Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD

Ep. 59 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Dumping a friend or working things out by changing the dance.
Jessie wants to get out of some painful relationships.
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SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTIC at https://DrFriendtastic.com/submit (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it’s not for emergency situations.)
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*** DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:
- Have you ever wanted to end a friendship? What happened?
- In your own words, how would you explain this comment from Dr. Friendtastic? “I don’t believe people can be poison [toxic]. What I do believe is that sometimes people get into patterns of interacting that are hurtful for one or both of them.”
- How is a friendship like an old-fashioned dance, where people hold onto each other? What are some ways you could change a friendship dance if you didn’t like what was happening?
- Why is it not a good idea to suddenly stop talking to a friend, with no explanation?


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Ep. 58 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Safety first
Keara wonders what to do to keep a friend safe.
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Would YOUR KID like to be featured on the podcast? SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTIC at https://DrFriendtastic.com/submit (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it’s not for emergency situations.)
For an easy-to-read TRANSCRIPT, go to: https://DrFriendtastic.com/podcast/
Like the podcast? Check out my books and webinars at https://EileenKennedyMoore.com.
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*** DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:
- Have you ever been in a situation where you thought a friend was in danger? What happened? How did you handle it?
- What are some reasons why kids sometimes do things that are unsafe?
- Safety is important, but sometimes kids can be too careful, meaning they don’t want to do things if there’s even a tiny possibility of danger or discomfort. What do you think would be an example of being too careful? How could being too careful be a problem?
- Dr. Friendtastic says, “Preventing dangerous situations is usually easier than dealing with them after they’ve happened.” Do you agree? Why or why not?
- Why might standing near a teacher or a group of friends be useful for preventing problems with someone who is acting too rough?


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Ep. 57 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: The upside of disagreements.
Zen wants to know how to avoid conflicts, but what if conflicts are sometimes helpful?
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Would YOUR KID like to be featured on the podcast? SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTIC at https://DrFriendtastic.com/submit. (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it’s not for emergency situations.)
For an easy-to-read TRANSCRIPT, go to: https://DrFriendtastic.com/podcast/
Like the podcast? Check out my books and webinars at https://EileenKennedyMoore.com.
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*** DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:
- Describe a conflict you had with a friend. What happened? What was your friend’s point of view and what was yours? How did the conflict affect your friendship?
- Dr. Friendtastic says that conflict can be a way for friends to learn about each other. What does that mean?
- When might it be a good idea to give in and do what your friend wants, even though it isn’t exactly what you want? When is it NOT a good idea to do this?
- Why is it important to try to understand what a friend is thinking or feeling? (Hint: What could happen if we just insist on what we want?)
- What are some things you can do or not do to make conflicts with a friend less painful?


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Ep. 56 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Showing openness to friendship.
Diego wants to know what he can do to make friends.
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Would YOUR KID like to be featured on the podcast? SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTIC at https://DrFriendtastic.com/submit. (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it’s not for emergency situations.)
For an easy-to-read TRANSCRIPT, go to: https://DrFriendtastic.com/podcast/
Like the podcast? Check out my books and webinars at https://EileenKennedyMoore.com.
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*** DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:
- Think of a time when you had to make new friends. What did you do? How did other kids respond?
- Why does Dr. Friendtastic emphasize trying to make friends with kids who like to do the same things you like to do?  
- Why do you think some kids only want to be friends with the most popular kids? What are some possible problems with this approach to friendship?  
- What do you think it means to show that you’re open to friendship? What are some ways to do this? What actions would signal that you’re NOT open to friendship?  
- Why is it a good thing to invite someone to get together with you, even if they say no, they can’t because they’re busy? (Hint: What message do you give the other kid with your invitation?)


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Ep. 55 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: How saying no can save a friendship.
Blaire feels bad about saying no to friends. How can she think about things differently?
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Would YOUR KID like to be featured on the podcast? SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTIC at https://DrFriendtastic.com/submit. (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it’s not for emergency situations.)
For an easy-to-read TRANSCRIPT, go to: https://DrFriendtastic.com/podcast/
Like the podcast? Check out my books and webinars at https://EileenKennedyMoore.com.
Subscribe to my NEWSLETTER, https://DrFriendtastic.substack.com, to get podcast episodes sent to your email plus posts for parents.
*** DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:
- Think of a time you had to say no to a friend. What happened? How hard or easy was it for you to say no? How did your friend react? 
- Why is it important to say no to friends sometimes? How can saying no help a friendship? How can NOT saying no sometimes hurt a friendship? 
- Why do you think kids are sometimes nervous or uncomfortable about saying no to a friend? 
- What could you say if a friend is disappointed or annoyed when you say no? 
- When is it okay to say yes to a friend, even if it’s not exactly what you want?


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Ep. 54 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Showing up for friends the way they want.
Dimitri wants to what he can do to support a friend who is dealing with hard times.
Scroll down for discussion questions.
Would YOUR KID like to be featured on the podcast? SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTIC at https://DrFriendtastic.com/submit. (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it’s not for emergency situations.)
For an easy-to-read TRANSCRIPT, go to: https://DrFriendtastic.com/podcast/
Like the podcast? Check out my books and webinars at https://EileenKennedyMoore.com.
Subscribe to my NEWSLETTER, https://DrFriendtastic.substack.com, to get podcast episodes sent to your email plus posts for parents.
*** DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:
- Think of a hard time you’ve been through. What kind of support from friends did you find helpful (or not helpful) during that time?
- How could giving advice hurt a friendship?
- What does Dr. Friendtastic mean when she says that your friend knows best what kind of support they need?
- Why might listening be a good way to support a friend who is going through a hard time? 
- What could you do to support a friend who doesn’t feel like talking about their problems?


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