Build Your Joyful and Thriving Lawyer Life// Helping Lawyers Create Joyful and Thriving Careers & Businesses (An Original Cre Sheila M. Wilkinson, LMSW, Esq.

In this groundbreaking episode, I share my journey from the relentless pursuit of big money to the liberating escape from a toxic legal environment. As a leader in the legal profession, I believe this story holds invaluable lessons for every professional seeking balance and fulfillment. 
Here are five key takeaways:
1. Discover the Dark Side of Success: Uncover the hidden struggles behind the facade of financial triumph, exploring the toll it takes on mental health, relationships, and overall well-being.
2. The Power of Intention and Planning: Learn how strategic planning, coupled with a five-year vision, transformed a burnt-out lawyer's life, paving the way for a fulfilling transition to Europe.
3. Navigating Disappointments: Explore the challenges of unfulfilled promises and the ultimate decision to walk away from a multimillion-dollar firm. Insights on coping with disappointments and making bold life changes.
4. Reclaiming Personal Well-Being: Dive into the importance of self-care and recovery after burnout. Understand the significance of taking a break, sleeping, and rejuvenating before embarking on a new chapter.
5. Empowering Lawyers for a Thriving Profession: Join the movement towards a healthier legal profession. Gain insights on setting boundaries, managing expectations, and crafting a joyful and thriving life as a lawyer.
Compelling Quotes from the Episode:
"I did everything I thought I was supposed to do. I got to the office before him, I left the office after him. I made that law firm what it was. Then, when I passed the bar and got sworn in, I started to try to have the discussion with him - when do we want to start changing the names on everything, should we create a new legal entity, when was my name going on the door and on the bank accounts?"
"I was already running the firm remotely. I’d put the systems in place to allow me to log in and do what I needed to while I was abroad. I did everything that needed to be done to make my firm a multimillion-dollar success."
"You have me. And you don’t have to put up with whatever you’re putting up with in your lawyer life now. I spend my days helping lawyers - 1:1 and in groups I facilitate and in CLEs and trainings and workshops inside firms - and I would much rather help YOU live your joyful and thriving life, than to do all the things you THINK you should be doing in your lawyer life."
 
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Are you looking for clarity and guidance about the next steps in your legal career? 
Ready to get away from the toxic focus on the quantity of work in billables, and instead, focus on the quality of your work? 
Want to focus on what matters and have a life outside the office? 
If any of these were a whole body hell yes, then you’re in the right place! 
Hi! I’m Sheila Wilkinson, your host, and I’m an attorney, just like you. 
I built a multi-million dollar law firm from scratch and when the managing partner refused to uphold his end of the bargain, I walked away from it all. Now, I live on two continents and help other lawyers live their best lives, too! 
I still practice law, and I’m also a coach, consultant, and educator. I’ve spoken on plenty of stages across the globe - CLEs included! 
My mission is to help you figure out exactly who you really are and what you really want, underneath and in spite of all those shoulda, woulda, couldas, because mark my words: what you want is within reach, and it’s a lot closer than you think! 
So, grab something to take notes with and let’s dig deep about what you really want your joyful and thriving lawyer life to look like! 
And when you’re ready, below are some free and low-cost resources you can start creating your joyful and thriving life today. But here’s a secret: the magic really happens when we work together, so schedule a call with me and let’s chat. It’s not a sales call, and I won’t try to sell you anything - PROMISE. I want to help you get to know yourself better a

As a seasoned legal professional, I understand the struggles that often go unaddressed - the ones no one talks about - which is why this episode is about unlocking the secrets of expectations that have transformed my own journey and why I believe they can revolutionize yours, too. 
Here are five key takeaways:
1. Reframe Your Narrative: Discover how shifting your perspective on expectations can liberate you from the confines of burnout and dissatisfaction.
2. The Four Types of Expectations, Unveiled: Explore the intricacies of expectations, from those you set for yourself to the unspoken assumptions that hold you captive.
3. Emotional Reconnection: Learn the art of reconnecting your intellectual and emotional selves, a crucial step in creating a more authentic and fulfilling professional life.
4. Toxicity Demystified: Understand that the real enemy isn't the demanding profession or challenging partners; it's the unrealistic expectations we impose on ourselves, and the ones we leave unspoken.
5. The Path to a Thriving Life: Gain actionable insights to release yourself from the chains of unattainable expectations, paving the way for a more joyful and thriving legal career.
 
