Peace Talk: The Work of Byron Katie with Grace Grace Bell

Many people suffering from compulsive behaviors wish desperately they could stop. They HAVE stopped sometimes, for even fairly long periods, only to "go back" to what they once did--all over again. 
It seems like mental drudgery to be on the cycle over and over again, thinking about the same things over and over again. 
Like returning to the same area in the wilderness if you were lost--thinking you're finding your way out, and here you are at a familiar old point again where you were two days ago. So discouraging.
What part of you is not affected by this merry-go-round?
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If you'd like help with emotional eating or compulsive eating, see the map I created I call the Nine Step Eating Peace Framework here: 
https://workwithgrace.lpages.co/eating-peace-framework/
For more information about the Eating Peace Method, visit here:
https://www.workwithgrace.com/eating-peace-process/
Grace Bell, Certified Facilitator of The Work since 2007, has a private practice both online and in person, assisting people from all walks of life to identify and question their interpretations around their experience. She has a special love and specific programs for those suffering from eating issues including disordered eating (disordered thinking) of all kinds--having suffered from this behavior and thought/feeling process herself and finding an unshakable peace within around eating, food, health and behaviors with eating. 
As Byron Katie offers us (founder of The Work); when we believe what we think, it creates unnecessary suffering. When we question what we think, we feel lighter and less serious about what is. We even begin to laugh. We notice who we really are is peaceful already, a human being living life as best we can--learning, growing, loving. 
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When we believe we have to be productive, we envision our projects, work, tasks, time as needing to be filled in order to be successful. 
The thing is, having this thought can produce a lot of anxiety, and then rebellion and sometimes the opposite of being "productive". We eat, watch, do all kinds of things, and keep moving. It's stressful. 
But what about doing nothing at all? Can we allow ourselves the pleasure of simply being, like we may have done when we were kids?
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Upcoming online spring retreat in The Work of Byron Katie April 27-30, 2023 7:30am-10:00am daily on zoom. https://www.workwithgrace.com/spring-retreat/
IN PERSON Seattle, Washington Eat, Inquire, Love Retreat June 25-July 2, 2023 https://www.workwithgrace.com/summer-retreat/
If you'd like help with emotional eating or compulsive eating, see the map I created I call the Nine Step Eating Peace Framework here: 
https://workwithgrace.lpages.co/eating-peace-framework/
For more information about the Eating Peace Method, visit here:
https://www.workwithgrace.com/eating-peace-process/
Grace Bell, Certified Facilitator of The Work since 2007, has a private practice both online and in person, assisting people from all walks of life to identify and question their interpretations around their experience. She has a special love and specific programs for those suffering from eating issues including disordered eating (disordered thinking) of all kinds--having suffered from this behavior and thought/feeling process herself and finding an unshakable peace within around eating, food, health and behaviors with eating. 
As Byron Katie offers us (founder of The Work); when we believe what we think, it creates unnecessary suffering. When we question what we think, we feel lighter and less serious about what is. We even begin to laugh. We notice who we really are is peaceful already, a human being living life as best we can--learning, growing, loving. 
To receive notice of Eating Peace programs, videos and vlog posts, visit www.workwithgrace.com/eating-peace and join the mailing list.
To join the Grace Notes family of readers right now, Grace's popular blog on using The Work of Byron Katie to grow a peaceful life, get the thorough START HERE guide to letting The Work, work right here: https://workwithgrace.leadpages.co/start-here-guidebook/
Where to find me:
workwithgrace.com
grace notes from the past at workingwithgrace.com
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https://twitter.com/ByronKatieCoach
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The first Friday of the month (and sometimes the second--make sure you're on the Grace Notes mailing list to get alerted about First Friday) happens every month: an hour of meditation in The Work of Byron Katie and self-inquiry.
In this session, we looked at the belief "this physical condition blocks me from happiness, relaxation, freedom". Hot flashes, thin hair, light sensitivity...and other ailments in the body. 
Who would we be without the story "this blocks me from peace" or even the thought "I am my body"?
The Work of Byron Katie is a practice of self-inquiry allowing us to work with stresses appearing in the mind, and to relax with our experience of life. 
Grace Bell, facilitator of The Work, assists people to identify and question their stressful ways of looking at life. 
She offers Year of Inquiry, a vibrant membership community of inquirers Sept-June each year. 
Grace also has a special love for those suffering from eating issues including disordered eating (disordered thinking) of all kinds--having suffered from this behavior and thought/feeling process herself and finding an unshakable peace within around eating, food, health and behaviors with eating. 
Grace works with all kinds of compulsions, habits and addictions as they are all the same thing: a pull to some behavior, substance or activity in order to help us with our stressful feelings and thoughts.
As Byron Katie offers us (founder of The Work); when we believe what we think, it creates unnecessary suffering. When we question what we think, we feel lighter and less serious about what is. We even begin to laugh. We notice who we really are is peaceful already, a human being living life as best we can--learning, growing, loving. 
In the public sessions on this youtube channel, we have all-group inquiry sessions called First Friday Inquiry, we have interviews with practitioners of The Work, we have Eating Peace videos (on the eating peace playlist) and we have individual sessions in The Work by courageous people willing to be recorded for Peace Talk podcast and this channel. Thanks to everyone involved in what is shared here on this channel, as it is great service to others in the world who find their way here and who are curious about life without "believing" thought all the time.  
In all-group sessions and solo sessions, we begin with a judgment...and move into the four questions and turnarounds.
Willingness to be real and honest with your thinking is the first powerful step in The Work. 
No one ever has to share when attending Friday Inquiry, and thank you when you do.  
For the Work With Grace programs and more information, and to get on the Grace Notes mailing list for updates and sharing of all kinds around The Work, please visit www.workwithgrace.com
To receive notice of Eating Peace programs, videos and vlog posts, visit www.workwithgrace.com/eating-peace and join the mailing list.
To join the Grace Notes family of readers right now, Grace's popular blog on using The Work of Byron Katie to grow a peaceful life, get the thorough START HERE guide to letting The Work, work right here: https://workwithgrace.leadpages.co/start-here-guidebook/
Where to find me:
workwithgrace.com
grace notes from the past at workingwithgrace.com
https://www.facebook.com/WorkWithGrace/
https://twitter.com/ByronKatieCoach
https://www.linkedin.com/in/workwithgrace/
https://www.instagram.com/byronkatiecoach/

