Hope For Wives Pam Blizzard, Lyschel Burket, Bonny Burns

With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com
Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org
Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com

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We often work with women who experience a lack of understanding from their husbands on what it takes to heal from sexual betrayal trauma. So, today, we are discussing, “When the husband is frustrated with her slow healing process.” 
We Will be Discussing: Let’s revisit the definition and experience of betrayal trauma. What are the definitions and how betrayal trauma impacts a woman’s functioning? How long, typically, does a woman take to heal from betrayal trauma? What is important for a husband to know when he experiences frustration due to her healing process? (Can address him trying to control her recovery here.) What hope can we leave our listeners? Resources mentioned in this show: Adding Attunement to Empathy (APSATS radio)
What is EMDR to help memories fade?
How Betrayal Trauma Manifests Itself with Dr. Kevin Skinner

 
Scripture references: 2 Timothy 1:6-7
Jeremiah 29:11-14

With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com
Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org
Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com
Help Us Help Others Listen now: If you’ve been with us from the beginning, or have binged us up until this point, you’ll know that we have purposely laid out content to follow a trajectory from first discovery, through safety and stability, grief and mourning, and at some point we will move through post-traumatic growth.
The past episode and this one deal with coupleship recovery and lands in the space of when you feel safe enough, especially if your husband has jumped into recovery with a full commitment. We know that some husbands take a longer time to come out of denial to embrace recovery and some never get there.
Today, Pam and I are talking about 3 more keys to coupleship recovery.
We Will be Discussing: What is coupleship recovery? When can a couple start recovery? What importance does friendship have in recovery? What other couple resources are out there? What hope can we leave our listeners? Resources mentioned in this show: Learn Empathy: Help Your Betrayed Wife Heal by Marsha Means
Help Her Heal by Carol J. Sheets and Allan J. Katz
Help Them Heal by Carol J. Sheets
Daring Ventures’ Couples Centered Recovery
7 Principles for Making Marriage Work by the Gottmans (NOT betrayal focused, general audience)
Podcast – Helping Couples Heal (secular, great content)
Podcast – Human Intimacy Podcast with Dr. Kevin Skinner
Podcast – From Crisis to Connection with Geoff & Jody Steurers
Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Dr. Sue Johnson
Build True Intimacy by Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith and Dan Drake

 
Scripture references: Malachi 4:2
Proverbs 27:17

With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com
Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org
Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com
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Listen now: Pam and Bonny discuss 3 Keys to Coupleship Recovery – Safety/stability, Prioritizing the Relationship, and Radical Honesty.
We Will be Discussing: What would you like couples to know about safety and stability?
What does it mean to prioritize the relationship?
What’s the definition of Radical Honesty and how does it play out?
What hope can we leave our listeners?
Resources: Radical Honesty with Dr. Jake Porter (youtube video)
Scripture references: 2 Corinthians 5:17, "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!"