Compelling Quotes:
"Mondays and Relentless Emails aren't the enemy. The unreasonable and unrealistic expectations you have of yourself and the ones you refuse to articulate to others are the enemy."
"Expectations are messages that we've received our entire lives from everyone and everything around us... The question isn't about whether you know it, it's what you DO with that knowledge."
"I don't want you to be like anyone else. I want you to be YOU. The sooner you get a handle on those unreasonable, unrealistic, and unspoken expectations in your life, the better your life will be."
 
>>> 
Are you looking for clarity and guidance about the next steps in your legal career? 
Ready to get away from the toxic focus on the quantity of work in billables, and instead, focus on the quality of your work? 
Want to focus on what matters and have a life outside the office? 
If any of these were a whole body hell yes, then you’re in the right place! 
Hi! I’m Sheila Wilkinson, your host, and I’m an attorney, just like you. 
I built a multi-million dollar law firm from scratch and when the managing partner refused to uphold his end of the bargain, I walked away from it all. Now, I live on two continents and help other lawyers live their best lives, too! 
I still practice law, and I’m also a coach, consultant, and educator. I’ve spoken on plenty of stages across the globe - CLEs included! 
My mission is to help you figure out exactly who you really are and what you really want, underneath and in spite of all those shoulda, woulda, couldas, because mark my words: what you want is within reach, and it’s a lot closer than you think! 
So, grab something to take notes with and let’s dig deep about what you really want your joyful and thriving lawyer life to look like! 
And when you’re ready, below are some free and low-cost resources you can start creating your joyful and thriving life today. But here’s a secret: the magic really happens when we work together, so schedule a call with me and let’s chat. It’s not a sales call, and I won’t try to sell you anything - PROMISE. I want to help you get to know yourself better and support you in your dreams!
 
🥰 RESOURCES FROM THE SHOW 
Schedule a call with Sheila to chat about YOUR Joyful and Thriving™ Lawyer Life! Let’s Connect via Email: sheilawilkinson.com/connect  Baby Steps - Get Weekly Strategies for how to thrive in your world - for free! Episodes from my other podcast, “What Would Sheila Say?”
Episode 1 - You Are In Control Episode 2 - Your Wellness = Your Success Episodes 3-6 - Managing Expectations Series Episode 7 - Building a Power Team Episode 8 - Giving Yourself Permission Episode 9 - Mastering Time Management Episode 10 - Intentio

In the wake of the COVID-19 pandemic, the legal profession faced a profound metamorphosis. As a seasoned practitioner deeply attuned to the struggles and triumphs within our community, this episode isn't just as an observer, but evidence of my work as a guide for other lawyers through the intricate journey of change. Sharing these insights paves the way for a new era in legal practice, one that prioritizes well-being, flexibility, and authenticity.
Key Takeaways:
1. Self-Reflection in Crisis: COVID forced a pause, allowing lawyers to reflect on their lives, exposing both the strengths and weaknesses of traditional legal practice.
2. The Dual Nature of COVID: Acknowledging both the gift and curse aspects—unveiling opportunities for personal and professional growth while navigating mental and emotional challenges.
3. Catalyst for Change: Lawyers have the power to be catalysts for change, not only in their own lives but in shaping the future of the legal profession.
4. Hybrid and Remote Practices: The necessity of embracing new ways of working, including fully remote or hybrid models, to foster a more fulfilling and balanced professional life.
5. Leadership Evolution: Recognizing the evolving landscape and preparing for a leadership shift, where those open to innovation and progressive practices can shape the future of law.
 
