Life Lessons with Indie Wrytes Indie Wrytes

In this episode we take a look at what expectations really are and look for the answers to the question, "do expectations ruin relationships?"

I hear and read so much about how expectations ruin relationships. When I first read and heard this, I thought that it was very misleading and more harmful to our happiness within relationships. So, I decided to really look into what expectations really are and after reading, I thought to myself, is it expectations alone that ruin relationships or is it unhealthy, unfair, & unrealistic expectations that destroy and ravage relationships? This is where standards come in. Setting a foundation for what we know we need and desire in relationships. Our standards become guides that lead us to what we want and what we don't want.

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In this episode we talk about the influence of LOVE & FREEDOM!

There are so many things that we build hope and fidelity in. This includes people, relationships, careers, even our own bodies and abilities, but today we’re going to focus on people and relationships. We make space for people out of need, desire, connection, companionship, attraction, and compatibility, right? We spend time getting to know people and we trust, we place our reliance on and in them and move with the presumption they’re being honest about who they say they are and what they say they want and how they say they feel. That's a huge risk, but we take it anyway! Why??

Because, it is our human nature to desire love; to give it and to receive it. Let's get into it with this lesson!

In this episode we discuss The Journey Back To Ourselves. Where does it start? WHY does it start? How do we recognize when we’ve lost ourselves? What are the indicators? One night I was journaling about some experiences that I was going through and attempting to understand and conceptualize the feelings I was having, which lead to me ask myself all of the aforementioned questions. I, then, went on to write down eight questions that opened so many things up for me and I'm sharing those things with you in this lesson. Have your notebook and your pen ready. You'll need to write these down to ask yourself!

In this episode, we discuss intimacy. What is intimacy? Do you create intimacy, do you invite it, or does it naturally happen through connection? What does it mean? How does it look? How does it feel? What are the initiators of true intimacy? What is false intimacy and what are the signs of false intimacy?



Intimacy is one of the most overused, while being simultaneously misused, words in the world right now. We think intimacy means sex, we’ve deduced and reduced it to something explicitly physical and sexual when intimacy, in its most euphoric form, is not limited to the physical at all. If anything, it causes the physical and sexual side of itself to manifest in a much more gratifying, sensual, and passionate way. There is so much pleasure in TRUE intimacy, right? But, have you ever experienced the betrayal of false intimacy?



We're going to talk about both the beauty and the beast of both in this episode.

Welcome to Season 4 of the Life Lessons Podcast! We're starting this season off where everything starts: CHOICE! And, in order to make a choice, you first have to have a made-up mind.



So many of US don't realize we don't make choices with CONSCIOUS INTENTION! Our choices are often made out of desperation and short term relief. Question: how often have you made choices without even processing the picture that you would like to see the choice develop? When you're taking a picture, you pose based on what you want to see reflected back after the moment is gone and the picture is taken. You choose your expression, your background, your garb based on what you want to be translated from your mind and the moment to the picture, right? We have to start using this same principle when it comes to life choices. First thinking and considering what we want see when we "look back at it." Then, only placing ourselves in positions and around things that yield the best outcome or sketch what we foresaw in our minds. Making sure the outcomes match the desires!



Making choices that feed your passions, not your phobias.



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We all have experiences in life, some good some challenging, however we don't have to allow those experiences to dictate what we expect and the results we receive. It may have gone this way last time the experience happened, but that doesn't mean it HAS to go the same way when it comes back around. In this episode, I speak about the lessons I have learned in marriage, divorce, and primary parenting and the importance of  finding those lessons in the things we experience and then being adamant about changing our fate.