Raising Mothers of Teens Ashley Kahn

I could not be more excited to share with you special guests Joe and Mell Hashey.  Joe is a former high school teacher and business owner and Mell is a former social worker turned stay at home mom of three.  In 2020 the Hashey family was turned upside down!  As a result, they ended up changing EVERYTHING!
Together Joe and Mell chose to use their experiences to help others and started what is known today as Strong Family Co.  Strong Family Co. was built around a 7 element framework that helps families establish vales and stress free family leadership.
In this episode we dive into one of those 7 pillars, "Confidence Building and Goal Setting Systems.“ 
Episode Resources:
Book:  The Power Of Moments
Link: https://a.co/d/7HNkzKn
 
Connect with Joe and Mel Hashey:
Website: www.strongfamilyproject.com
Instagram: @officialstrongfamilyco
Facebook: Strong Family Co
Facebook: Strong Family Life
 

Have you ever reacted and then thought to yourself, “Dang I owe my teen an apology!”
Ya me to!  If you are anything like the “old me” I used to apologize because it's what you’re “supposed to do!”  Even though I would always apologize, I was always puzzled why the relationship with my children still seemed fractured.
In this episode I am going to share with you the two things you can do to ensure your apology repairs and heals the parent child relationship!

Entering the teen years is like walking into unknown territory! 
When faced with unknowns, naturally conscious and unconscious fears arise within us. 
Whenever fear rears its head you can expect control to show up!  We think, by controlling a situation or person we can get rid of the fear of unknowns.   Ultimately our need to control is one of the many faces of the ego that shows up as a way to protect us.  One of the big things the ego in the form of control protects us from is feeling like we failed as a parent.
In this episode I am going to share with you three things you can implement as you enter unknown territory of the teen years that will take fear and control out of the driver seat and put peace and connection in its place.  These three things will invite you to “Let Go and Lean In” so the parent teen relationship becomes deeply connected!

Do you ever think to yourself...
“I feel so overwhelmed and cannot get anything done!’
“My todo list is never-ending and I just feel like I can’t keep up.”
“I don’t even know where to start!”
It’s almost as if your daily schedule is running you and your left feeling like a chicken running round with its head cut off!
If this is you, then I am glad you are here!  In this episode I will share “How to Run Your Schedule So Your Schedule Doesn’t Run You!” You will walk away from this episode with the tools you'll need to create a schedule that creates a life filled with more connection, free time, peace, clarity and fun!
Resources:
FREE Download: https://www.ashleykahn.co/run-your-schedule Book: “The Power Of Habit” by Charles Duhigg

Have you ever done something and thought to yourself, “Oh my gosh, I'm so my mom right now?”
This happens because, things are CAUGHT not TAUGHT.  By consistently being in the presence or same environment as someone, you will naturally pick up on their patterns, habits and ways of doing things.
When patterns, habits and ways of doing things are repeated so often they become ingrained and an unconscious pattern or habit.  This means you end up doing the same things without even thinking about it!
The same is true when it comes to the parent-child relationship!  The parent’s inner voice becomes the outer voice to the child.
The way the parent talks to themselves when they make mistakes, have a bad day, feel anxious or stressed, is unconsciously the way they will talk to their teen when they also have a bad day, are anxious, stressed, or make a mistake. 
The expectations a parent has for themselves will also be the unconscious expectations they place on their teen. 
You may be thinking, “How can I change that?” 
In this episode I will share with you three things that you can implement today to start nurturing yourself and CHANGING the way that you talk to yourself and ultimately your teen.

I feel like the teen years should be called the “massive change” years!  From physical changes, brain changes, hormone changes, relationship changes, you name it…it’s safe to say EVERYTHING CHANGES in the teen years!
When we become parents, it can be hard to recall what it felt like to be a teenager and just how difficult it was at times to navigate that season of life.  It is also easy to forget how physically and emotionally drained you often felt.
In this episode I am getting vulnerable and authentic as I personally reflect on my own teen years, recollect the two core feelings I felt, and discover the 3 unmet needs attached to them.
Grab your coffee and come hang out with me and very special guest Mansi Maitri Parikh a fellow Conscious Parent Coach with a background in Communications and Psychology!  In this episode Mansi and I share how you can shift your parenting to allow more awareness, mindfulness and consciousness creating the ultimate environment for your teen to thrive through this season of massive change.
Connect with Mansi Maitri Parikh:
Instagram: @coachingandcompassion
Website: www.coachingandcompassion.com
 
Additional Resources:
All quotes referenced in this episode are from the book Hold On to Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld Ph.D. and Gabor Mate, M.D.