Compelling Quotes from the Episode:
"COVID was a GIFT - it gave us time to think and feel and experience life with the sun outside; see our families in new ways - virtually reconnecting with lost loved ones, and spending time with families in the daylight hours, even if they annoyed the heck out of us in the other room while we were trying to focus on that brief."
"COVID was a catalyst for us to look at our profession for how it can EVOLVE. And one day, those old guard who are still making the rules, who still see the practice of law through a traditional lens, will retire. And those of us who are open to new and exciting ways of practicing law, including using AI for good - to help us socratically - hybrid, on a balcony overlooking a beach somewhere... we will eventually step into those positions of leadership."
"Be a catalyst for change in your own life, so you can be a catalyst for change in our profession."
 
>>> 
Are you looking for clarity and guidance about the next steps in your legal career? 
Ready to get away from the toxic focus on the quantity of work in billables, and instead, focus on the quality of your work? 
Want to focus on what matters and have a life outside the office? 
If any of these were a whole body hell yes, then you’re in the right place! 
Hi! I’m Sheila Wilkinson, your host, and I’m an attorney, just like you. 
I built a multi-million dollar law firm from scratch and when the managing partner refused to uphold his end of the bargain, I walked away from it all. Now, I live on two continents and help other lawyers live their best lives, too! 
I still practice law, and I’m also a coach, consultant, and educator. I’ve spoken on plenty of stages across the globe - CLEs included! 
My mission is to help you figure out exactly who you really are and what you really want, underneath and in spite of all those shoulda, woulda, couldas, because mark my words: what you want is within reach, and it’s a lot closer than you think! 
So, grab something to take notes with and let’s dig deep about what you really want your joyful and thriving lawyer life to look like! 
And when you’re ready, below are some free and low-cost resources you can start creating your joyful and thriving life today. But here’s a secret: the magic really happens when we work together, so schedule a call with me and let’s chat. It’s not a sales call, and I won’t try to sell you anything - PROMISE. I want to help you get to know yourself better and support you in your dreams!
 
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Schedule a call with Sheila to chat about YOUR Joy

This episode promises to be a game-changer for legal professionals seeking a healthier, more successful, and fulfilling career. Listen in to discover the secrets to thriving in your legal career.
As a leader in the legal wellness movement, I'm excited to share insights that will transform your approach to work and life. In this episode, we delve into the critical link between sleep, ethics, and success in the legal field. 
Key Takeaways:
1. Sleep is Your Superpower: Learn why quality sleep is the key to unlocking your full potential as a legal professional.
2. Strategic Breaks for Maximum Performance: Uncover the Australian study-backed strategy for boosting productivity with just 5 minutes of unstructured breaks.
3. Wellness Beyond Workouts: Explore a holistic approach to wellness that goes beyond physical activity, focusing on sleep, sustenance, sports, and sustainable emotional exchanges.
4. Breaking the Stress Cycle: Understand how to break free from the stress cycle ingrained in legal training and create a life that's both successful and joyful.
5. Legal Defense Starts with Self-Care: Gain insights into why a good night's sleep is your best defense against burnout, unreasonable clients, and opposition in the legal world.
 
Compelling Quotes:
"You can’t think properly without sleep. You can’t argue properly without sleep. You can’t write properly without sleep. You can’t speak properly without sleep."
"The best defense you have against opposing counsel is literally to get a good night's rest.”
"This is what I do every single day, helping lawyers create structures and routines and lives that can be joyful and thriving - and sleep is most often the first step."
 