With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com
Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org
Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com
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Listen now: Today, Lyschel and Bonny discuss, "So What, Lord?" or, "Prove it, Lord."
This isn't our typical episode. It's a conversation as Lyschel shares a devotional she recently connected with on a deeper level and wants to share with you.
We Will be Discussing: What attribute of God has meaning for the emotions in our story. What does a praise party look like? What hope can we leave our listeners? Resources mentioned in this show Subscribe to The Father's Business for more devotionals like this.
The I AM For Your Every Need
Sooner or later, everyone will be beaten up, battered, bruised, and burned out by the dailies of life. Good news! God is the Lord of all of your life. List every need and emotion that you are feeling, no matter how small they seem. After you have acknowledged all your emotions and needs, go through the names of God until you find the expression of His character that meets each need. For every need, there is a corresponding attribute of God. Affirm that God is still God, no matter how you feel. Have a praise party, not a pity party, for your loving Father is a big God. He is able to do much more than you need or can think or ask.
He is the I AM for our needs
He is Abba Father when we need fathering.
He is acceptance when we feel unwanted.
He is adequacy for our inadequacy.
He is all-sufficient in our hardest situations.
He is the Amen, the true witness.
He is the Answer for our uncertainty and questions.
He is the Author of faith for our unbelief or doubt.
He is the Bread of life for our spiritual hunger.
He is broken and spilled out for us when we’ve been used.
He is the Burden-bearer when we are heavy laden.
He is before all things when we’re surprised.
He is cleansing for our defilement and shame.
He is closer than a brother when we are lonely.
He is our Comforter who wipes away tears in our griefs and sorrows.
He is our Defender when we are under attack.
He is our Deliverer from our bondage or captivity.
He is our Door-opener when it looks like there’s no way out.
He is our sure Foundation, when we’re insecure.
He is our Faithful Friend when friends fail us.
He is Fullness when we’re empty.
He is God of love when we feel unloved and need a hug.
He is God who is there when we feel alone or abandoned.
He is our Guide and the Way when we’re confused and need direction.
He is grace when we’re too hard on ourselves or others.
He is our Healer for woundedness, rejection, and sickness.
He is Hope when we are discouraged and want to quit.
He is Humility for our pride.
He is Joy when we are depressed.
He is our Keeper and Protector when we are vulnerable.
He is the Lifter of our heads when we feel weighed down.
He is long-suffering, slow to anger when we have blown it again.
He is Mercy for criticism and unkindness.
He is Mighty God, our strength for our weakness or temptation.
He is Never-failing, always the same when we are fickle and faithless.
He is Overcoming victory for defeat and depression.
He is the Plumb Line to stand against the world’s situational ethics.
He is the Prince of peace when we are stressed, worried, and confused.
He is the Provider for every financial need.
He is the Quieter of the storm for afflictions without and struggles within.
He is Reconciliation for breaches in relationships.
He is Rest when we’re tired.
He is the Restorer of our souls when we’re bruised and beaten down.
He is the Reviver, living water when we are depleted and thirsty.
He is Satisfaction when we’ve tried everything and come up empty.
He is the Song, our praise when we’re joyless and heavy of heart.
He is the Spirit of the Lord when we need to be set free.
He is our Strength when we’re weak.
He is Truth for the world’s warped opinions.
He is True Riches when we

With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com
Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org
Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com
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Listen now: Today, we are discussing faulty messages women have received from church or society’s teachings and how these teachings have impacted betrayed wives.
Proverbs 31:8-9 in the message says, “Speak up for the people who have no voice, for the rights of the down-and-outers. Speak up for justice, for the poor and needy!” That’s what this episode is about, giving you words and a voice to move toward clarity.
We Will be Discussing: What are some faulty teachings women have been exposed to? How do these faulty teachings influence a woman? What is the truth that counters these faulty teachings? (Suggestion – find scripture that refutes the faulty teachings) What hope can we leave our listeners? Resources mentioned in this show: Redemptive Divorce: A Biblical Process that Offers Guidance for the Suffering Partner, Healing for the Offending Spouse, and the Best Catalyst for Restoration by Mark W. Gaither
Redeeming Power understand authority and abuse in the church by Dr. Diane Langberg
The Making of Biblical Womanhood: How the Subjugation of Women Became Gospel Truth by Beth Allison Barr
Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage: A Christian Woman’s Guide to Hidden Emotional and Spiritual Abuse by Natalie Hoffman
Leslie Vernick Blog Juli Slattery - Java with Juli Podcast
Scripture references: Jeremiah 29:11
Galatians 3:28
Genesis 2:18

With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com
Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org
Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com
Listen now: Today, we are continuing our discussion around, “How to Make Time for Healing.” In the last episode, we walked through how she can care for herself through the first phase of healing, safety and stability. Our incredible guest, Casey Allison, is back with us today!
 
In our questions now, we will focus on the second stage of healing, remembering and mourning.
We Will be Discussing: 1.What are some experiences busy women have when they enter into grief?
2. What are some practical tools we can offer women in this season?
3. What hope can we leave our listeners today?
Resources mentioned in this show: Episode 20: Healing from the Impact of Sexual Betrayal Through Grief
Come Awake with Coach Casey Allison

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