When we see our behaviors, like over-eating, or over-thinking, or over-worrying, or over-scrolling, we often have many thoughts about ourselves and focus on what's wrong, and how to fix it.
What if we could find a way to see ourselves without looking through the pair of glasses that says "I am damaged"?
It can be tricky when you really feel off. But here may be a way to sit with this and feel the peace of what you are, without that thought.
Get on the Grace Notes newsletter mailing list to learn about Grace's work and upcoming events, and other support for questioning our thinking patterns when we feel stuck. https://workwithgrace.lpages.co/sign-up-for-grace-notes-in-your-inbox/
IN PERSON Seattle, Washington Eat, Inquire, Love Retreat June 25-July 2, 2023 https://www.workwithgrace.com/summer-retreat/
If you'd like help with emotional eating or compulsive eating, see the map I created I call the Nine Step Eating Peace Framework here: 
https://workwithgrace.lpages.co/eating-peace-framework/
For more information about the Eating Peace Method, visit here:
https://www.workwithgrace.com/eating-peace-process/
Grace Bell, Certified Facilitator of The Work since 2007, has a private practice both online and in person, assisting people from all walks of life to identify and question their interpretations around their experience. She has a special love and specific programs for those suffering from eating issues including disordered eating (disordered thinking) of all kinds--having suffered from this behavior and thought/feeling process herself and finding an unshakable peace within around eating, food, health and behaviors with eating. 
As Byron Katie offers us (founder of The Work); when we believe what we think, it creates unnecessary suffering. When we question what we think, we feel lighter and less serious about what is. We even begin to laugh. We notice who we really are is peaceful already, a human being living life as best we can--learning, growing, loving. 
To receive notice of Eating Peace programs, videos and vlog posts, visit www.workwithgrace.com/eating-peace and join the mailing list.
To join the Grace Notes family of readers right now, Grace's popular blog on using The Work of Byron Katie to grow a peaceful life, get the thorough START HERE guide to letting The Work, work right here: https://workwithgrace.leadpages.co/start-here-guidebook/
Where to find me:
workwithgrace.com
grace notes from the past at workingwithgrace.com
https://www.facebook.com/WorkWithGrace/
https://twitter.com/ByronKatieCoach
https://www.linkedin.com/in/workwithgrace/
https://www.instagram.com/byronkatiecoach/

When we ask "will I ever stop this obsessive compulsive behavior?" or "will this EVER stop?" (about almost anything difficult) we feel hopelessness and despair. 

We're looking closely at what doesn't work. We're seeing so much proof that this thing or condition or situation is incredibly persistent and relentless, and never-ending. Notice how you feel when you see it this way. Notice where the mind travels.

Then, be sure to ask the question: Who are you without this story? What if you turned towards noticing that "stopping" happens constantly? That peace is available to you, for you, inside of you? What if you didn't believe what you're thinking?

It seems hard to focus on what works instead of what does not. But it may be easier than our apparent one-track minds are making it out to be.

Upcoming events: 
*Eating Peace Basics 8 week intensive Saturdays May 6-June 24, 2023 with lots of support in between https://www.workwithgrace.com/eating-peace-basics/
Eating Peace Inquiry Circle: stand alone ongoing inquiry group through June 2023 https://www.workwithgrace.com/ep-membership/

When we believe we've eaten too much, spent too much money, said too much and we feel upset about it, it often hurts or frightens us. How could "I" let this happen? This is wrong. This is going in the "wrong" direction.

What if we paused and approached this moment with self-inquiry, especially using The Work of Byron Katie? No need to understand any philosophy, "get" any special theories, know anything new...simply working with What Is, or what appears to be true about reality, and noticing.

Who would you be without your story about what's happened? And this doesn't mean deciding you don't care about what's happened at all, you sink into resignation, you give up, or you're fake positive about what's happened. Could thought itself be supportive?

Let's do The Work of Byron Katie: four questions and turnarounds, and see what happens in this moment when we believe we've done, eaten, said, spent too much.