>>> 
Are you looking for clarity and guidance about the next steps in your legal career? 
Ready to get away from the toxic focus on the quantity of work in billables, and instead, focus on the quality of your work? 
Want to focus on what matters and have a life outside the office? 
If any of these were a whole body hell yes, then you’re in the right place! 
Hi! I’m Sheila Wilkinson, your host, and I’m an attorney, just like you. 
I built a multi-million dollar law firm from scratch and when the managing partner refused to uphold his end of the bargain, I walked away from it all. Now, I live on two continents and help other lawyers live their best lives, too! 
I still practice law, and I’m also a coach, consultant, and educator. I’ve spoken on plenty of stages across the globe - CLEs included! 
My mission is to help you figure out exactly who you really are and what you really want, underneath and in spite of all those shoulda, woulda, couldas, because mark my words: what you want is within reach, and it’s a lot closer than you think! 
So, grab something to take notes with and let’s dig deep about what you really want your joyful and thriving lawyer life to look like! 
And when you’re ready, below are some free and low-cost resources you can start creating your joyful and thriving life today. But here’s a secret: the magic really happens when we work together, so schedule a call with me and let’s chat. It’s not a sales call, and I won’t try to sell you anything - PROMISE. I want to help you get to know yourself better and support you in your dreams!
 
🥰 RESOURCES FROM THE SHOW 
Schedule a call with Sheila to chat about YOUR Joyful & Thriving™ Lawyer Life! Let’s Connect via Email: https://sheilawilkinson.com/connect Baby Steps - Get Weekly(ish) Strategies for how to thrive in your world - for free!  
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In this episode, a client of mine - a former litigator turned claims specialist - shares her unconventional career shift and the keys to professional liberation. This insightful conversation challenges traditional legal norms, providing a roadmap for those seeking fulfillment beyond the billable hour. Join us as we unveil the inspiring journey of breaking down walls. From legal battles to crafting her dreams, it's a tale of resilience, reinvention, and finding purpose.
Five Key Takeaways:
1. Embracing Change: Her journey emphasizes the importance of embracing change and being open to new possibilities, even if it means stepping outside the familiar realms of legal practice.
2. Holistic Success: Success isn't confined to traditional titles. Her story showcases that success can be achieved through a holistic approach, considering personal well-being and fulfillment.
3. Challenging Assumptions: The episode delves into the significance of challenging societal and professional assumptions. We encourage you to question preconceived notions and forge your unique path!
4. Mindful Decision-Making: The transition highlights the value of mindful decision-making. It's not just about career moves; it's about aligning your choices with your true passions and aspirations.
5. Professional Liberation: My client’s experience serves as a beacon for those seeking professional liberation. It's a reminder that it's never too late to redefine success and find true fulfillment in one's career.
 
Compelling Quotes from the Episode:
"I spent a lot of time and a lot of money and a lot of energy being a lawyer and becoming a lawyer, but I had to face the truth at that point that it just was not what I wanted to do."
"I think once COVID happened and we were isolating and separated from everyone working from home, maybe not traveling like we used to, I think it kind of put things into some perspective and made us a little less willing collectively to tolerate certain things in our lives."
 
>>> 
Are you looking for clarity and guidance about the next steps in your legal career? 
Ready to get away from the toxic focus on the quantity of work in billables, and instead, focus on the quality of your work? 
Want to focus on what matters and have a life outside the office? 
If any of these were a whole body hell yes, then you’re in the right place! 
Hi! I’m Sheila Wilkinson, your host, and I’m an attorney, just like you. 
I built a multi-million dollar law firm from scratch and when the managing partner refused to uphold his end of the bargain, I walked away from it all. Now, I live on two continents and help other lawyers live their best lives, too! 
I still practice law, and I’m also a coach, consultant, and educator. I’ve spoken on plenty of stages across the globe - CLEs included! 
My mission is to help you figure out exactly who you really are and what you really want, underneath and in spite of all those shoulda, woulda, couldas, because mark my words: what you want is within reach, and it’s a lot closer than you think! 
So, grab something to take notes with and let’s dig deep about what you really want your joyful and thriving lawyer life to look like! 
And when you’re ready, below are some free and low-cost resources you can start creating your joyful and thriving life today. But here’s a secret: the magic really happens when we work together, so schedule a call with me and let’s chat. It’s not a sales call, and I won’t try to sell you anything - PROMISE. I want to help you get to know yourself better and support you in your dreams!
 
