On the surface, believing the lie that you are who you raise doesn’t seem too bad, since involvement in your child’s life is better than neglect. However, underneath the surface, this lie frauds us into believing that our children’s success is our success. And their failure is our failure.
Are we the ones that are ultimately in control over the destiny of our children? Can we shape and mould them into our image and likeness? Do we have the power to sustain them? Outwardly, of course we would blurt out, "NO!" But inwardly, we may be sitting with a lie that actually tricks us into believing that our self-worth is tied directly to our children.
On Episode 84, Daniel and Christina unpack two of the common lies that we believe about parenting reframed as half-truths: You are who you raise and You are what you know. These two are from Daniel's new book, You Are What You Do: And Six Other Lies about Work, Life, and Love.
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In This Episode, You Will Hear About:
Daniel's latest book, You Are What You Do and Six Other Lies About Work, Life, & Love
The lies we believe about parenting
The vicious cycle we create when we believe the lies that you are who you raise and you are what you know
Why we need to overcome these lies and how to overcome them
Resources Mentioned During the Episode:
Grab a copy of Daniel's new book, You Are What You Do and Six Other Lies About Work, Life, & Love
Listen to Episode 82: The Lies We Believe About Ourselves where we go more into depth about the lies "You are what you do" and "You are your past"
Catch up on Episode 83: The Lies We Believe About Marriage were we discuss the lies: "You are who you know" and "You are what you experience"
Quotables & Tweetables:
"If media, which includes YouTube, has become the number-one influencer for our children's career choices, what are the implications?" @danielsangi
"And then one day we realize that we have no idea why we are doing what we're doing. And when it comes to parenting, that's a scary place to be." @danielsangi
"You are who you raise: This lie is so dangerous because it deceives you into believing that parenting ought to be your all and everything. That your children should be the center of your universe." @danielsangi
"On the surface this lie, "You are who you raise" doesn't seem too bad, since involvement in your child's life is better than neglect. However, underneath the surface, this lie actually tricks you into believing that your self-worth is tied directly to the performance of your children." @danielsangi
"This lie, "You are who you raise" frauds you into believing that your children's successes your success. And their failure is your failure." @danielsangi
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