Trailblazing Parenting Genius Parenting

My son doesn't say too many words. Nor do many other kids with autism. It is a struggle in daily life. It is also a struggle when it seems to impede a parents ability to help the child. This is my story and how we are working with what seems to be a limitation. 

It's hard not to miss everything and everyone telling us that we are not enough. It's everywhere, but we also add to it. It is beneficial if we can take a step back and really define what we want. What success is and make sure it is something we can control. Also consider how you act after beating yourself up versus being nice to yourself. Chances are you are more aligned with your goals when you are nice to yourself.

In this episode Gina shares a confession. She got off the happy authentic parenting wagon this spring. It wasn't fun. She felt guilty. Tired. And worn out. She shares how she worked her way back. How she will probably need to work her way back again and again, because we are all human. Once you complete coming back also don't forget to forgive yourself, love yourself and learn from what happened. Our existence is not one of pure happiness, but of experience and one that includes lots of learning opportunities.

In this episode Gina shares experience of something that triggered her in parenting for a long time. She tried counseling, mindfulness, gratitude journals, regular exercise- you name it. However, it wasn't until months later that she connected the two. The event that was triggering her in parenting was a core belief. One she had had since childhood. It was after recognizing how deep this belief was and taking the time to work through it that the trigger seemed almost disappear. This episode is about self discovery. It is about what we make events in our life mean and how they can affect us for years after. If you have something in your life that is constantly triggering you perhaps listen and see if you can have discover anything for yourself as well. 

Have you ever had a bad day and the universe proved you right? Did you know that the bad day probably started in your head?

As humans we like to focus on the negative. It's easy and it's everywhere. But perhaps the negative appears everywhere because that is what we focus on.

Have you ever tried focusing on the positive? Instead of telling yourself it is going to be a bad day, try telling yourself you are going to rock this day? Try it and see if the universe proves you right on that one. 

In this episode Gina shares a recent experience where she was very much human for a day. She told herself she was going to have a bad day and proved herself right. 

Do you think you can? Or do you think you cannot? Last week we talked in general about words and the pain they might relate to others. This week we want to take it to another level and consider what your words mean to you. Are they inspiring action? Or are they inspiring grief and inaction? Just as you may have the thought about completing or failing at a difficult task, you have these same types of thoughts every day. You might feel like a failure at parenting. You might feel exhausted. You might feel like a bad mom. The thing is that when we think these thoughts... we often live them. For example thinking you are a bad mom and then two seconds later yelling at your kids. This versus thinking you are doing the best you can and concentrating on what you love about your kids then acting on that instead of yelling. Let's start making your thoughts work for you.