🥰 RESOURCES FROM THE SHOW 
Schedule a call with Sheila to chat about YOUR Joyful and Thriving™ Lawyer Life! Let’s Connect via Email: sheilawilkinson.com/connect  Baby Steps - Get Weekly Strategies for how to thrive in your world - for free! ABA Article: COVID’s Unexpected Gift  
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In the quest for legal success, many are blinded by the pursuit of partnership and billable hours. As a seasoned professional in the legal profession, I've not only experienced the dark side of the billables game, I’ve left it. In this episode, we delve deep into the hidden truths, providing valuable insights to empower you in negotiating your terms and achieving a fulfilling legal career.
Key Takeaways:
1. Redefining Success: Partnership isn't the only marker of success; discover alternative paths of real success that prioritize your well-being and impact.
2. The Price of Burnout: Uncover the true cost of billables on your mental health, relationships, and overall quality of life.
3. Negotiating Power: Realize the untapped power you have in negotiating for less work or more flexible arrangements, transforming your professional landscape.
4. Financial Insight: Understand the financial dynamics of law firms, revealing the often-overlooked contribution lawyers make to their firms.
5. Building a Better Practice: Learn practical strategies to reshape your legal practice, from restructuring services to setting fair pricing, breaking free from toxic practices.
 
Compelling Quotes:
"Money will not buy you sleep."
"Negotiate to do LESS WORK or MORE FLEXIBLE WORK, not to MAKE MORE MONEY."
"You have a lot more power than you think you do. Start using it. Today."
 
>>> 
Are you looking for clarity and guidance about the next steps in your legal career? 
Ready to get away from the toxic focus on the quantity of work in billables, and instead, focus on the quality of your work? 
Want to focus on what matters and have a life outside the office? 
If any of these were a whole body hell yes, then you’re in the right place! 
Hi! I’m Sheila Wilkinson, your host, and I’m an attorney, just like you. 
I built a multi-million dollar law firm from scratch and when the managing partner refused to uphold his end of the bargain, I walked away from it all. Now, I live on two continents and help other lawyers live their best lives, too! 
I still practice law, and I’m also a coach, consultant, and educator. I’ve spoken on plenty of stages across the globe - CLEs included! 
My mission is to help you figure out exactly who you really are and what you really want, underneath and in spite of all those shoulda, woulda, couldas, because mark my words: what you want is within reach, and it’s a lot closer than you think! 
So, grab something to take notes with and let’s dig deep about what you really want your joyful and thriving lawyer life to look like! 
And when you’re ready, below are some free and low-cost resources you can start creating your joyful and thriving life today. But here’s a secret: the magic really happens when we work together, so schedule a call with me and let’s chat. It’s not a sales call, and I won’t try to sell you anything - PROMISE. I want to help you get to know yourself better and support you in your dreams!
 
🥰 RESOURCES FROM THE SHOW 
Schedule a call with Sheila to chat about YOUR Joyful and Thriving™ Lawyer Life! Let’s Connect via Email: sheilawilkinson.com/connect  Baby Steps - Get Weekly Strategies for how to thrive in your world - for free! Episodes from my other podcast, “What Would Sheila Say?” Episode 1 - You Are In Control Episode 2 - Your Wellness = Your Success Episodes 3-6 - Managing Expectations Series Episode 7 - Building a Power Team Episode 8 - Giving Yourself Permission Episode 9 - Mastering Time Management Episode 10 - Intentions, Affirmations & Goals Episode 28 - The Secret to Achieving Your Goals Episode 49 - Baby Steps - The Art of Being Still  
💥 FREE RESOURCES
Grab these “Simple Scripts for Better Boundaries” and take back your time, talent, and energy! Scripts for Professionals | Scripts for Business Owners
Build a healthier lifestyle and add more joy in your life in this Masterclass!
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