tuned for more, and share it with a friend 💛



    Time stamps:

    (01:00): Reframe the worst case scenario

    (05:11): The energetics of possibility

    (06:33): Creativity & Rick Rubin

    (07:37): Approaching strangers

    (08:08): TikTok, cancellation, & judgment

    (14:00): Texting responses

    (15:19): Cancelling plans

    (17:22): Conflict

    (19:07): Reaching out to old friends

    (20:12): It's always going to be this hard

    (20:48): Valuing your opinion

    (22:33): Self-doubt

    (23:38): Summary



    Work with me one-on-one in coaching to unlock your authentic expression and face your fear of being seen online: www.ayandastood.com/coaching



    SOURCES:

    Book: The Creative ACT: A Way of Being by Rick Rubin

    Episode: 35: Awakening to Possibility by me



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    • 25 min
    41: pro-mote your work

    41: pro-mote your work

    if you find it cringe or challenging to promote your own work, this soul session will SPEAK to you. today we completely REFRAME AND RECLAIM promotion, breaking it down to its roots and paradigm shifting our understanding. connected to nature and service. In this episode you will learn:




    Why self-promotion feels so uncomfy
    How we can reframe “pro-motion” by breaking it down
    Why pro-motion is key to nature
    How refusing to promote our work can block other people's expansion
    My current experience with fearing promoting my coaching services



    Time stamps: 

    (01:04): the evolutionary roots of our shame

    (03:42): reframing pro-motion 

    (08:06): nature & motion

    (10:45): my own example of coaching

    (16:00): blocking motion 

    (17:43): what you seek is seeking you



    I hope you enjoy today’s soul session. stay tuned for more, and share it with a friend 3 



    Work with me one-on-one in coaching to unlock your authentic expression and face your fear of being seen online: www.ayandastood.com/coaching



    Sources mentioned:

    Morning pages essay by me



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    • 22 min

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